Spellings of names driving me insane

[SimplyAmy1]

So, I was wondering if it’s just me…..

If your name is able to be spelt more than one way, for example Abi, would it annoy you if people spelt it Abby or Abbie even if you’ve signed me off an email/ text etc with the correct spelling?

So my name is Amy and it drives me crazy when people spell my name ‘Aimee’ or ‘Amey’
Once at work, I had a name badge on and the customers kept calling me a-my because of my name was ‘Amy’ it would be spelt a-me!

Another thing to add in, does/would it annoy you if you had a name that can be shortened eg- Abigail to Abi and people automatically started calling you abi even though you prefer and introduce yourself
and Abigail and vice versa?

Aibu or just easily annoyed 😂

I don’t get what your saying about the customers calling you Amy.

But as someone with a name with a few different spellings I have learnt to just let it go if someone spells it slightly wrong.

Have you been on a baby name thread recently? The trend does seem to be towards a unique spelling and or unique pronunciation.

@Sirzy the customers were pronouncing it directly as it’s spelt so A and then ‘My’ rather than how it’s meant to be said, I thought amy was a pretty easy name for people to say 😆

It annoys me - mostly happens with my surname. But my DD is called Amy, and I am constantly amazed at how many imaginative spellings people can come up with!

I think what annoys me is parents who spell their child’s name with an alternative spelling to be different.

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Jorja
Sofie
Aimee
Maree

Eh it’s part of life, I’ve got bigger things to get worked up about.

@tilder I’ve stopped looking at baby name threads- I’m due in 2 months and have no idea what to call them yet! My ocd needs to take my name spelling dramas into account 😂

I always make sure I check how someone has signed off an email before responding in same and if they haven’t signed off I use their full name. It’s not difficult at all.

I don’t have a name that can be spelled wrong but my daughter is a Phoebe and the amount of misspellings we get, even from family when she’s 8 years old does my head in. She laughs it off though and just says they’ve spelt my name … that’s not how it’s spelt!

Saying A- My is bonkers

In an email - absolutely no excuse and it annoys me so much because my name can't even really be spelt differently..even if would. It's very simple "oh there is the name at top and the bottom, fucking look at it"

Pronouncing a name slightly wrong can be excused. Some are difficult to get right first.or sounds aren't familiar

Then. Some people are just idiots

As long as its similar, I wouldn't be bothered. I'm Megan and get Meghan or a number of other spellings at times. I'd be annoyed if someone wrote it as Margaret or Molly or Reagan

Where I lived in England the regional accent would’ve turned A-me into a very slight A-my with the extra vowel at the end. Perhaps the customer came from such a region. Or were they from a non-English speaking country? It did my head in at school to learn that the ‘my’ in the word my, and the name Amy were pronounced differently, for no apparent reason.

Re shortenings and spellings yes, you should use the one people introduce themselves as, or sign off as. Especially in an email, it’s right there in front of your face for you to copy and paste see. An exception could be if the person was dyslexic and it’s the one and only email exchange you’re having with them. I have severely dyslexic friends who still manage to spell my name correctly because they put the effort in.

Yep. It annoys me. I find it strangest when they reply to an email where I clearly spelt my name Katy and they call me Katie.

Mine is also a shortening for Katherine (which is spelt randomly).

My children have really really easy to spell names. Which can’t be shortened.

@BikeRunSki i love your choice of name for your DD 😜

@GorgonzolaSouffle yessss I agree! But even then- if my name Was Georgia and it was spelt jorja, if still expect people to spell it jorja if I’d sent them an email or something

It's annoying,l for me too, but I've come to understand that people have lots of things to remember and names aren't materially important in the grand scheme of things. (Only culturally important)

@LonstantonSpiceMuseum

It's annoying,l for me too, but I've come to understand that people have lots of things to remember and names aren't materially important in the grand scheme of things. (Only culturally important)

Names are actually important. I couldn't open a bank account because some idiot misspelled my name on my utility bill.

I have a name with two spellings, mine is the slightly less usual one. I don’t mind if people who don’t know how I spell it get it wrong, these things happen, and I understand the assumption.

But when it’s in a reply to an email, which has my full name in my address plus my sign off, I consider it careless. And if it’s someone who should know by now, such as family, then I find it rude. Someone in DP’s family always gets it wrong, but she has a child with the less common spelling of a popular name, and gets in a tizzy when others misspell the baby’s name. That’s just double standards.

I don’t let it affect how I deal with people, but there are certainly times when I (silently) judge them.

My name can't be shortened and it's impossible to misspell. I like that it takes the pressure off other people.

I got whinged at for assuming Eleanor was Eleanor - it was Ellena, I'd never seen it written down. Also a colleague's wife asked me not to call her husband Dave, because she didn't like it to be shortened... but everyone in the office called him Dave and he never complained!

Nobody likes to get other people's names wrong, but it's going to happen with most names at some point. Just point out the error and hope they remember.

@EileenGC I’m from England too and I think I know the accent you’re on about as I read your message I said it with an accent 😂
We were both from the same area but if they had a different accent I’d understand but it’s then the fact that they proceeded to tell me my name is spelt wrong 😑

Don’t get wound up about the small things in life. Look at it this way why should people know automatically how to spell your name if there are a few different acceptable ways of spelling it? It’s a bit annoying in emails if they have spelled it incorrectly but it’s not something to get annoyed at. Just roll with it and choose more important things to get wound up over.

I have a first name and surname that are commonly written in different ways. It doesn't bother me in the slightest when people get them wrong. It really doesn't make any difference to anything.

@KatyN my parents called me amy so my name couldn’t be shortened. People still call me aim, or aimz or address me by my certain name (within friendship groups) which has also evolved to be shortened and then I’ve been given a nickname of little mills 🤷🏻‍♀️ one of my colleagues calls me amo pronounced like a-mow which I don’t mind either.

Then they called my sister Abigail but she only likes abi. If someone calls her Abigail (other than a very elderly relative) she will literally not respond to them 🤷🏻‍♀️

@GorgonzolaSouffle

I think what annoys me is parents who spell their child’s name with an alternative spelling to be different.

🙄🙄🙄

Jorja
Sofie
Aimee
Maree

Some of those are standard spellings in other languages, e.g. Sofia is the standard spelling in many languages and so Sofie is the logical diminutive and surely everyone knows Aimée is the French spelling of Amy. Jorja on the other hand is an abomination.

However, the OP is correct and it is rude to not make the effort to pronounce and spell someone's name correctly. And shortening soneone's name without their permission is really irritating.

I don’t mind if nobody’s seen my name written down but I have a very similar name to Katy/Katie and people reply with it spelled wrongly! I don’t get that at all. I go by (for example) Katy on Facebook and people will still post “hi Katie”. Baffles me.

Don’t get me started on surnames. Mine is foreign, and to be fair, written down, it looks very alien. However, I’ve had people look at it and tell me they’re going to even try to pronounce it. Rude.

After many decades of this, I now pull up anyone saying it. Plus the UK has millions of people with ‘non-traditional’ surnames, surely as a matter of basic respect, we should make an effort to get someone’s name right, whether in writing or speech.