@Tohaveandtohold
That update broke my heart. You mean nothing to your son and DIL, they don’t care about your welfare at all.
Who on earth suggests that you look after a child all day and then go and work 6-10. Imagine that.
Tell one of them to go and work 6-10, alternating shift and look after the little darling they created.
I think your other children need to step in for you as well and speak sense to that pathetic son of yours.
It is shocking.
But her husband is quite happy for the OP to be worked to the bone.
His son didn't lick it off a stone!
Very sad but it is actually a lesson to all women.
The less you make of yourself, the more you put yourself out for people, often the less they think of you.
The DIL has been very firmly put in her place by her mother??.....has her mother the measure of her own daughter as an entitled madam, and told her under no circumstances to expect her to be available?
I certainly know of something similar where a woman had tried to impose massively on a neighbour to mind her new baby even though her neighbour, my lovely friend, had zero interest, but was feelibg huge pressure.
By pure good fortune she ran into her neighbours mother, who directly warned her not to be imposed upon as her daughter could be very forward/presumptuous!!
From her own mother.
That gave my ridiculously softhearted friend the mettle she needed to say a firm no.
Neither of her neighbours spoke to her again🙄.
Massive bullet dodged.