To think my mum should have invited her grandchildren to her meal....

[MyLifeNow20]

My mum turned 60 2 weeks ago. She has invited a small group of family for a meal at 1.30pm tomorrow in a resturant. £ of my aunties, my mum, me and my 21 and 19yr old sisters (well step).
I asked if my girls were invited 18, 14 and 6 and she said not really and thought my eldest would have to babysit my yongest for the day.
I told my 6yr old earlier that she would have to stay with her sister tomorrow because I am going out with nanny and she didnt understand why she couldnt come too.
AIBU to think my girls should have been invited?

She wants it to be an adults thing, and s views your children as children.

posted too soon! I mean, 19 isn't a child, and 16 technically isn't but in realiry still very much is. 6 year old a very young child. She couldn't very well invite just your oldest, could she?

There’s no other grandchildren going?

Child free meal out sounds just the ticket for a 60th.

I really think lots of people overestimate how much time grandparents want to spend with young grandchildren. They're hard work.

Let her enjoy her day and stop being so entitled.

It’s a bit of a shame that your 18 year old didn’t get an invite as there will be a 19 year old there, but I can very much see why she wouldn’t have invited your 6 year old to an adult lunch. Small kids have a way of making it all about them, which is ok in a lot of settings, but maybe that’s not what your mum wanted for her birthday lunch.

The 14 year old is a bit of a grey area, some are completely capable of making polite adult conversation and being really pleasant. Some are moody, grumpy teens, who will just stare at their phones and grunt replies. Without knowing which type your 14 year old is, it’s hard to say whether it’s a shame she wasn’t invited or not.

At the end of the day it’s your mums birthday and she can invite or not invite whoever she likes.

Just got home and had a lovely child free day! Was very relaxing!

Not your party so you don't get any input. When you are older, and have had hundreds of meals out planned around young children, you may appreciate her position more easily.

I'm glad you had a lovely time. Had you forgotten how relaxing a meal out without children can be?

@MyLifeNow20

Just got home and had a lovely child free day! Was very relaxing!

Ha! I'm glad.

Never understood why people think kids need to be invited everywhere. It is nice to have kid free time sometimes. If you don’t want it don’t go of course but your mums birthday and she got to decide who she wanted there and the kind of lunch she wanted, sounds like a lovely time which you could enjoy without worrying about your 6 year old. I’d not have told her she wasn’t invited just that it’s a lunch for grandma and you’ll do something with her another time.