2nd Thread: friend wants to move in for a 'few months'

[islandhoppin]

As continued from my previous thread.

How can she leave a voicemail of you blocked the number?

She's unhinged!

She was so convinced you'd love having her/her dog/her BF living with you rent free that your refusal has sent her into a mega meltdown, like a robot about to explode because it can't compute. Wow, I'd question her grip on reality and she's dangerously entitled.

There must be more to her situation than she's letting on if she's backed herself into a corner, banked on your generosity, no plan B. Tough shit. You have done the right thing and good for your DP backing you up. That friendship is over.

@Turtletotem @BoredZelda
stop using common sense, it ruins the drama

She knew my schedule as we'd spoken about my important meeting today, a week or so ago.
I don't know how she can voicemail me, but she's managing it!

Various people have said that on some devices, blocking a number sends calls straight to voicemail so I assume that’s what is happening.

I’d be telling her that her behaviour right now has cemented your decision to not allow her to live in your house. YOUR house. Not hers.

stop using common sense, it ruins the drama

Shit, sorry @YesIReallyDoLikeRootBeer.

(But I really do wonder how that can happen)

Now shes gone to batshit territory

you might have to warn her to leave you alone now or maybe your dp can do it

@islandhoppin

I haven't been friends with her for years and years and years, But probably since year 6 at high school.. I'm 24 now so maybe a good 10+ years? Either way, I never expected this from her. She's shown her true colours a few times before when she's been angry etc and said awful things, but this is a new level.

With hindsight a few red flags there

My phone's the same op, if I block a number it goes straight to voicemail.
I wonder how long she'll wait in the carpark!!?

@islandhoppin

She knew my schedule as we'd spoken about my important meeting today, a week or so ago. I don't know how she can voicemail me, but she's managing it!

She'll be using a withheld number ...

you need to keep all those messages.. to prove harassment. She is putting you in a state of fear. 🌸

Surely she will get bored and give up eventually though? Doesn’t she have places she needs to be?! My DH had an issue with someone like this effectively stalking him a few years ago and the stalker gave up after about a week - we never saw him again after that... I guess if it goes on for longer than a few days maybe speak to the police and see what they say?

[quote FangsForTheMemory]@friendlycat The OP didn't dare leave the station because this woman's car was there and had to call her partner and you think it's 'silly' to suggest she talk to the police? Do you always minimise other people's problems like this?[/quote]
I agree. The woman is in harassment territory. OP has only to say the behaviour is causing her alarm and distress.

She really is used to you doing as your told by her isn't she.
You have just been a nice friend, but now she is going beyond normal.
She really thought you were going to just let her live for free at yours for the honour of her company,, WOW

“The decision is entirely ours to make, so I don’t appreciate being argued with and pressurised. As I have explained, we don’t want someone living with us. Your reaction to being told no is only confirming that our decision is the right one.” Send. Block. Never speak to again.

@CarpeVitam; @justamomentplease; @torchh - if you think the OP is a troll just report instead of being snidey.

@torchh

She'll be using a withheld number ...

Yes! Of course. Makes sense

that cant be the answer. how would she know it was the crazy friend that left the message before listening to it if it was a withheld number?

[quote MyneAllMyne]**@CarpeVitam; @justamomentplease; @torchh - if you think the OP is a troll just report instead of being snidey.[/quote]
I wasn't troll hunting. I knew she'd appear at the station though!

I can completely see why people think that this is a joke etc! I'm afraid it isn't.

If you Google your mobile phone operating system there are ways of blocking a number from being able to leave you a voicemail.

innov8tiv.com/how-to-block-a-number-from-leaving-you-a-voicemail-in-android-guide/

appletoolbox.com/ios-can-a-blocked-number-leave-a-voicemail/

@Turtletotem

How would she know your work schedule and that you'd be at the train station? Could she just have left her car there and also have gone on the train? I also doubt she's paid off her mortgage sounds like she's struggling with something.

Ref the mortgage, OPP said: She was gifted a fairly large sum which she put against her mortgage, so she doesn't have long left at all.