To write a sarcy comment on this fb post?

[Sunshineandlollyfucks]

I know I probably am bu
But often people are so bloody entitled and it drives me mad.
DD goes to a popular nursery in the area which accepts both private paid and government funded children.
As it’s a lovely nursery there is often a waiting list for places and you do really need to apply within a reasonable timeframe to get a place for the term. For example, my DD started in a September and I applied in the May before that and was told she was one of the last children they were accepting.

Anyway - I’m on a Facebook page for the local area and this lady has posted asking what time the nursery opens as she has been trying to call and email them for three days to apply for her son with no reply. I’ve politely answered her post to inform her that they’re currently closed for the summer and that she would have done better to apply weeks ago when they were open as they are probably full for September by now anyway. I also said that she might find that there’s no space and they’ll put her son on the waiting list or request that he starts in the January term instead.

She’s commented back with a screenshot of their website post from April this year stating that they’re now taking applications for September 2021 with the caption “can you please just tell me what time they are open so I can take my son over there for admission”. I haven’t replied to it at all because I think it is downright rude however I’m very tempted to say something back.

I know It’s not a big deal but it’s just the entitledness of this lady. She would be taking her son over there to meet a locked gate and empty building

Anyway, rant over

Incidentally I once organised childcare months and months in advance of my return to work and have twice done it in a rush (once because our childminder gave notice, once because we moved during the first lockdown when nurseries were shut so I had to try and find something for when they opened but didn't know when that would be) and while the stress of the latter is horrible, in some ways it's easie. You're asking a much easier question if you're saying 'do you have space now' than 'do you have space in a year's time' - it's yes/no and they really want to give you the space if they have it because it's currently empty and so costing them money. Booking months in advance requires them to do a bit of guessing and estimating and might mean a space being open for a while. I found both times that nurseries that people were reserving spaces in when pregnant and being told it was too late if the baby was born could offer me a space if I wanted it to start on Monday, especially if I could be a bit flexible on days. So while I wouldn't recommend leaving it to the last minute on purpose, last minute can work out and you were definitely wrong to assume that there would be no space just because people often reserve slots in this nursery a long way ahead.

I agree with others. Your response was unnecessary and a bit spiteful. Just telling her they were closed for summer would answer her question. TBH you very nearly missed getting a place too - you admit you were the last one accepted, so got in by the skin of your teeth. A day later and you could be in the same position of being too late.

@Shirleyphallus

I can’t really understand people who take it upon themselves to answer local page stuff

Well, I don't think that's an issue...otherwise what is the point of these pages. But if the person is not going to be helpful and is just going to be rude then they should step back and say nothing

@Catawaul

Why are you gatekeeping nursery applications?

This.

Oooh, a keyboard warrior

@FunMcCool

You’re the weird one here. They just asked for opening times, you don’t know they wanted to apply for September. You don’t own the nursery you just send your child there. Calm down.

This. Your message comes across very condescending. She has clearly just misunderstood

You may aswell have said, "my kids got a place and yours isn't getting one, ner ner ner ner ner".

Just response with "They're closed until September "

Don't get into an argument, you'll just feel bitter. It's better to kill with kindness ❤

I’d not say anything to her again, you’ve advised they’re not open. Now leave it.

@DentonsFringeArnottsWaistcoat

You’ve made the mistake of thinking every social media site is like MN - ie someone asks a reasonable and straightforward question, randoms then reply, judgementally, with irrelevant comments that were not solicited.

I love this, it's so true of die-hard Mums-netters 😂

Why so mean? Your reply reads as “why were you so stupid as to leave it so late!?” Totally unnecessary.

that she would have done better to apply weeks ago when they were open as they are probably full for September by now anyway. I also said that she might find that there’s no space and they’ll put her son on the waiting list or request that he starts in the January term instead.

Apart from mind your own fucking business what exactly did you expect?

Nobody can have this littl self awareness surely!?? 😂

I hope she gets a place. Though your tone may have put her off.

Yeah I’d just say term time so September the 1st 9am .
If she wants to go down there let her , I get your comment you were just saying it’s a bit late now love but she obviously doesn’t believe that so let her find out for herself.

You were rude.

You’ve made the mistake of thinking every social media site is like MN - ie someone asks a reasonable and straightforward question, randoms then reply, judgementally, with irrelevant comments that were not solicited

Your response to her v sanctimonious

patronising,
which means, when you talk down to people

It’s not “entitied” to enquire about a nursery place. “Entitied” would be expecting to jump the waiting list. No need to have been smug or patronising about it. Just to have told her they are shut would have been enough.

She would be taking her son over there to meet a locked gate and empty building grin

Why so gleeful at this? I hope she gets a place. Also good for her for replying to your entitled comment.

You should respond:

"You fool of a woman! You dosy wench! You plainly have neither the nous nor notion to comprehend that you are too late in your futile attempts to obtain schooling for your contemptuous brood! For you, unlike me, are not so worldy wise as to have applied at the CORRECT, that is, the CORRECT time to the nursery. Nay, I do so say you are too late, and both you and your unfortunate offspring shall suffer the consequences from this life to the next!

Xx"

I'm a bit surprised that the nursery don't have ab Out of Office on their email with that info. It's pretty poor business practice to just vanish for a month and ignore everyone. Are they replying to existing parents? Seems really fucking weird.

Anyway, don't be so rude. DS's daycare closed down with barely any notice and we were left scrambling for somewhere to send him - I emailed everyone, even if I knew they were full, because I was desperate. As it happened, I managed to get him off the waitlist in to a very popular daycare just by letting them know he was available to start immediately for however many hours they could offer.

YABU if you write anything else.
All that was needed was they are closed till September.
Unless you're the admissions officer it's absolutely none of your concern, if anyone was justified in writing a sarcy response it most def isn't you

Oh god OP, you’re one of those 🤦🏼‍♀️