2nd Thread: friend wants to move in for a 'few months'

[islandhoppin]

As continued from my previous thread.

Shamelessly placemaking

Good lord she’s going from bad to worse! Lucky escape op

Maybe all the families at Kabul Airport will do a whip round for her if she publicises her traumatic plight on Twitter?

Imagine having to live in a house you co-own in a safe Weatern democracy. Really puts things in perspective.

Confused

Horrible woman op hope youre sister blocks her aswell

All the best op

Jesus. Well in a way I think this FB rant has hopefully helped set your mind to stay strong and shown you that she is insane to believe she's right and that such behaviour will change your mind x

I'm wondering if you should contact the police about this since she is intimidating and harassing you and posting awful stuff about you online.

Does she really think that, by posting about you on FB, you would change your mind and agree to her staying with you? - of course not. they both know that there is no coming back from this, they are no longer friends in any way.

This is now about bullying, causing as much pain, anger and confusion as possible before (hopefully) flouncing.

Forewarned, OP. Anything further, go to the police.

Well all this has shown you her true colours, your life will be better off without her in it.

I thought no I'd talk to the police. She's actually threatening you

Hope you’re okay. Can’t quite believe that this has turned from a friend asking a friend for putting her up (and I’m still on your side for refusing this request), to stalking and harassment.

Thank you everyone, yes I'm okay thank you all for asking.
So far no further contact thank goodness!

Glad to hear you're OK. Let her have her toddler tantrum - hopefully it's making it easier on you, as you now have no doubts at all about taking her in.

Agree with PPs, it sounds like she's in need of some kind of help because this kind of reaction is not normal. And anyone who uses someone's MH issues as a stick to beat them with is despicable.

As tempting as it is dont get involved in a war of words on social media!

So sorry you are going through this op.

@notanothertakeaway

A PP suggested that you haven't explained the reason for saying No, and that's why CF is still asking

I completely disagree

(1) you don't have to give a reason

(2) if you explain, she'll have an answer to every obstacle

Don't engage

Except she did give a reason, she clearly told the CF it's a no because of her MH and because of the dogs. The CF just didn't want to hear the reasons

At least she's got the message.
Crazy that she even though you could or would bank roll her but some people are like that.
I actually think you might be able to unpick some of your poor MH without having her in your life.

@Lockdownbear

At least she's got the message. Crazy that she even though you could or would bank roll her but some people are like that. I actually think you might be able to unpick some of your poor MH without having her in your life.

It’s amazing how much your well-being improves after going NC with a CF!

Glad to hear you’re doing fine, OP.

Please give your permission for your sister to post something like “there are always two sides to a story”

@Kiduknot Suggesting that the ex-friend has any reason whatsoever?

As someone else has mentioned - I would also not be surprised if OP's MH takes a significant upturn without this person in her life. You often don't realise the weight and stress if a burden until it's been removed.

All good wishes to you @islandhoppin x

@Kiduknot

Please give your permission for your sister to post something like “there are always two sides to a story”

That would be a good response.

Anyone with any sense will twig there is another side to the story. Let them come looking for it.

Op hope you are doing OK.
I still can't believe the cheek of this friend.

Who knows if she has got into financial trouble or just trying to make a buck. Either way you know if she'd moved in it would have ended up years rather than months and your own relationship would likely have paid the price.

Stay strong.

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