2nd Thread: friend wants to move in for a 'few months'

[islandhoppin]

As continued from my previous thread.

Wow she's a piece of work... all because you won't allow her to move into your home and live food and rent free....

Everyone will see right through her... She's not a friend in an 'Hour of Need' she is trying to Freeload at You and your DP's expense..

Shameful is what she is...

@islandhoppin

I had a screenshot from social media sent to me by my sister, she's been calling me a bad friend, a C* and wrote about my MH all over her social media saying she didn't realise it was an excuse not to help a friend in need.

I know you've blocked her already, but there's no coming back from this! What a horrible person 😞

I agree, don't respond to her social media posts. She's shown her true colours

Agree that you should absolutely not react on social media to anything she's written about you - just stay away and keep a dignified silence.

That way I'm pretty sure she'll make herself look awful to everyone reading her posts.

It must have been so upsetting for you and your sister to see those horrible things being written about you but at least everyone who sees it will realise how completely unreasonable she is being.

I was about to say this is harassment now. She actually sounds deranged and I am sorry for all the upset she is causing you.

It's okay. Strangely I feel like I've kind of had to grow a thick skin overnight. It hasn't got to me like I thought it would. My sister on the other hand is beside herself. 🥺😔

@islandhoppin

It's okay. Strangely I feel like I've kind of had to grow a thick skin overnight. It hasn't got to me like I thought it would. My sister on the other hand is beside herself. 🥺😔

I really like the saying, "If you lend someone £100 and they walk away, it was money well spent." This is similar, in that seeing her true colours has been a bit of an eye-opener and it must be a relief not to have to deal with her ever again.

@islandhoppin

I had a screenshot from social media sent to me by my sister, she's been calling me a bad friend, a C* and wrote about my MH all over her social media saying she didn't realise it was an excuse not to help a friend in need.

Wooooahhh!!! I hope this is the absolute end of your ‘friendship’! What a nasty piece of work she is!

She actually sounds deranged
She does. I am actually slightly worried for her.

The social media thing will show you who your real friends are. And might bring people out of the woodwork to say they knew she was a loon already but had thought they were the only one.

A few people have commended saying 'surely this isn't actually about ?!' (As in surely the status isn't actually about me.)

This is the real her. God, imagine having this person LIVING WITH YOU. The entitled piece of shit.
Who does she think she is? Is your sister friends with her on social media?

Yes my sister is friends with her on socials

Her reaction is extraordinary really - not in any way normal. I wonder if anyone’s ever actually said “no” to her before? It definitely seems to have triggered something.

Can you get your sister to comment on it?

I really don't want to put my sister in that position, she doesn't know what's happened and she's really upset as it is 😞

think someone needs to tell her its not cruel/mean/cunty to tell someone they can't live with you rent free for a few months. >.

@islandhoppin

I've blocked her so she couldn't tag me in it but has written my full name so everybody knows it's about me. My poor sister is really upset by it having not been told what's going on.

I’m glad you’ve grown a thicker skin OP, her behaviour is awful but each thing she does only goes to show you’re doing the right thing. As for her SM audience, I bet people are drawing far more conclusions about her than you @islandhoppin. If I read that kind of post on social media, name calling and talking about someone’s mental health I’d be focussing on the character of the person posting. Her audience might be largely silent and probably already has her number. That said, you could get someone to report her posts and profile as it should be removed.

Does your sister know the full story now?

You need to be honest with our Sister...

it's a short simple situation.. despite her owning her own property outright with her cousin.. she is now selling and She wanted to move in for a few months.. Rent Free... Food Free... Freeloading.. and you said No. This is Her reaction to that action.

You need to tell your sister...

Can you report the post - unblock report reblock if need be. That is hassle you don't need.

Clearly you have dodged a bullet. Well done!

Yes report the post and her profile or get someone else to do it for you, but your dignified silence on SM and in real life will speak volumes and leave her to hang herself with her own rope.

If you can, try to resist the temptation to get sucked in and engage with any of the SM stuff. It’s just going to fan the flames. As others have said, retain a dignified silence and step away from the drama.

I'm also betting her Boyfriend doesn't have the brass neck to contact your Fiance to beg for Freeloading on he behalf... he probably knows she's a brass neck too...

Batshit. Can your sister at least report the posts (if this is possible for what's being said?). Honestly OP, people will know she's unhinged and being unreasonable. Your main job is to look after yourself and your MH.