To think DP should get up with his kids?

[Julianne82xoxo]

Reporting to you live from bed!

DP hates mornings. Hates them. Would happily stay in bed all morning if he could and is very grumpy for about half an hour to an hour after getting up most days. We have agreed to disagree on whether or not this is reasonable.

He has three kids from a previous relationship who are 5,7 and 8. They are here longer than the usual arrangement over the holidays and are staying for for ten days on this occasion. He is on holiday from work and I am still working. They are up and awake and have made themselves cereal. Currently playing and knocking/coming into the room clearly bored and looking for us to get up.

Yesterday I had my second jab and was feeling quite unwell last night so my manager told me not to rush into work today. I am now awake, bit groggy but generally in the position that I feel I need to get up for work, but know I will be bombarded with questions and all sorts from the kids who want company.

I think DP should get up, even though he hates mornings, so I can get ready and go to work without tripping over the kids. His argument would be that I can just ignore them if I want to, and that they're perfectly happy and able to entertain themselves until he's ready to get up. Who is being unreasonable?

We all hate early mornings don't we? I do, I still get up to look after my children and drink coffee and feel more human.

They're his children, he's off work, you're working and he's in bed?!

I'd loose the plot.

isn't the point of their stay for them to spend time with their father? As someone who would LOVE to be a grumpy morning person, yes he can help it. If it takes him time to get going, he needs to get up earlier not later so he can get his getting going time without inconveniencing you!
I bet if his employer wanted him in early, he wouldn't say "I am not a morning person"
Jeez give his lazy arse a good kick.

I wouldn't tolerate that. We are up early doors every day of the summer holidays - plenty time to sleep when you're dead 🤣

Peace and quiet tomorrow though - schools are back here. Get the bunting out!🎉

I can't belive people think these kids are too young to play alone? Do you all keep your kids in the same room with you at all times??

I know. Negligent parent whose kids are all grown up now reporting for duty.

I’m not saying these kids are too young to play alone. But they’re not alone. There is another adult in the house who is getting up and they are then bothering. Because they don’t want to be alone. He knows that and shouldn’t be putting
A) the OP in the situation that she repeatedly has to tell the children to leave her alone (how will that impact their relationship?)
B) put his children in the situation that one adult is basically not that engaged while the parent they’re meant to be holidaying with is in bed and they daren’t disturb him because he’s ‘not a morning person.’

Not one parent I know has the same ‘holidays’ they had pre children. My pre children beach holidays and post children beach holidays are a very different kettle of fish. Do I enjoy my children hols as much as child free hols? No! They’re amazing in a very different way, but compared to lie ins, lazing on a lounger, beach clubs, late nights etc etc, they’re incomparable.

My DC are old enough that I could sleep in all morning and probably leave them a few hours in the evening to go out drinking. So what? Doesn’t mean that’s what I do when on holiday with them!

Yes, it's noteworthy that the objections here aren't about the kids playing alone per se. They've evidently been unsupervised for a while before 9am, long enough to have breakfast and a play, and virtually nobody has objected to that part. It's their father's refusal to get up after they have played unsupervised and while they're trying to get adult input.

@Blossomtoes

I can't belive people think these kids are too young to play alone? Do you all keep your kids in the same room with you at all times??

I know. Negligent parent whose kids are all grown up now reporting for duty.

Playing alone/together with an awake parent somewhere in the house is quite different to being up for several hours unsupervised whilst a parent sleeps the morning away though . .

Would they know what to do if one of them choked on their breakfast? Or injured themselves?

Also it just sounds a little sad to be honest, they probably want him to get up and play with them.

Please don't have children with him

9.00am counts as a lie in in our house, it’s hardly unreasonable to expect a parent to be up and doing things with his kids at that time - it’s hardly the crack of dawn.