To buy the same item as a close friend?

[lucyli]

Firstly I apologise that this is the epitome of a first world problem. I acknowledge I am fortunate to have this problem and that there are many bigger things to worry about.

I have decided to make a high-end purchase from a well-known brand. I've never done this before but am at the stage in my life where I would like to do so.

I spend a long while researching, chose what I wanted and planned to head to the shops in a few days.

Was just chatting to a close friend and it turns out she has the exact same item and is annoyed that I'd buy the same and said she'd rather I didn't. I wasn't aware of this before.

I struggle to understand this mentality as it's not something that would concern me at all the other way around.

Her argument is that she didn't spend all that money, just to have someone close to her have the exact same item.

AIBU to buy it anyway? I was so pleased with the idea of having it and was excited to buy it.

I’m pretty sure there is more than one nice handbag on offer these days. I would find it very odd if a close friend bought the same on purpose.

Loads of people have the LV neverfull bag. Your friend is BU. I’m sure if she walks down the street with it she’ll see at least 5 other people with one. If you want it, buy it! Also If you want something nicer and more rare look at COACH New York. I stalk their website and bags. I have 2 that I love and wear all the time!

Your friend is a brat. Go back to your research (enjoying it all over again - this is the best bit!) and get one nicer - then tell her that you fell out of love with the LV because it was everywhere

You do you, but this is so much better, in every way, IMHO:
www.mulberry.com/gb/shop/women/bags/millie-tote-oak-legacy-nvt

I have this bag and love it. I use it for work and travel. I notice lots of people with the same bag as me so it’s quite a common bag tbh. Ignore your friend; she’s being ridiculous especially given the fact that many other people have the exact same bag.
On a side note, the LV speedy 35 is a good size bag if you wanted to still have the LV monogram but a different bag.

When ever I got together with a certain set of friends we all used to “dump” our Mulberry Bayswater’s together and call it the crèche. We all had one.

www.cartier.com/en-gb/must-de-cartier-tote-bag_cod343549805672112.html?gclid=Cj0KCQjwsZKJBhC0ARIsAJ96n3VE7UB073IkS5Pkl06Su2W9lanQN2j7OENg9LvlQqcwLM8Gu65LWZ0aAhsEEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds&mid=558j327430 this is a nice posh one

The LV never full is so common she is being a touch silly but tbh I get it. It would irritate me too, particularly as she had it first and has told you. There are lots of similar designer bags that are also nice. Pick something different but equally lovely.

Assuming you're both adults this really shouldn't be an issue at all.. who cares if you have the same bag? Surely this is something that is likely to happen all the time with close friends who like similar things 🤷‍♀️ Unless it's a customised/unique/personalised item then loads of people will have it anyways 🤷‍♀️

Would it have occurred to you to buy it if you didn’t know she was going to buy it. Was it independent thought or did it suddenly become desirable when she mentioned she wanted to buy one?

Buy the bigger one!
I have an LV Neverfull and it is very common, love it. Fits everything in and can hold a small child.
Just buy it.

Loving that Cartier one!

All this angst about a flippin' bag

DON'T buy the same bag as your friend.
Bag or friend?
Which would you rather have...

Gosh the cartier one is gorgeous. Quite fancy that!

Jesus Christ what's wrong with people!! If it's not a one off piece then there are other people in the world that have it, get over yourself. Just buy the damn handbag! What possible reason does anyone have to genuinely be upset by this shit?? I get not wanting wanting upset your friend, but doesn't sound like she has the same scruples - is she really your friend if she doesn't support you buying something you really want, even if she incidentally already owns? Is she 15?!
My bestie bought an amazing pram, so I got the same one. Then two of our friends also followed suit! When we go out it's hilarious, we try to plan matching headbands too 🤣

Buy what you like, OP. Your friend is being a little nuts about this.

But do look at Elvis & Kresse - it's what I'd buy if I was going to drop £££ on a bag.

www.elvisandkresse.com/collections/womens-bags

Buy what you want.

But I’m baffled that it’s seen as a “stage” in life to spunk a lot of money on a handbag.

It’s really not a stage.

@Sundaymorningfiveninteen

When ever I got together with a certain set of friends we all used to “dump” our Mulberry Bayswater’s together and call it the crèche. We all had one.

This is hilarious! And a great attitude from everyone.

Just buy it, your money your choice

Is she going to say the same about everything you buy

@NinDS

Ah just seen it’s a handbag. Personally, I would look for another one that’s more expensive lol!

This is what I would do! She doesn’t sound like much of a close friend to be annoyed by something so trivial.

I have the neverfull it’s common as heck and only use it if I go away for the weekend. I’d get a mulberry Bayswater instead if I was you I love mine and use it much more than my LV

When ever I got together with a certain set of friends we all used to “dump” our Mulberry Bayswater’s together

You move in different circles to me

Laughing at all the ads for bags popping up now By the way you really don't have to apologise it's a first world problem. Can't believe how many people here would be pissed off like your friend or who think you should placate her!!!! By the way you sound lovely OP!

I recently caught up with friends and one friend had the same bag as me.

Hers was real, mine was a genuine fake.

We just compared them and ended up ordering one for another friend who was also there. The fake not the real one.

If I had something my friend wanted to buy I wouldn't care! Why would you.