2nd Thread: friend wants to move in for a 'few months'

[islandhoppin]

As continued from my previous thread.

Have your partner call hers and say no, and ask her to stop or you’ll file a harassment claim.

This is nuts! She is nuts! Completely unhinged. Imagine showing up for an ambush on your friend

This gets stranger and stranger. Has she asked you for massive favours like this before OP?

Get your DP to call her from your phone.

This is harrassment.

@torchh

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I googled this the other day. Blocked numbers can still leave voicemails. I think the only way around it is to disable voicemail.

@AffableApple

Yep, she wanted to "offer" you a lift and to convince you once you were in the car that you now owed her some rent-free accommodation. She's a fruitcake!

Probably got a packed suitcase in the boot.

Reminds me of an ex. Absolutely convinced that all he had to do was keep turning up with all his stuff in his car and demanding to move in because he had 'nowhere else to go' (having made himself intentionally homeless) and I'd eventually cave in and effectively/legally give him my home. It didn't end well for him.

oh wow OP! she is not your friend! she is showing her true colours here

does she actually think after all this you would actually WANT to live with her?!! god no

she has issues, stay well clear, phone 101 and log it if needby shes harassing you!

[quote MyneAllMyne]**@CarpeVitam; @justamomentplease; @torchh - if you think the OP is a troll just report instead of being snidey.[/quote]
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I appreciate that you don't like confrontation OP. But I really think she needs a clear message instead of this avoiding the issue/her. I am probably a feistier personality than you (and I'm older so my tolerance level for the sort of bullshit has probably been eroded over time!) but I do not understand why you just don't tell her to fuck right off. Rudely.

Seriously, she's no friend. She's been rude and abusive. Unblock her, let her ring you again or turn up at your door and when she does just say FUCK OFF! DO NOT CONTACT ME AGAIN YOU CRAZY BITCH. Then block and ignore. She'll be so shocked she'll probably leave you alone

Why would she come to the station instead of your house?

Have we established whether CF was actually in her car at the time?

She can hardly think you're going to be housemates now, after this behaviour! So she reckons if her dp persuaded your dp then it would all be fine and she's just move in? She can't just force herself and dogs and boyfriend on you, just turn up with her suitcases etc. She sounds really odd.

You've grown out of this friendship, that's for sure. You don't have to stay friends with people just because you've known them since school!

[quote ButtonMoonLoon]If you Google your mobile phone operating system there are ways of blocking a number from being able to leave you a voicemail.

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According to that link from Apple if you block a number then it routes it directly to voicemail without ringing but you won't know there is a voicemail. That hasn't been my experience, it does route directly to voicemail but then I immediately get a message to stay that there is a voicemail for me.

And using a withheld number would allow a voicemail to be left anyway

What an awful experience for you

@islandhoppin

So I got off the train at my stop, through the station etc and I can see her car is parked at the end of the car park. I can't see if she's in it. I'm staying out here inside the station and asking DP to collect me from here. I usually get the bus the rest of the journey but I don't want to risk it ☹️ why is she doing this!

She’s batshit crazy!

What were the other messages? Did your DP listen to them?

Gosh how awful for you OP, I hope you have a quiet night tonight with no drama, I don't think she's ever been told no in her life, she sounds like she's used to getting her own way and railroads people in to doing what she wants and then gets aggressive when she's told no..what a horrid woman.

Just awful! What a cow! I hope your DO can step in, this is harassment

@OneAugustNight

Why would she come to the station instead of your house?

Because OP DP might be at the house to support OP in saying "no"? Catch OP in a public place hoping she will go along with whatever nutty thing this woman wants, to avoid a scene in front of people.

God this is nuts!! Phone off tonight and early night and plenty of sleep x

@27OneAugustNight

Why would she come to the station instead of your house?
To catch the op on her own and wear her down.

I think if you disable your voicemail she shouldn't be able to leave any more messages. Neither will anyone else but that's not the end of the world.
I'm sorry she is being such a cunt OP. As if you'd let her stay now after this behaviour. She is deluded. Stay strong.

@islandhoppin

I've just listened to the first of the two messages she's left me. No tears.

Shouting.

She's shouting down the phone on a voicemail to me, about how unfair I am. How I'm a s* friend, I don't deserve her, she's going to speak to her BF to get him to talk my DP round.

I don't want to listen to the other one. I feel deflated, and numb.

She's a complete cow. Bloody hell.