2nd Thread: friend wants to move in for a 'few months'

[islandhoppin]

As continued from my previous thread.

Please let your sister know what's happening as it's unfair she should be in distress due to the actions of this woman.

I think that your immediate family need to be put in the picture. She may start on them.

Surely her writing what she has about you is libel?

Blimey. People are going to be thinking a lot of bad things about her for that post. It's incredibly awful about mental health troubles for a start as well as being downright nasty.

Saying no to someone trying to take you for a ride is frankly the sign of really good mental health and strong boundaries.

I think you need to tell your sister and any mutual friends/family what she’s asked you to do.

Do you think your friend is having some kind of mental breakdown, her behaviour sounds so bizarre and over the top. Perhaps her behaviour is why she is not able to stay in the house she owns with her relative? Not your problem though, but I'm sure the people she is bad mouthing you to on social media are aware that you are not the person she is making you out to be. If you are worried though, post a link to this thread for everyone to see how she has been behaving.

Thank goodness you didn't let her move in with you - who knows what havoc she would have caused.

No point in your sister responding on that FB post, even if you do tell her what's happening (which you really should). This madwoman will simply delete it and then start slagging off your sister and your family too.

Give your sister a brief account, and if she wants to let others know, fine. But not on FB. Preferably only face to face with others, as anything sent digitally can be forwarded to the mad woman

Just want to say, yes please, please let your family know exactly what has happened.

Screenshot the FB post.
Take it with the messages and voicemails to the police and advise you are being harassed.

She will be made to take it down and receive a warning.

When someone starts publicly involving others in their views about you it is time to take action.

Please tell your sister what's happened,. She's in the dark and worried, so she needs to know.

This awful OP. Well done for avoiding hosting the CF. Pat on the back!

If this CF had been what you considered to me be your best friend, I presume she had figured in your wedding plans, possibly even as bridesmaid

Please confirm that she is no longer invited

@islandhoppin

I've blocked her so she couldn't tag me in it but has written my full name so everybody knows it's about me. My poor sister is really upset by it having not been told what's going on.

If this is on FB, you report it and your sister reports it. FB may shut her down for it as they should!

@islandhoppin

I really don't want to put my sister in that position, she doesn't know what's happened and she's really upset as it is 😞

Just tell your sister you don’t want her to stay with you and she’s refusing to take no for a answer . How she can bad mouth you on SM for that is cf . Honestly the way she’s reacted is not normal you say no and usually any reasonable person would leave it at that but it’s the fact she won’t leave it . What does she expect you to change your mind or is it now that’s she wants to bad mouth you to anyone who listens ? Very childish.

Yes I've just explained all to my sister

@islandhoppin

I had a screenshot from social media sent to me by my sister, she's been calling me a bad friend, a C* and wrote about my MH all over her social media saying she didn't realise it was an excuse not to help a friend in need.

Does she really think that, by posting about you on FB, you would change your mind and agree to her staying with you?

Tell your sister, OP. It's more worrying for her not knowing what it's all about. She'll be imagining all sorts of things.

Sorry you are going through this. X. Does she really think you would let her stay now anyway

I'm glad your coping so well Op, she knows you quite well and is obviously trying to go for your weak spots. It's particularly mean of your so called friend to mention your MH difficulties. Frankly at this point any trouble she gets in is all her own fault so please don't feel any guilt about speaking to the Police about her, you need to protect yourself and bring this harrassment to a close asap.

Anyone sides with her maybe they can offer their own spare rooms for the next few months, after all it would be cunty not to

OMG she is a complete nutter. Lost it completely!!!!

@TempName01

Anyone sides with her maybe they can offer their own spare rooms for the next few months, after all it would be cunty not to

That's probably why she's turned to tantruming on SM. In the hope that someone will take her in. I really hope they don't.

@islandhoppin

Yes I've just explained all to my sister

What did she say?

What replies were on the ‘friend’s’ rant?

@islandhoppin

A few people have commended saying 'surely this isn't actually about **?!' (As in surely the status isn't actually about me.)

Surely this is becoming libellous? I don’t know enough about it though. I’d be contacting the police about a restraining order and maybe even seeking legal advice.

Have any of your mutual friends tried to contact you yet Op to ask what’s going on? I’d love to know what ‘spin’ your CF friend has given them about her request for staying with you rent free for the next 6+months!