Is it normal for adult to nap every afternoon?

[Menomeany]

First time poster here...please tell me AIBU.
DH takes himself off for a nap every afternoon...he works from home (but NOT self-employed) and has lots of what I call 'downtime', as opposed to my job which is flippin full on for every second I am there. Sometimes he'll nap for 30 mins, but can be up to 2 hours. If we go out for a day, he will nap in car on way home (he does not drive so I'm always the one doing the driving) On weekends activities are limited due to his need for a nap. Jobs that need doing don't get done. AIBU to feel this is such a waste of a life to sleep it away like this? He is not even 50 yet...what does the future hold?

Could his need for naps be due to depression? I know that when I’m severely depressed, and not on medication, then I am like Rip Van Winkle and I simply cannot get enough sleep. Whole swathes of my life have been governed by an absolute physical need to sleep. I only work two days a week because of this issue. On the other hand, if I am actually on any psych meds to sort out the depression, then the pills make me sleep for England too! It sucks big-time. I hate spending half of my life asleep, but it seems to be how it is for me. The Doctors say that I seem to be very susceptible to any drowsiness caused by medication - something that most people on anti-depressants don’t suffer from...Four months ago I had yet another blood test to find out why I was so tired - all the fricking time. Most of the time, the blood tests comes back clear. But this time, it turns out that I was severely deficient in vitamin D. Since taking supplements, I have been very noticeably much less tired and I only have one nap a week vs five naps a week. Result!

I’m surprised so many people nap and like it! I feel really rubbish if I nap in the day and v rarely do. Typically I’d have to be ill or have slept v badly. I would have said he should see a doc but, after reading the replies, sounds like it may be the norm!

The OP has said that he suffers from sleep apnoea @ParvaAvis. This is a pretty serious complaint.

DH has severe sleep apnoea. If he didn't use a CPAP machine he wouldn't be allowed to drive.

And now that I’ve read everything…. Yep he HAS a serious health condition that he needs help and support with.

Someone who is so shattered will struggle to be assertive enough to get what he needs. That’s where you can step in and support him. Including with relating the exact REAL effects it has on his life. The naps and whatever else is going on (libido, struggling to concentrate etc….)

Sorry read rest of thread. Sleep
Apnoea explains a lot

Apologies, first time poster and I'm trying to work out how to use MN. He has always done this for the 20 years I've known him, before sleep apnoea occurred. His dad does it too but he's nearly 80.

I am a daytime napper but spent a lot of my life sleeping in two halves (at sea with DH on watches) DH found daytime napping hard but I didn't. The downside is that I have always been a bad sleeper at night, both a lark and an owl. On days when i can't do it because of what is going on then, I don't do it, but if I can't, for say a week, I will end up falling asleep where I sit. I worked part time when i worked, so could afternoon nap a couple of times a week plus weekends. If the OP's partner is getting LOADS of sleep then I'd be concerned but if his hours total a normal amount, it may just be what he is like?

Is he french? Most french dads I know tend to take a siesta after lunch whenever they get the chance 🙄 while their wives / partners carry on looking after the children. Go to any park or beach in France around 3pm in a sunny afternoon and you’ll see all these blokes snoozing under trees / on blankets, while mum / gran runaround after the kids.

You don't wake up one day with severe sleep apnoea. It's very possible he's been suffering for years before it got this bad.

If he's got OSA, he isn't napping. Mainly because he isn't sleeping much at night - he physically can't stay awake any longer.

If I’m not at work, and am my at home, I will often nap in the afternoon. Always have done all my adult life.

Siesta? It must be normal for some people.

What is his weight in stones? Get it down to 10 and a half stone and I bet he stops napping.

I am an excessively early riser (anytime between 4 and 6am) I organise my work day to have nap too, where possible.

Sometimes I am travelling so I can't, though I will try and get a 10 min snooze at services.

Like your husband I am Senior, have a lot of work and meetings, but organsie my own diary. I could be working at 5am. Or 9pm.

My work gets done. I attend all my meetings. I am getting the roof done, starting tomorrow. I may work from the office so I can nap in the 'relaxation room'. Which I have done before

I do think with his sleep problems, this is something he probably needs to do. Rather than a luxury.

Some people need to nap, others dont. Others would be better for a nap but cant.
Im rubbish at sleeping and I get a lot of fatigue. If I could nap some days, I bet id have a better quality of life.
DP takes a nap quite often, although doesnt always get a chance in the afternoon, but then has an evening one. His dad takes a sieste and so did his grandad, every afternoon without fail.
I expect it depends on your own circadian rythyms. I dont think theres anything wrong with it

I nap most days for at least an hour. I go to bed at a reasonable time and wake at a reasonable time. I love to nap!

@Menomeany

Apologies, first time poster and I'm trying to work out how to use MN. He has always done this for the 20 years I've known him, before sleep apnoea occurred. His dad does it too but he's nearly 80.

The thing is he could have had it for a long time. What made him seek diagnosis? I think people are different but that much need for sleep makes me think his quality of sleep is really bad. So to answer your question. It's not particularly normal or common to need that much extra sleep.

But he not 'normal' (for want of a better phrase) he's got a serious health condition. It does also sound like he's slacking in his contribution but I'm not surprised if he's that knackered.

It’s the new cancel the cheque.

He isn’t choosing to nap, or French, or lazy. OP says he’s got diagnosed sleep apnoea.

Op - if his Dad does this too is it possible he has the same condition?

My DH will have a nap if not working at some point in the day. I find it annoying tbh. I only have a nap if I have been sleep deprived for a few days.

I wish to god my body would permit naps. As it is, six hours a night is my max.

I wish people would read the OP's updates. He has sleep apnoea. He isn't French or spanish, we don't have hot weather requiring a siesta, he just isn't getting good quality sleep at night.

And Xenia is right. If he is overweight, losing weight almost always helps in this instance.

I'm well aware he has sleep apnoea. I read it thanks

I was replying to the young healthy women who need a daily nap even in the car at work.

No lawyers, doctors and nurses there then where we don't get a lunch break many days let alone sleep an hour in the car.

Is he overweight/obese and/or diabetic? A friend of mine is obese and T2 and can nod off anywhere afaik is not diagnosed with OSA but I think these things are linked?

Whats your husbands diet & weight like?
There could be many factors as to why he's napping every day.
Probably a good idea to get him to the doctors, get a blood test.