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To write a sarcy comment on this fb post?

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Sunshineandlollyfucks · 09/08/2021 19:22

I know I probably am bu Grin
But often people are so bloody entitled and it drives me mad.
DD goes to a popular nursery in the area which accepts both private paid and government funded children.
As it’s a lovely nursery there is often a waiting list for places and you do really need to apply within a reasonable timeframe to get a place for the term. For example, my DD started in a September and I applied in the May before that and was told she was one of the last children they were accepting.

Anyway - I’m on a Facebook page for the local area and this lady has posted asking what time the nursery opens as she has been trying to call and email them for three days to apply for her son with no reply. I’ve politely answered her post to inform her that they’re currently closed for the summer and that she would have done better to apply weeks ago when they were open as they are probably full for September by now anyway. I also said that she might find that there’s no space and they’ll put her son on the waiting list or request that he starts in the January term instead.

She’s commented back with a screenshot of their website post from April this year stating that they’re now taking applications for September 2021 with the caption “can you please just tell me what time they are open so I can take my son over there for admission”. I haven’t replied to it at all because I think it is downright rude however I’m very tempted to say something back.

I know It’s not a big deal but it’s just the entitledness of this lady. She would be taking her son over there to meet a locked gate and empty building Grin

Anyway, rant over

OP posts:
Dishwashersaurous · 09/08/2021 19:24

Just reply with.

As I said its term time only so no one will be there until September now.

Dishwashersaurous · 09/08/2021 19:24

And yes some people aren't receptive to reality

TheBestCandidateByFar · 09/08/2021 19:25

I would ignore.

Catawaul · 09/08/2021 19:25

Why are you gatekeeping nursery applications?

AfternoonToffee · 09/08/2021 19:26

Just say it is open 9 am on the 1st September (or whatever).

Biancadelrioisback · 09/08/2021 19:27

I'd just reply and say they are now closed and that post was from april so she will have to wait until September.
If she doesn't understand then just leave it

toothpicklover · 09/08/2021 19:27

Think your message was quite rude actually. Could have just said in September

NerrSnerr · 09/08/2021 19:27

I wouldn't have said about when she should have applied, it's up to her to apply or not. If you know when it's open again tell her, if not leave he to it.

FourTeaFallOut · 09/08/2021 19:27

I’ve politely answered her post to inform her that they’re currently closed for the summer and that she would have done better to apply weeks ago when they were open as they are probably full for September by now anyway. I also said that she might find that there’s no space and they’ll put her son on the waiting list or request that he starts in the January term instead.

I'd have just stopped at letting her know that they are closed for the summer. Everything else is superfluous and guesswork designed to let her know how badly she has screwed this up.

ashmts · 09/08/2021 19:28

You sound very smug. Maybe her other plans fell through and she's panicking. Maybe she's just a bit disorganised and doesn't realise it's competitive. I'd just ignore, you've already said they're closed.

AfternoonToffee · 09/08/2021 19:28

@Catawaul

Why are you gatekeeping nursery applications?
Well she isn't though, just advising that there is unlikely to be a place for September.
Notaroadrunner · 09/08/2021 19:28

You were probably best to just say they were closed for the summer. That's the only fact you know about them. They could have places available now for all you know.

HmmmmmmInteresting · 09/08/2021 19:29

What's it got to do with you? As a business they should be replying to enquiries whether they're open or not, surely.

FrancesFlute · 09/08/2021 19:30

Don't get drawn into it. It's not your business to and tbh you may come across a little patronising if you continue to be 'involved'.
Surely they have something on their website to say they're shut for summer? Or a prerecorded message on the answer machine?

SquirryTheSquirrel · 09/08/2021 19:30

Just ignore it. You don't work there but you tried to be helpful and she wasn't remotely grateful. Don't get into a lengthy to-and-fro with her.

Heartshapedrocks · 09/08/2021 19:31

How is she entitled? It sounds like she isn't familiar with the process, as many aren't. Why not reply a kind message saying they are closed for the summer so you're not sure if they will reply (although I suspect someone is responding to emails etc), but that unfortunately they tend to fill places quickly so might be worth looking elsewhere in the meantime. Or as its none of your business really just don't reply, you sound very smug.

Blossomandbee · 09/08/2021 19:31

I don't see how she's being entitled, all she wants is to enrol her child in a nursery in September. Not everyone will be aware that it's popular or that you need to get in early. They might have places anyway.
I would just give her the information she asked for, the rest is between her and the nursery.

IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves · 09/08/2021 19:32

Just tell her when they're open. You don't know whether there'll be places or not, not for sure. A space could have opened up. If not then she'll go on the waiting list.

FunMcCool · 09/08/2021 19:32

You’re the weird one here. They just asked for opening times, you don’t know they wanted to apply for September. You don’t own the nursery you just send your child there. Calm down.

Dishwashersaurous · 09/08/2021 19:33

Also lots of people move over the summer so she may not have been in a position to enrol any earlier.

m0therofdragons · 09/08/2021 19:33

They might have a cancellation and have space. When I booked twins into nursery Dd1 was already at I had to do it while I was 6 months pregnant to get a space for when they were 1 so booking the May before starting in September doesn’t make it that popular and you sound smug and unkind.

DrSbaitso · 09/08/2021 19:34

and that she would have done better to apply weeks ago when they were open as they are probably full for September by now anyway.

Well that was a bit patronising. If they're full or closed she'll find out soon enough. What's it to you?

DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 09/08/2021 19:34

You were rude and sounded pretty sanctimonious with your "you would have done better to apply weeks ago" tbh.

She wanted a simple question answered, not a lecture.

zigzag56445 · 09/08/2021 19:35

Id screenshot your previous reply about them being closed till Sept...

Lumpwoody · 09/08/2021 19:36

You do sound a bit patronising and smug. Sorry.