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I have no teeth - dating.

161 replies

guywithnoteeth · 10/08/2021 16:24

I'm in a LTR, due to a medical condition my teeth basically disintegrated by the time I hit 30 and I've worn dentures ever since. My partner and I had a small heated debate about my lack of teeth and she is of the opinion that over 90% of women would refuse to date a man (or woman) who wore dentures. I said that was a rather shallow opinion. I'm mid-40s, FWIW.

AIBU - A woman WOULDN'T date someone with dentures.
IANBU - A woman WOULD date someone with dentures.

OP posts:
TatianaBis · 10/08/2021 17:50

If you have 30k spare you could buy a full mouth of titanium implants and bite her.

Tessabelle1 · 10/08/2021 17:51

Wouldn't bother me as long as they were clean, that goes for real teeth too. My husband's are wonky and misaligned, I don't care as he brushes them twice a day

Shehasadiamondinthesky · 10/08/2021 17:56

I'd rather date a guy with false teeth than blackened stumps like one of my girlfriends.
What I absolutely cannot bear though is people who go around without their teeth in, that is just awful.
I saw a woman in her 30's in town the other day with no teeth or dentures and it was incredibly off putting.

pineapplecat21 · 10/08/2021 17:56

@Polmuggle it's not really suitable for MNs to explain but I'm sure other denture users know exactly what I'm on about. 😂

pineapplecat21 · 10/08/2021 17:57

So she has issues? What other issues does she have? Have you told her your issue with her picking your confidence apart and making you feel shitty about yourself? Thanks

ArabellaScott · 10/08/2021 17:57

YANBU.

Tumbleweed101 · 10/08/2021 18:00

I probably wouldn't notice in the early stages of dating and by time I found out it would be at a point I knew them as a person. It wouldn't put me off then.

Polmuggle · 10/08/2021 18:00

[quote pineapplecat21]@Polmuggle it's not really suitable for MNs to explain but I'm sure other denture users know exactly what I'm on about. 😂[/quote]
I understand blow jobs (mumsnet isn't prudish) but your teeth aren't connected to your gag reflex?

Blossomtoes · 10/08/2021 18:02

@Tumbleweed101

I probably wouldn't notice in the early stages of dating and by time I found out it would be at a point I knew them as a person. It wouldn't put me off then.
You probably wouldn’t notice at all unless you were told.
ravenmum · 10/08/2021 18:02

So is your partner saying that you should be grateful to have her as no other woman would take you?
Just asking as that is a common line used by abusers.

My bf has a mouthful of missing or knackered teeth caused by smoking. They were like this when I first dated him - the first time I saw them I was taken aback for a moment, but I liked talking to him, so ...

Rocaille · 10/08/2021 18:02

I'd much rather date someone with a clean denture than dirty, crumbling teeth. Just don't leave them in a glass on the bathroom shelf!

AnnaMagnani · 10/08/2021 18:03
  1. Your DP is horrid - you lost them from a medical condition not lack of personal hygiene. And loads of people have bridges or implants.
  1. As a health professional I have met couples where one half was unaware that the other had dentures. So how would you know?
lannistunut · 10/08/2021 18:03

@Shehasadiamondinthesky

I'd rather date a guy with false teeth than blackened stumps like one of my girlfriends. What I absolutely cannot bear though is people who go around without their teeth in, that is just awful. I saw a woman in her 30's in town the other day with no teeth or dentures and it was incredibly off putting.
She may have an issue, it is important not to just judge. For things requiring reconstructive dentistry - people sometimes have periods unable to have dentures fitted whilst things settle down.

If someone is out and about without dentures at all, there must be some reason.

me4real · 10/08/2021 18:03

That's a really nasty thing of her to say @guywithnoteeth - the equivalent of 'not many other people would have you.' Angry

IANBU. With decent dentures someone wouldn't know anyway, unless you took them out in front of them. And even then someone you've been seeing long enough to feel comfortable doing that in front of is unlikely to/shouldn't mind.

I had a lover who had dentures, who sometimes when I'd been seeing him for a while would take them out to refix them after bed or sometimes a meal maybe. (his teeth were unattractive in their colour etc though, he probably could have done other stuff to improve them.) He said I was only the second person who'd seen them taken out and I appreciated that he felt close enough to me to do that.

My mum has dentures and you can't really tell, same goes for a fried of mine. Maybe more people II know have them- I'd have no way of knowing.

A decent person wouldn't care.

And of course you don't have to announce to anyone that you wear them.

Hillary17 · 10/08/2021 18:04

I’m in my 30s and due to similar issues am about to begin the process of having my teeth removed. Honestly if anyone cared about it I wouldn’t want to date them anyway! Husband has been super supportive about it, has no worries or concerns. Plan on getting implants down the line anyway so it won’t make any difference!

GoodnightGrandma · 10/08/2021 18:06

I don’t think I would, but I’ve never been put in that position.

SquirryTheSquirrel · 10/08/2021 18:07

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

whatsthestory123 · 10/08/2021 18:08

how would you know if somebody was wearing a partial denture,apart from the obvious taking out in your sight

can people really tell??

Downthewarren · 10/08/2021 18:10

My partner of 7 years has some medical issues that have completely ruined his teeth.
He'll be getting what's left of them removed at the end of the year and be getting full dentures. It doesn't impact how I feel about him, and I don't think it would if we were just getting together either.
I'd rather he had dentures and have some self confidence and be healthy, Rather than be absolutely miserable and be poorly as a result of his poor teeth!

diamondpony80 · 10/08/2021 18:10

It wouldn’t bother me.

Look at a pic of Katie Price’s real teeth - before she got the veneers on (like something out of a horror movie) and she still manages to get guys.

CoRhona · 10/08/2021 18:13

To all those saying implants are better than dentures, if your bone density isn't there you can't have implants.

And to those of you with no teeth issues you are so very, very lucky!

Whataboutye88 · 10/08/2021 18:13

I don’t think it would bother me, especially if it was caused by an underlying medical condition. I still have a couple of baby teeth (mid 30s) with no adult teeth underneath, and I’d be devastated if my husband felt differently about me when they inevitably fall out!

SirYawnsAlot · 10/08/2021 18:16

People pull their teeth out for vanity anyway and get implants, I think Katie Price has false teeth and she seems to do allright on the dating front.
I don't think there is as much of a stigma about it now.

TableFlowerss · 10/08/2021 18:18

The ironic thing is, many many people pay thousands upon thousands, to have their actually teeth filed down to stubs - then have false ones fitted…..

How’s it much different?

You can get dentures that don’t come out and that screw in to your gums permanently, so would be no different to having veneers.

Yes if you walk about with no teeth in, it’s not the most attractive look but who would do that? I assume most people keep their teeth in once they’re awake….

Waking about with files down stubs wouldn’t be much more attractive either…… yet that’s the ‘in’ thing to do.

Your partner sounds like a divvy!!!

HareHare · 10/08/2021 18:18

I dated a man who wears dentures he is the best person I know and so glad to have him in my life and I find him attractive. Its not an issue.