2nd Thread: friend wants to move in for a 'few months'

[islandhoppin]

As continued from my previous thread.

This septuagenarian granny has sharpened her knitting needles.....

Good for you.

Stay strong OP.

Not sure if it's been mentioned already but I'd hang on to the voicemails if you haven't already deleted them.

@Iwantamarshmallowman

I have a close family member who displays exactly this behaviour. Unfortunately its a fairly regular occurence. I've never gone to the police becuase i don't want to get them into trouble. I think the message you just sent was spot on but don't be surprised if it gets worse. Don't engage any further and get DP to listen to any further voicemails. Hopefully she will give up eventually.

They are getting themselves into trouble or else need help.

I think the last message you sent was perfect. Hopefully it will make her see sense and realise how deranged she has been acting.
I’d also echo what others have said - make sure you keep all the emails/texts/voicemails. (And I hope your DH has seen it all too).

We've tried to get help countless times, unfortunately they are very manipulative and good at playing the victim card.

Yes I've screenshot the texts and got the voicemails too

Wow can’t believe she said she was coming to find you? She is clearly in a strange frame of mind, her behaviour is not normal. what did she think would happen I wonder, she would confront you at the station and all would be forgiven and forgotten? So sorry she is putting you through this!

The message you sent sounds great and to the point so hopefully that will finally make her realise how crazy she has been and she will leave you alone!

Have you heard anything from any of your mutual friends OP ?

has she started bad mouthing you to anyone yet .. ? this will be her next move..

glad you're keeping all this aggressive texts and voicemails..

I had a screenshot from social media sent to me by my sister, she's been calling me a bad friend, a C* and wrote about my MH all over her social media saying she didn't realise it was an excuse not to help a friend in need.

@islandhoppin that's a good thing. She's now just outed herself on social media to everyone for being a CF, a shit friend and someone who uses peoples MH issues against them. With any luck people will comment telling her what a dickhead she is.

@Mountainpika

This septuagenarian granny has sharpened her knitting needles.....

And this octogenarian her walking stick....

for you OP

Sounds like she’s having some sort of breakdown tbh.

@islandhoppin

I had a screenshot from social media sent to me by my sister, she's been calling me a bad friend, a C* and wrote about my MH all over her social media saying she didn't realise it was an excuse not to help a friend in need.

How embarrassing for her. Sounds like she needs to seek help herself.

[quote teaandcrumpets35]@islandhoppin that's a good thing. She's now just outed herself on social media to everyone for being a CF, a shit friend and someone who uses peoples MH issues against them. With any luck people will comment telling her what a dickhead she is. [/quote]
Has she blocked you on social media?

Has she named you in her rants?

What the hell have people replied to her comments?

If she's written all that, then I'd be tempted to spell out exactly what has happened.

She has boasted about being mortgage free yet wants to move in with you and live rent free. And appears to be having a tantrum at being told No!

I've blocked her so she couldn't tag me in it but has written my full name so everybody knows it's about me.
My poor sister is really upset by it having not been told what's going on.

Get a little camera for looking out your front window or a ring doorbell. In case she comes around.

@thegreywoman

We'll see her off! We're formidable. She'll be no match for us. Turn tail and run and vanish over the horizon for ever.

She's in melt down mode. Suspect she's now going to have a whole lot of people taking steps back from her slowly whilst smiling and nodding.

Don't get sucked into an online debate or justification, it will only give it oxygen. You're real friends will reach out to you to check you're OK.

She's very clearly lied about her situation and there is a much bigger issue being played out here or she wouldn't be so desperate and unhinged. Consider it a lucky escape.

@islandhoppin Keep the screenshot of the SM comments - she's really shooting herself in the foot.
What does she do? For a job?

She's in melt down mode. Suspect she's now going to have a whole lot of people taking steps back from her slowly whilst smiling and nodding.

Agreed. All of her FB friends now know exactly what happens when you say no to crazy.

“ Don't get sucked into an online debate or justification, it will only give it oxygen. You're real friends will reach out to you to check you're OK. ”

Yes, agree with the above. I was afraid this might happen (smearing the victim is part of the script with these kind of folk) and of course it’s horrible for you, but it’s important that you step away from the drama. Google ‘grey rock’, it’s a useful tool for dealing with overly dramatic and raging CFs.

You’re doing well, stay strong. X

Agree with pp Op - grey rock is all she deserves. Stay strong.