AIBU to think DD isn't fully dressed in leggings & a t-shirt?

[shesellsseacats]

When I ask DD (nearly 9) to get dressed she often comes down in just leggings and a t-shirt, tucked in.

She looks undressed to me.

A t-shirt and leggings are fine for sport, or bed, or for toddlers IMO. Or a long tshirt over leggings is fine too.

But she likes to wear her T-shirt tucked in (which looks lumpy!) She just looks like she forgot to finish getting dressed like that, AIBU?

And AIBU to ask her to put another layer over the leggings? e.g. a skirt or pinafore dress or shorts?

I know it's only a small thing in the scheme of things and I'm inclined to let her get her way if we're just going to the park for a play or something. But I'm curious how others see it?

She is fully dressed, you just don’t like her outfit. I mean you said it is fine for sport, so why not for the park?

I actually think your suggestion of shorts with leggings would look a bit daft. If it’s warm enough for shorts wear shorts and a t-shirt. Putting them over leggings would look a bit mismatched to me, unless it was a specific sports look, like when people wear sports leggings with those very thin rustly shorts on top.

liveforsummer

who cares if you are one of those people wearing those leggings. You think you look good, that's all that matter.

This is what my dd9 wears, I don't see that the problem is ?!

I’m working at a kids holiday club. We like it when kids come in leggings and a t-shirt. Practical for running around, crawling under the parachute, easy to get off for swimming, washable.

Shorts and t-shirt also very acceptable. White, flouncy party dress not so much.

Parker231

why do you despair?
Why do you take it personally if not everybody think you have a complete outfit and wear a suitable outfit when you have leggings and short top?

And why do you stick to the word "indecent" when I also used the example of ski jacket 😂

My last comment had reminded me, in the early 90s, my friends and I used to like to wear combat trousers and army boots, but our trousers low slung and our thongs peeking out the top

We thought it looked great I bet people my age disapproved and wondered if we'd just not got dressed properly

I despair of the 1950’s view on clothing.

All the pictures posted look fine to me. Everyone looks “dressed”, if not dressy. Putting shorts or a dress on top looks silly. The only ones I might look a bit askance about- but even those are fine in small children - are the ones you think are OK — the patterned leggings and top. They look like pyjamas to me.

My 11 year old lives in that combo. I did tell her to put slightly bigger leggings on to go out the other day as I thought they were a bit too tight, but there's absolutely nothing wrong with it usually.

I completely agree with you, I see short t-shirts with leggings and think how odd it looks. The second pictures you posted, of the long t-shirt/tunic, looks really nice.

@Parker231

I despair of the 1950’s view on clothing.

You despair a lot.

The thing about a T-shirt over leggings is that it's normally worn on the outside, so you're not looking at bum etc in close detail. Wearing it tucked in could look a bit pervy to the wrong eyes.

depends on leggings. Tshirt tucked in? Looks awful. Ok around home though.

My own style choice doesn’t make it the ‘correct’ style choice.

This

Your DD is probably in school uniform most of the time and when she’s not, she should be able to wear leggings and a t-shirt.

This is a learning opportunity for you OP because as she gets older and embraces all kinds of fashion, you will look back at her t-shirt tucked in leggings phase very fondly.

God forbid women and girls should dress for comfort!

I don't see what is wrong with leggings and a tshirt.

Practical and comfortable.

What I find interesting is that on one side, leggings instead of trousers and short tops are absolutely fine however unflattering they might be
(and don't start the debate about wearing knickers under them... it gets grim)

but on the next thread, posters will fall over themselves to explain how a little girl cannot possibly wear a dress without shorts underneath.

@isthisareverse - thankfully Mn isn’t representative of rl.

Exactly as clothes are being shown to be worn atm. The first example is cycle shorts obviously but same idea as leggings. Dc will naturally want to wear it as they see it presented.

@FrankButchersDickieBow

Pick. Your. Battles.

This.

More to the point, if it pisses you off, change her room around and make it work better.

She's probably putting leggings/t-shirts on because she CBA.

So put the clothes in those drawers that you consider OK.

Swap leggings for the joggers or swap the t-shirts for ones that cover her bum.

Or just pick out her outfit and tell her to get dressed into that.

It's a lot of responsibility to expect an eight year old to have the fashion awareness an adult does. She sees leggings as trousers and t-shirts as a top, as you'd expect her to.

@lunar1

God forbid women and girls should dress for comfort!

It's doesn't have to be one or the other. You can wear appropriate, flattering AND comfortable clothes, and shoes.

How is a shorter tshirt more comfortable than a longer one exactly?

It's the idea that so many people stick with wearing uncomfortable clothes, underwear and shoes which is weird.

@lunar1

God forbid women and girls should dress for comfort!

Nah, it's not about that, not for me anyway. I'm all about dressing for comfort.

PJs are comfortable, and I wouldn't wear then to a restaurant. This is similar to that, for me at least.

[quote Parker231]@isthisareverse - thankfully Mn isn’t representative of rl.[/quote]
people having different opinion? Of course it is.

@Pottedpalm

It’s fine on children and slim adults who can carry that look, but not tight leggings on larger women unless worn with a longer top.

Wow. Policing what fat women can wear. Fat women must hide every inch of their fat for shame and embarrassment. DFOD.

PJs are comfortable, and I wouldn't wear then to a restaurant. This is similar to that, for me at least.

Pj's are intended to be worn in bed and in the home only. No one ever shows their pyjamas being worn to a restaurant when trying to sell them. Leggings are intended as outdoor wear and marketed as such. That's the big difference.