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Could you be in a relationship with an anti-vaxxer?

249 replies

Anon778833 · 09/08/2021 17:01

Or someone who thinks Covid doesn't exist?

YANBU = no

YABU = yes

OP posts:
Cattenberg · 09/08/2021 17:11

No. Although I do have two lovely friends who are anti-vaxxers. I think some of their views are batshit and they probably think I’ve been brainwashed.

Boysnme · 09/08/2021 17:11

Yes anti-vaxxer, no covid disbeliever as long as the anti-vaxxer respected my beliefs and wishes too

Bluntness100 · 09/08/2021 17:12

No and I’d be worried about their mental health and their basic comprehension abilities.

MaMelon · 09/08/2021 17:12

No - I prefer my partners to educate themselves using sources other than Facebook and TikTok

ForeverSausages · 09/08/2021 17:13

@Boysnme

Yes anti-vaxxer, no covid disbeliever as long as the anti-vaxxer respected my beliefs and wishes too
Same.
gwenneh · 09/08/2021 17:14

No, our ideologies would be too far apart to be compatible.

Bluntness100 · 09/08/2021 17:14

The thing is op, not all these people are single. Although I’m sure a lot of them will be. They will have partners, maybe kids, they may even be in relationship with someone who believes like they do and can’t deal with it rationally.

WhatdoImean · 09/08/2021 17:15

No - never.

The selfishness of a person who COULD take a vaccine but chooses not to? Sorry, not for me

IncyWincyGrownUp · 09/08/2021 17:15

No, on both counts.

TheWayTheLightFalls · 09/08/2021 17:17

No. I highly value intelligence in a partner.

This, bluntly. There may be some smart anti-vaxxers out there but I only seem to encounter the dumb ones.

Garfunkle · 09/08/2021 17:18

Nope

Crunchymum · 09/08/2021 17:20

It really is starting to fuck me off that people are either anti vaxxers or covid deniers and nothing in-between?

Someone who doesn't feel comfortable with a brand new, mass rolled out vaccine for themselves is not the same as someone who is an ardent and vocal anti-vaxxer who has not allowed their children to have any vaccinations?

Someone who poses questions about what has happened over the past 18 months is not a Covid denier.

These labels are reductive and often mostly incorrect.

We need to be very careful of this path we are heading along. I am starting to feel very afraid and it's not Covid that I am scared of.

Crunchymum · 09/08/2021 17:22

Just to add I am double vaccinated, before anyone thinks I am an "anti-vaxxer"

millymollymoomoo · 09/08/2021 17:26

Agree crunchymum

TableFlowerss · 09/08/2021 17:27

You should all get as worked up over climate change as that’s going to hit us from every which way in the coming years by the sounds of it.

More chaotic weather, more floods, food shortages due to floods and draughts.

I’ve had both jab but I didn’t want to. I can completely understand why am otherwise healthy 20 year old would refuse it……

Pinchoftums · 09/08/2021 17:28

No. So far the only people I know who are anti vax are unfortunately a little bit hard of thinking. I can understand being vaccine hesitant especially at the beginning, but not anti vax. They are often a bit culty too which is annoying to listen to

CaptainMyCaptain · 09/08/2021 17:28

No.

GintyMcGinty · 09/08/2021 17:29

No because our values would be so completely different I don't see how we would be compatible.

I couldn't even be friends with an anti-vaxxer.

godmum56 · 09/08/2021 17:30

if pointing and laughing constitutes a relationship then yes.....otherwise no.

HoboSexualOnslow · 09/08/2021 17:32

No. They don't normally stop at just being anti vaxx, there are usually multiple conspiracies they will also believe in. Every one I've come across has also been racist

godmum56 · 09/08/2021 17:32

@Crunchymum

It really is starting to fuck me off that people are either anti vaxxers or covid deniers and nothing in-between?

Someone who doesn't feel comfortable with a brand new, mass rolled out vaccine for themselves is not the same as someone who is an ardent and vocal anti-vaxxer who has not allowed their children to have any vaccinations?

Someone who poses questions about what has happened over the past 18 months is not a Covid denier.

These labels are reductive and often mostly incorrect.

We need to be very careful of this path we are heading along. I am starting to feel very afraid and it's not Covid that I am scared of.

people who misuse question marks worry me....next stop is five exclamation marks then its foil hat central everybody off the bus.
OnlyTheLangOfTheTitberg · 09/08/2021 17:34

Yes, if they had concerns about the long term effects of the vaccine and wanted to wait for a greater evidence base.

No if they were a flat-out Covid denier/5G conspiracy theorist.

sofiegiraffe · 09/08/2021 17:35

@Crunchymum

It really is starting to fuck me off that people are either anti vaxxers or covid deniers and nothing in-between?

Someone who doesn't feel comfortable with a brand new, mass rolled out vaccine for themselves is not the same as someone who is an ardent and vocal anti-vaxxer who has not allowed their children to have any vaccinations?

Someone who poses questions about what has happened over the past 18 months is not a Covid denier.

These labels are reductive and often mostly incorrect.

We need to be very careful of this path we are heading along. I am starting to feel very afraid and it's not Covid that I am scared of.

Yep. Agree.

Crunchymum · 09/08/2021 17:35

people who misuse question marks worry me....next stop is five exclamation marks then its foil hat central everybody off the bus

Go ahead, belittle me and make me look stupid. It doesn't invalidate my point. Just makes you look a bit rude.

lioncitygirl · 09/08/2021 17:36

No. I would dump him too.