I have no teeth - dating.

[guywithnoteeth]

I'm in a LTR, due to a medical condition my teeth basically disintegrated by the time I hit 30 and I've worn dentures ever since. My partner and I had a small heated debate about my lack of teeth and she is of the opinion that over 90% of women would refuse to date a man (or woman) who wore dentures. I said that was a rather shallow opinion. I'm mid-40s, FWIW.

AIBU - A woman WOULDN'T date someone with dentures.
IANBU - A woman WOULD date someone with dentures.

IANBU. I would if I liked him, although rightly or wrongly I might be a bit put off if he had no teeth through just self neglect rather an a medical issue or an accident. Nobody gets through life without a few scrapes and scars.

Wouldnt botger me

She’s being unreasonable. Also very unkind, by the sound of it. Why does she want to convince you that most people would never date you because of a physical attribute.

If a woman posted this I’d suspect an abusive partner trying to trap her by making her think nobody else will want her. Does she often belittle you or try to make you feel bad about yourself?

It is not appealing, but a person is a total package.
Someone may have gleaming white nashers but be an arsehole.

Attractiveness is a whole combination of things- inside and out.

Why would your partner say something like that? What was the context of that conversation because it sounds like a mean thing to say.

I would date someone who wore dentures as long as I liked them and they were nice, hardworking, sensible, good-natured, the important things I seek in a partner.

I would struggle with that myself. But when did she find out? Did she think she could handle it but now can’t?

Who's she dating?
You? Or your teeth?
Stupid woman 🙄
Wouldn't bother me in the slightest to be honest.

This woman you're dating sounds very shallow, if she's not happy about your dentures, I'd be telling her to bugger off, and then focus on finding someone else who isn't so cruel and shallow.

I would struggle to date someone without teeth as nice teeth are something that I find attractive.

Sorry.

Oops sorry I forgot my vote... I'm in the IANBU camp 😄

In all honesty I would struggle, I think.

My DH wears dentures - mid 40s. If I just met him I honestly wouldn't be able to tell. Your partner sounds like a right cow - get rid and prove her wrong!

Husband has dentures, doesnt bother me but then i wouldt like to see him walking around without them

My late mother lost all her teeth in her early forties (not through any lack of care on her part, she was fastidious) and wore dentures thereafter. She'd been married for 20 years by that point and my father (a prize class prick in so many other respects) never said or did anything that wasn't supportive of her in that regard.

Whether your average bloke would be turned off by it had she been single, I can't say.

Does it matter anyway though - are you unhappy with your partner? Are you planning to split up with her and throw yourself back in the meat market? If not, she's just expressing an opinion about what she thinks the reality of a particular situation would be.

Surely she can't mean that a woman would prefer a toothless man over a man wearing dentures?

It wouldn't bother me from a looks point of view, how often would I see them without the dentures in anyway.
It would bother me that my potential future kids with them would inherit the teeth decaying condition. Sorry if that's a bit shallow.

I wouldn't date someone who didn't think people would date someone with dentures, if I had dentures.

I'd rather date. Man with dentures than a man with rotten teeth.
Your partner sounds shallow

I’d date someone with dentures.

It wouldn't bother me and I would date someone as they had done something about their lack of teeth as best they can.

A lot of the time you can't even tell when someone has dentures, much nicer than people that are missing teeth through self neglect etc and don't do anything to fix them

I think most people couldn’t even tell at first sight that you have dentures. If you would tell them later on and they’d run away because of that…it tells you everything you need to know about this person.

I would. I think it's quite rude of your partner to say that tbh.

Does she often belittle you or try to make you feel bad about yourself?

On occasions, yes.

I would struggle to date someone with dentures sorrry. I have problems with my teeth due to a medical condition so I know the hit to confidence it takes and would struggle dealing with someone else’s too.

I would struggle with that myself. But when did she find out? Did she think she could handle it but now can’t?

The condition was identified when I was 27, then I was toothless at 30. We'd been together seven years when I was diagnosed.

Also why is your partner saying such mean things to you?
Do they have a goal to make you feel insecure so they can make sure you stay in the relationship because of low self esteem?

Even if I had a partner who had dentures and I honestly thought what she has actually told you, I wouldn’t tell you the truth if you asked me if I thought people would find dentures a potential turn off in a future partner. I would tell you that someone who really likes you, wouldn’t mind. I can’t imagine saying such hurtful stuff other then to put you down.