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To write a sarcy comment on this fb post?

226 replies

Sunshineandlollyfucks · 09/08/2021 19:22

I know I probably am bu Grin
But often people are so bloody entitled and it drives me mad.
DD goes to a popular nursery in the area which accepts both private paid and government funded children.
As it’s a lovely nursery there is often a waiting list for places and you do really need to apply within a reasonable timeframe to get a place for the term. For example, my DD started in a September and I applied in the May before that and was told she was one of the last children they were accepting.

Anyway - I’m on a Facebook page for the local area and this lady has posted asking what time the nursery opens as she has been trying to call and email them for three days to apply for her son with no reply. I’ve politely answered her post to inform her that they’re currently closed for the summer and that she would have done better to apply weeks ago when they were open as they are probably full for September by now anyway. I also said that she might find that there’s no space and they’ll put her son on the waiting list or request that he starts in the January term instead.

She’s commented back with a screenshot of their website post from April this year stating that they’re now taking applications for September 2021 with the caption “can you please just tell me what time they are open so I can take my son over there for admission”. I haven’t replied to it at all because I think it is downright rude however I’m very tempted to say something back.

I know It’s not a big deal but it’s just the entitledness of this lady. She would be taking her son over there to meet a locked gate and empty building Grin

Anyway, rant over

OP posts:
BlackberrySky · 09/08/2021 19:55

Some people are really disorganised about nursery and school applications. It isn't your problem though. As a PP said, you can't be annoyed if they still manage to get a place. A more helpful way of putting it might have been "They are closed until September now. As a current parent there, I know they often have a wait list though, so it might be an idea to have another option up your sleeve".

HmmmmmmInteresting · 09/08/2021 19:55

@HmmmmmmInteresting

What kind of popular or otherwise nursery is closed for summer anyway?!

What do working people do?Confused

Ah, it's some kind of school-attached thing?
Noshowwithoutpunch · 09/08/2021 19:55

"I'm on a Facebook page for the local area...".
I'll bet you are..Grin

MuddyStiletto · 09/08/2021 19:55

@LatteLoverLovesLattes

'As I have already explained to you, if you bothered to read my post, they are closed for the summer, so x date in September. You're welcome'
Don't write this You've come across as quite rude You only had to give her a simple answer, not your opinion of what she should have done
MrsTulipTattsyrup · 09/08/2021 19:57

The only rudeness I can see in your exchange came from you, OP. Unless you’re about to drip feed that you own the nursery or run their social media, then it’s not your place to have tried to tell her that her child won’t get a place there.

Dishwashersaurous · 09/08/2021 19:58

Lots and lots of preschool are term time only. It's really common and normal

Loubiemoo · 09/08/2021 19:58

Your reply wasn’t very nice and you come across as smug that your child has a place.

Just leave it now.

BlackberrySky · 09/08/2021 19:59

I also agree that you shouldn't write your proposed comment on the page. You might want to read another thread going on here at the moment about how ending a comment with "You're welcome" is perceived 😂🤣

Grenlei · 09/08/2021 19:59

I find it funny OP that you say you replied politely because your response doesn't seen polite to me!

HmmmmmmInteresting · 09/08/2021 19:59

@Dishwashersaurous

Lots and lots of preschool are term time only. It's really common and normal
Yes I acknowledged that. Thank you .
Antwerpen · 09/08/2021 19:59

You’re taking it far too personally OP, why?

MotionActivatedDog · 09/08/2021 20:00

Yeah, you’re the dick here OP. Sorry! Grin

illuyankas · 09/08/2021 20:00

If it's their first child, they may not be aware of a lot of things. You can be kind, instead of being sarcastic.

SeaShoreGalore · 09/08/2021 20:00

Oh dear, I think OP was hoping for lots of killer responses to put tardy lady in her place Sad

OaxacaChihuahua · 09/08/2021 20:01

@FourTeaFallOut

I’ve politely answered her post to inform her that they’re currently closed for the summer and that she would have done better to apply weeks ago when they were open as they are probably full for September by now anyway. I also said that she might find that there’s no space and they’ll put her son on the waiting list or request that he starts in the January term instead.

I'd have just stopped at letting her know that they are closed for the summer. Everything else is superfluous and guesswork designed to let her know how badly she has screwed this up.

Totally agree with this
LittleRedPill · 09/08/2021 20:02

But why do you think she was entitled? She sounds like she isn’t very clued up about the application process and doesn’t realise how competitive it is but that doesn’t = entitled does it?

You were pretty rude TBH. You could have just said, 9-4 term time only, or whatever. And if the nursery is as good as you say, they really should have someone answering emails during the holidays.

HmmmmmmInteresting · 09/08/2021 20:02

@SeaShoreGalore

Oh dear, I think OP was hoping for lots of killer responses to put tardy lady in her place Sad
Yes! The first few messages must have made her feel vindicated in her ire
Oogachuckachopsy · 09/08/2021 20:02

But…….you were the rude one?!

x2boys · 09/08/2021 20:03

Yeah i would just leave it now tbh, when i was first applying for a nursery place for my oldest son i didnt have clue about admission dates etc, its not something you have an innate knowledge for.

Coconutscrub · 09/08/2021 20:04

Wow you have no idea why she’s applying late.

Imagine it’s for a serious reason and you’ve been rude to her and made a shit time even worse.

Hope you don’t fall off that high horse of yours OP.

AbsolutelyPatsy · 09/08/2021 20:05

@Catawaul

Why are you gatekeeping nursery applications?
I agree

let her find out

Starjammer · 09/08/2021 20:05

'She would have done better to apply weeks ago when they were open as they are probably full for September by now anyway.'

This is the rude bit, and you don't even know if it's the case anyway. Perhaps she knows she should have been more organised, perhaps her circumstances have changed, perhaps she just doesn't know how busy nurseries in the area get.

Faevern · 09/08/2021 20:05

Yeh you were rude criticising her, some nurseries keep places for vulnerable children, how do you know she won’t get a place?

Homemadearmy · 09/08/2021 20:06

Why are you letting it bother you. I don't get how she is entitled from what you have written. You don't work for the nursery you don't know they won't have places.

The nursery should have a out if office response.

Shirleyphallus · 09/08/2021 20:06

I can’t really understand people who take it upon themselves to answer local page stuff

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