I have no teeth - dating.

[guywithnoteeth]

I'm in a LTR, due to a medical condition my teeth basically disintegrated by the time I hit 30 and I've worn dentures ever since. My partner and I had a small heated debate about my lack of teeth and she is of the opinion that over 90% of women would refuse to date a man (or woman) who wore dentures. I said that was a rather shallow opinion. I'm mid-40s, FWIW.

AIBU - A woman WOULDN'T date someone with dentures.
IANBU - A woman WOULD date someone with dentures.

Tbh wouldn't bother me.

@HalzTangz

I'd rather date. Man with dentures than a man with rotten teeth. Your partner sounds shallow

Same.

What made you ask, out of interest? Usually something specific seems to spark the decision to post on here.

I forgot that my husband has an implant too.
Our DS knocked him so hard on his teeth that one had to be taken out and it was replaced with an implant. I remember DH telling me that it was a pretty costly and painful procedure for just 1 teeth but the implant can be used in the future to replace more natural teeth, if necessary. I only thought: oh that’s convenient and it didn’t even cross my mind that it would make him less attractive.

@guywithnoteeth

Just wow, thanks for the massive confidence boost you're giving me

DP has a couple of - what she calls "my issues" - that she focuses from time to time. I thought it was par for the course, really. Beginning to realise it's actually not on.

She sounds like a knob.

It’s OK for anyone to find something unattractive. It’s not OK to berate you about it.

I only have my front teeth, lost most of my teeth during pregnancy, it does bother me what other people might think and I’m really conscious of my teeth (or lack of).

I would date someone with dentures, I would rather someone had dentures than bad rotting teeth (I have met many guys who do have bad teeth).

TBH, the older you get, the more you look at the overall package rather than just one trait.

When I was younger, I quite liked a good head of hair. Now I'm older - baldness doesn't bother me, as long as there's no naff comb-over.

Full dentures? Wouldn't be something I actively looked for, but it wouldn't be a dealbreaker, especially if it was due to a medical condition or an accident (i.e. out of that person's control).

I guess a lot of people end up with dentures in the end, so... it'll come for us all.

I think the right person accepts you for who you are. When something about a partner really irritates you, it's usually a sign that the love is fading. The question is, do you want to work at getting the spark back, or have your boundaries shifted?

@guywithnoteeth

I'm in a LTR, due to a medical condition my teeth basically disintegrated by the time I hit 30 and I've worn dentures ever since. My partner and I had a small heated debate about my lack of teeth and she is of the opinion that over 90% of women would refuse to date a man (or woman) who wore dentures. I said that was a rather shallow opinion. I'm mid-40s, FWIW.

AIBU - A woman WOULDN'T date someone with dentures.
IANBU - A woman WOULD date someone with dentures.

My partner has dentures and I still find him sexy as hell. It has nothing to do with the person he is. It doesn't change our makeout sessions. And I think no less of him because of it.

Some would, some wouldn't.

Anyonewho stayed long enough to hear your explanation would be able to take an informed stance. Those that didn't meh!

Given your updates she doesn't sound all that pleasant!

I'm quite shocked that there are people on here who say that they wouldn't date someone who has dentures. Are people really that shallow?

One of my friends has absolutely beautiful teeth which I've always envied. I was really surprised when she told me that none of them are real!

@pineapplecat21

I hope not I wear dentures and I'm only 30. 😂

Tbh I thought most men would like it.., we have no gag reflexes. 😂

That isn’t true by the way

She's horrible.

That said, I have upper dentures, no teeth at all there - various reasons - and it makes me very self-conscious. I worry that if I want to date again - been single for a while now - I might be judged and found wanting. The mad thing is I wouldn't judge anyone for having dentures but I do judge myself.

My mum had her teeth removed and dentures when she was 21 - ten years before she met my dad. In 64 years of marriage he never saw her without them, nor did anyone else. Nobody would ever have known they weren’t her own teeth.

YANBU
I don't like the way she's used this to have a go at you.
Why is she bringing it up at all? She knows why this happened. She knew you before and after the dentures. What exactly is her point?
Is she deliberately trying to make you feel insecure - ie. you need to stay with me because no one else is going to want you with your dentures? (Asking this because my ex liked to make comments to that effect about me and my appearance)

Loads of people have dentures of some description it's just it's not talked about.
The All-on-4 implants are big at the moment - for those who don't know, basically you get all teeth taken out and 4 implants placed in each jaw, a denture is then fixed in place - ie. a non-removable denture.
You can't tell people have them.

Most celebrity teeth are fake - implants, crowns, bridges - you name it.
And these celebrity teeth give others an unrealistic idea of what teeth should look like.

You do you - with your dentures. Better to have dentures than to be shallow and unkind like your partner seems to be.

@guywithnoteeth

Just wow, thanks for the massive confidence boost you're giving me

DP has a couple of - what she calls "my issues" - that she focuses from time to time. I thought it was par for the course, really. Beginning to realise it's actually not on.

Issues that you focus on in a relationship are things like a lack of communication, not supporting each other enough, troubles with the in-laws etc.

Issues that your partner should not focus on are dentures and other things that only have to do with ‘good looks’ and absolutely nothing with insufficient grooming habits or health, are superficial and can’t be helped.
If they do then it’s a massive red flag.

How sad! Rotten teeth would put me off. Dentures are fine.

I’d date I guy if I liked his personality, not his looks. You need to remind your girl that we are not all shallow, but I do understand that looks matter.

My DP has been wearing partial dentures since he knocked 4 teeth out at the age of 13. We have been together 18 years and the fact he has false teeth bothers me not 1 bit.

@pineapplecat21

I hope not I wear dentures and I'm only 30. 😂

Tbh I thought most men would like it.., we have no gag reflexes. 😂

What on earth have teeth got to do with a gag reflex?

Better to have dentures and fresh breath than rotting teeth that never visit a dentist. Decay smells disgusting as does poor oral hygiene .

@guywithnoteeth

I would struggle with that myself. But when did she find out? Did she think she could handle it but now can’t?

The condition was identified when I was 27, then I was toothless at 30. We'd been together seven years when I was diagnosed.

Sorry to hear this. Your partner is wrong! Do you know what caused this to happen? Sorry if to personal to ask xxx

Horrible thing for your partner to say!

IANBU

I've had dentures quite a few years.

I'd rather date someone with dentures than rotten stained teeth.

There has to be more to this as you've been together 7 years and are still LDR.
Is there a reason for that?

It wouldn't bother me personally. The right woman for you will accept you and your dentures. Maybe some people wouldn't go for it but who cares. Some people may have perfect teeth but maybe they just aren't attractive, have bad skin, big nose etc, overweight. It's not all just about fake teeth.