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To write a sarcy comment on this fb post?

226 replies

Sunshineandlollyfucks · 09/08/2021 19:22

I know I probably am bu Grin
But often people are so bloody entitled and it drives me mad.
DD goes to a popular nursery in the area which accepts both private paid and government funded children.
As it’s a lovely nursery there is often a waiting list for places and you do really need to apply within a reasonable timeframe to get a place for the term. For example, my DD started in a September and I applied in the May before that and was told she was one of the last children they were accepting.

Anyway - I’m on a Facebook page for the local area and this lady has posted asking what time the nursery opens as she has been trying to call and email them for three days to apply for her son with no reply. I’ve politely answered her post to inform her that they’re currently closed for the summer and that she would have done better to apply weeks ago when they were open as they are probably full for September by now anyway. I also said that she might find that there’s no space and they’ll put her son on the waiting list or request that he starts in the January term instead.

She’s commented back with a screenshot of their website post from April this year stating that they’re now taking applications for September 2021 with the caption “can you please just tell me what time they are open so I can take my son over there for admission”. I haven’t replied to it at all because I think it is downright rude however I’m very tempted to say something back.

I know It’s not a big deal but it’s just the entitledness of this lady. She would be taking her son over there to meet a locked gate and empty building Grin

Anyway, rant over

OP posts:
WhenISnappedAndFarted · 09/08/2021 20:07

I agree with the majority of others - you were the rude one.

dryasaboner · 09/08/2021 20:07

Jesus what a busy body 😂

PheasantsNest · 09/08/2021 20:08

You were rude. A simple they don't open until September would have done.

Howshouldibehave · 09/08/2021 20:08

Your reply was rude and so was hers-you sound like you’d get on; maybe you’ll become friends at the nursery gates in September!

MrsSchadenfreude · 09/08/2021 20:08

You come across as smug, rude and entitled. I hope she’s found somewhere else with nicer parents.

Essentialironingwater · 09/08/2021 20:10

I think your post was a bit much to be honest. There's no need to crush her hopes when you don't know for sure!

AbsolutelyPatsy · 09/08/2021 20:11

i'm rooting for her now

MissCruellaDeVil · 09/08/2021 20:12

You sound crazy, why are you stopping her from applying for a nursery place?

Miniestelle · 09/08/2021 20:12

You are not the Gandalf of the nursery. The only comment you should be making is one to apologise to the lady for your rude response.

StrawBeretMoose · 09/08/2021 20:13

OP did you mean to be so smug?

Holy moly the smugness seeps out of your reply, if you really thought that was helpful then I would be keen to hear what 'sarcy reply' you intend to add.

Plumtree391 · 09/08/2021 20:13

I don't see why you got involved, op.

50ShadesOfCatholic · 09/08/2021 20:13

@AbsolutelyPatsy

i'm rooting for her now
Hopefully she'll be along in a minute with her own thread about mad busybodies on facebook 😂
TopTabby · 09/08/2021 20:14

Just leave it, there was no need to reply in the first place. Now you're stressed over it & wasting headspace on it.
If she wants to try & apply she can, it's nothing to you really if you've got your place.
Just relax & forget it, bloody Facebook.

Aprilx · 09/08/2021 20:14

All that was necessary was to reply with the opening hours or say that it was currently closed or whatever. No need for the smug lecture. You did not come across well and I would definitely think you were the rude one.

Moraxella · 09/08/2021 20:14

I had to find a nursery for the following week after being called back to work (hospital) for covid. Last minute doesn’t = disorganised. I was phoning left, right and centre. Some people’s lives aren’t that straightforward. You’re acting like a smug school prefect 😳

TheWayTheLightFalls · 09/08/2021 20:14

What everyone else said. Though I sometimes battle to bite my tongue in response to "Does anyone know what x nursery is like for pre-schoolers, I'd like to enroll my 3 year old starting next week?" type posts on FB when I know full well that most kids are signed up practically at birth.

Shredmymil · 09/08/2021 20:15

Not sure why you had to tell her that she should have applied weeks ago and there probably won't be any spaces for her child to start in September etc. You don't work there (I assume) , so how would you know. You sound a bit of a smug know-it-all

TheVolturi · 09/08/2021 20:16

Why are you so bothered?

RolloTomassi · 09/08/2021 20:17

Yes your reply was very know-it-all. Just answer the question she asked, no need to condescend to someone on a public post.

NavigationCentral · 09/08/2021 20:18

Your message was smug and patronising.

HTH.

Ughmaybenot · 09/08/2021 20:20

You sound so smug and patronising, and mildly possessive, over this nursery 😂

NavigationCentral · 09/08/2021 20:20

Oooooooooh hang on!!!

Is this a reverse?

The OP has no history and if there’s a name change this could well be a reverse !

BettyBakesBuns · 09/08/2021 20:21

I know I probably am bu grin
But often people are so bloody entitled and it drives me mad do you know what 'entitled' means? Because this lady just seems a bit confused to me.

SunShinesBrightly · 09/08/2021 20:21

I’ve politely answered her post to inform her that they’re currently closed for the summer and that she would have done better to apply weeks ago when they were open as they are probably full for September by now anyway. I also said that she might find that there’s no space and they’ll put her son on the waiting list or request that he starts in the January term instead.

Do you work at the nursery? Or manage it?
Saying that they’re closed for the summer is one thing but if you are not staff I’m not sure why you would comment on their availability.

HmmmmmmInteresting · 09/08/2021 20:21

@RolloTomassi

Yes your reply was very know-it-all. Just answer the question she asked, no need to condescend to someone on a public post.
And then post on MN!
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