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To write a sarcy comment on this fb post?

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Sunshineandlollyfucks · 09/08/2021 19:22

I know I probably am bu Grin
But often people are so bloody entitled and it drives me mad.
DD goes to a popular nursery in the area which accepts both private paid and government funded children.
As it’s a lovely nursery there is often a waiting list for places and you do really need to apply within a reasonable timeframe to get a place for the term. For example, my DD started in a September and I applied in the May before that and was told she was one of the last children they were accepting.

Anyway - I’m on a Facebook page for the local area and this lady has posted asking what time the nursery opens as she has been trying to call and email them for three days to apply for her son with no reply. I’ve politely answered her post to inform her that they’re currently closed for the summer and that she would have done better to apply weeks ago when they were open as they are probably full for September by now anyway. I also said that she might find that there’s no space and they’ll put her son on the waiting list or request that he starts in the January term instead.

She’s commented back with a screenshot of their website post from April this year stating that they’re now taking applications for September 2021 with the caption “can you please just tell me what time they are open so I can take my son over there for admission”. I haven’t replied to it at all because I think it is downright rude however I’m very tempted to say something back.

I know It’s not a big deal but it’s just the entitledness of this lady. She would be taking her son over there to meet a locked gate and empty building Grin

Anyway, rant over

OP posts:
Kona84 · 09/08/2021 20:49

Maybe it’s an admission date she might already have a place.
A nursery near me are having open days for kids starting in September

Hoppinggreen · 09/08/2021 20:53

@DrSbaitso

and that she would have done better to apply weeks ago when they were open as they are probably full for September by now anyway.

Well that was a bit patronising. If they're full or closed she'll find out soon enough. What's it to you?

Yep That bit was smug, patronising and pointless
alltheemptyfields · 09/08/2021 20:53

@Lady08

Oh god OP, you’re one of those 🤦🏼‍♀️
it's nursery.. guessing many parents are bracing themselves for the wonderful years of primary school
Nancydrawn · 09/08/2021 20:53

I don't think you come out of this as well as you think you do, OP.

Applesarenice · 09/08/2021 20:54

Both rude

RantyAunty · 09/08/2021 20:56

Let me guess OP.

You're one of the private paid people and you assume she is one of the government subsidised people.

How dare the unwashed masses apply to YOUR school!!

BoredZelda · 09/08/2021 20:56

Well she isn't though, just advising that there is unlikely to be a place for September.

Except their website said they were taking applications for September.

LittleMowf · 09/08/2021 20:57

How exactly do you think she’d feel reading your comment that she’d have ‘done better to apply weeks ago’? It’s literally impossible for that to come off as anything other than rude and judgemental.

I consider myself very organised but I was the first of my friends to have kids and when DS started school I was clueless about catchment areas, local authority policies on admission, etc. You have no idea about her circumstances and the last thing she sounds is entitled - just confused.

I really hope her son gets a place.

Holly60 · 09/08/2021 21:00

I’ve politely informed her that they are closed for summer and …. something superior, patronising and unbelievably irritating about horses and stable doors…

You sound insufferable.

SW1amp · 09/08/2021 21:02

@BoredZelda

Well she isn't though, just advising that there is unlikely to be a place for September.

Except their website said they were taking applications for September.

I’ve never known a nursery be particularly shit hot at keeping websites up to date

DS’s is listing the 2019-2020 term dates at the moment…

BluebellsGreenbells · 09/08/2021 21:03

All OP is really saying is she’d be better off trying another nursery as she won’t get a place. Don’t see the harm.

magsbagsfags · 09/08/2021 21:05

OP so entitledness is not a word....

You would do better improving your SPAG instead of belittling people because they didn't book when you did.

LittleMowf · 09/08/2021 21:07

If OP had wanted to be genuinely helpful she could have put a link to the contact details of the nursery. They must have an email address that someone will check at some point before September.

HmmmmmmInteresting · 09/08/2021 21:08

@FatJan

You should respond:

"You fool of a woman! You dosy wench! You plainly have neither the nous nor notion to comprehend that you are too late in your futile attempts to obtain schooling for your contemptuous brood! For you, unlike me, are not so worldy wise as to have applied at the CORRECT, that is, the CORRECT time to the nursery. Nay, I do so say you are too late, and both you and your unfortunate offspring shall suffer the consequences from this life to the next!

Xx"

Grin
NellWilsonsWhiteHair · 09/08/2021 21:10

It's actually quite insightful reading this. I def thought OP's "well, you've left it a bit late and they'll probably admit your child in January now" was smug and unhelpful, the sort of thing I've seen plenty of times before on local fb pages, so it's interesting to realise that OP genuinely thought this was helpful information and was surprised that the woman's (possibly annoyed) reaponse was to repeat her simple request!

Lots of people just don't know how nursery applications work. It's very varied even at a hyper-local level. Plenty of private and LA nurseries do have immediately available spaces, and people who aren't in local NCT cliques or whatever don't necessarily know which are the sought-after places and what the process is.

HmmmmmmInteresting · 09/08/2021 21:11

@LittleMowf

If OP had wanted to be genuinely helpful she could have put a link to the contact details of the nursery. They must have an email address that someone will check at some point before September.
The unfortunate lady has emailed the nursery to no avail as well as calling. Hence her posting on FB.
Brunts12 · 09/08/2021 21:13

YABU and I agree with the PP, you do sound insufferable. All you should have done was to answer the question.

frumpety · 09/08/2021 21:14

It doesn't sound as though she realised that they shut up shop completely over the Summer, so at least you have explained that, although it sounds as though she hasn't grasped that reality. Even if they are closed I would imagine someone will be checking the emails occasionally, so she might get a reply at some point.

I wouldn't bother posting anything else, I have a feeling it will turn into a Monty Python dead parrot sketch if you do.

Notapheasantplucker · 09/08/2021 21:16

@ThreeWitches
Oooh, a keyboard warrior

In its natural habitat Grin

Fcuk38 · 09/08/2021 21:20

You have your head up your arse tbh. She’s asking a simple
Question when are they open. She isn’t asking you to comment about whether she’s going to get a place or not.

eekbumbler · 09/08/2021 21:21

You sounded smug to me.

eekbumbler · 09/08/2021 21:22

Nobody likes a smug git.

frumpety · 09/08/2021 21:23

Except their website said they were taking applications for September

I thought that was a screenshot from April as OP said

She’s commented back with a screenshot of their website post from April this year stating that they’re now taking applications for September 2021

topwings · 09/08/2021 21:24

Yeah, I think you've already been snarky to the woman asking the question and you're doing the nursery out of potential business because you have no idea of their admissions for this September.

I really don't see how she has been rude. She asked a question; you didn't answer that question but gave her a "polite" earful about how badly she's messed up so she has asked her question again. If you know what date the nursery is reopening, just give her the date.

eekbumbler · 09/08/2021 21:27

I see OP did not return.

Good. The comment about her entiledness (?) and the grin at her arriving to locked gates with her son actually made me feel angry.