To dress baby DS in ‘girls’ clothes

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My son is 7 months old, I split up with his dad last month and DS has been seen him regularly. At the weekend, he went to his dads and I packed clothes, and one of the clothes was a baby grow and it had flowers on it and it was from the ‘girls’ section, I still bought it. His dad has been difficult since we split up, and he asked me why I bought a flower babygrow for him and that he'll be embarrassed when he's older and he'd hate his mum if she dressed him like that when he was a baby.

Aibu?

@GojuRyuLover ha ha right! No worries :)

Have dressed DS in loads of girls clothes passed down from his girl cousins. Got a ton of pink bibs and pink accessories like a bath seat as well. My DP's favourite colour is pink and even if it wasn't I'm sure the massive savings we made having everything passed down to us for free would have satisfied my DP.

We've saved tonnes from second hand girly stuff and so far DS doesn't seem that bothered.

It's also very much part of our throw away , materialistic society, as passing on clothes and even equipment is determined by the sex of the child. A relative of mine bought a second hand pram from an obviously pregnant seller. The pram, a lovely wine colour, could not be passed on, as the new baby would be a boy.
Needless to say the new baby boy in our family didn't complain.

I often bought my girls stuff from the boys section. Tops with cars or dinosaurs etc. I'm not sure i would have bought a boy an item of clothing with a unicorn or flowers on it but at your sons age I don't think it will matter unless you don't want anymore comments about it?

@Crowsaregreat

Actually it's been scientifically proven that baby boys can absorb gayness through the eyes. That's why you should always blinker them when walking through a meadow and throw a blanket over the pram when you walk past a florist.

If he thinks flowers are girly, show him a close up of a stamen. Big old flower-cock.

I was dressed in ‘girls’ clothes as a baby, I can confirm it gave me a raging case of the gays.

I still look fabulous in pink.

@334bu

It's also very much part of our throw away , materialistic society, as passing on clothes and even equipment is determined by the sex of the child. A relative of mine bought a second hand pram from an obviously pregnant seller. The pram, a lovely wine colour, could not be passed on, as the new baby would be a boy. Needless to say the new baby boy in our family didn't complain.

The cynic in me says it’s also why the company make prams and things in pinks and blues because they know so many parents will then replace a perfectly good one when they have a new baby

The cynic in me says it’s also why the company make prams and things in pinks and blues because they know so many parents will then replace a perfectly good one when they have a new baby

You're correct. Companies don't care if kids conform or don't to gender stereotypes...they care about money. A pink bike for example means more opportunity for another one to be bought as people wont pass it on to a boy.

334bu
I totally agree with you. It's why I won't buy stupidly gendered items. I picked a second hand pram up that was being sold for being the wrong stereotypes colour for the new baby.

There was some lovely animal sets when DS was younger but because they were in the girl section, apparently the leggings needed ruffles on. 🙄 Firstly I hate ruffles and toddlers don't need pointless ruffles on play wear, but mainly I object to the lots of little gendered signposts on clothing. Clothing aimed at girls is particularly bad for it. Why do fairly unisex tops need a pointless tiny ribbon bow adding to them to prove they are girl items? Why do otherwise unisex leggings need a unless and impractical piece of lace elastic?

I've got friends who buy boy joggers for their daughters because the boy range has pockets pockets are more hard-wearing than the ones aimed at girls (who apparently don't need pockets but no need little extra pretty trims to look nice).

I'd love for a day where the children's sections are done as sleepsuits/t shirts/trousers/jumpers and then a range of colours without any silly signposting of gender stereotypes.

Your ex is an arse.

No 7 month old child will know you’ve dressed him in a “girl’s” babygro.

Let him buy his son some clothes if he doesn’t like the ones you’ve bought.

@JellyBabiesFan

Not an issue if you are saving money by using handmedowns and worn about the house. But to purposefully buy a girls outfit for a boy is clearly trying to get a reaction.

I think you need to grow up.

Or, you just like it and don’t think in such narrow lines.

Third World Problems!!!!
Nobody Cares!!!!

I think you may have spectacularly misunderstood that expression…

buttercup

Do you say that in real life? If so, stop. There is no third world anymore. There's the developing world.

When people say 'first world problems' they mean you're being a privileged snowflake. Not even knowing the difference between first and third world, while making out someone else doesn't have their feet on the ground, is a whole new level of irony.

Peak Mumsnet.

YANBU I hate all the boring clothes they have in the 'boy' sections it's all blue with dinosaurs or some form of vehicle 😭

Your baby will never know and never care. It's a baby grow.

Did you buy it because you liked it or to wind up your ex. Some people get really weird about such stuff. My ds, aged 2 wanted me to paint his toe nails because I'd painted mine so I did. My ex acted as if I'd signed ds up for HRT.

When people say 'first world problems' they mean you're being a privileged snowflake. Not even knowing the difference between first and third world, while making out someone else doesn't have their feet on the ground, is a whole new level of irony. Peak Mumsnet

So sorry someone made a mistake with their first and their thirds. We Mumsnetters should hang our heads in shame. So glad you have arrived to educate us!

By the way what do you think about the OP?

I bought lots of baby clothes from the girl section for DS because I preferred them. He wore lots of florals. He didn’t have an opinion at the time as he was a small baby and therefore basically just haunted meat (c Charlie Brooke).

He’s 6 now and has lots of opinions and no longer wears florals.

No harm done I’d say.

Jesus, I don’t consider myself remotely “woke” but gendered clothing is ridiculous and I don’t see anything wrong with a boy baby in floral.
I think this ridiculous - girls wear pink and bows and frills and boys are into monster trucks and dinosaurs even at 2 minutes old thing is so harmful. One of DS’s favourite colours is pink and this doesn’t make him any less of a boy.

I don'tunderstand why there are even boy and girl sections for baby wear. It's not like there are boobs to accommodate. Shove it together.

It's really hard to find sweet looking boys clothes that have delicate designs rather than blue dinosaurs. I used to buy my son clothes mainly from cath kidston, joules, John Lewis, petit bateau and Boden as they had some quite sweet clothing. Although I had to be fairly canny and shop ahead in the sales. I found french clothing to be good too and would buy that second hand off eBay.

And I am yet to find any boys clothing with cats or kittens on, which was and still is my son's favourite animal.

Boys cat PJs

www.lightinthebox.com/en/p/2-piece-kids-boys-active-basic-cat-print-letter-print-sleepwear-blue_p8493407.html?currency=GBP&litb_from=paid_adwords_shopping&sku=1_16%7C2_20642&country_code=gb&utm_source=google_shopping&utm_medium=cpc&adword_mt=&adword_ct=462509528543&adword_kw=&adword_pos=&adword_pl=&adword_net=u&adword_tar=&adw_src_id=3516490533_11062759625_109476817438_pla-454968503230&gclid=CjwKCAjwmK6IBhBqEiwAocMc8sg8Obz5a_lZl0zVxRe2KcUERck7wC8Bpntr_3rM7eWFnrQAZ4PUQRoC1VAQAvD_BwE

Neutral cat tshirt:

www.harrybear.com/products/kitty-cat-t-shirt?currency=GBP&utm_medium=product_sync&utm_source=google&utm_content=sag_organic&utm_campaign=sag_organic&gclid=CjwKCAjwmK6IBhBqEiwAocMc8re1x5oH_dZ09VpW2T5byZhNyeVPmiq0QpoJArACLxaLu-YcXC5hhBoCnG0QAvD_BwE&variant=31973486887006

Boys cat tshirt:
www.lightinthebox.com/en/p/kids-boys-active-street-chic-cat-3d-animal-print-short-sleeve-tee-rainbow_p7895448.html?currency=GBP&litb_from=paid_adwords_shopping&sku=1_1050%7C2_8576%7C314_42759&country_code=gb&utm_source=google_shopping&utm_medium=cpc&adword_mt=&adword_ct=462509528543&adword_kw=&adword_pos=&adword_pl=&adword_net=u&adword_tar=&adw_src_id=3516490533_11062759625_109476817438_pla-454968503230&gclid=CjwKCAjwmK6IBhBqEiwAocMc8gajEttDpBhX5DfbGRMVlLXyjxTNNEuVFS3EOOz-fyzcmWyOp1YC8xoCwz8QAvD_BwE

Boy's cat tshirt:

www.shopdisney.co.uk/soul-cat-customisable-t-shirt-for-kids-soul-493032026795.html?&cmp=knc-go:shopad:TDS-UK-Shopping-Medium-Generic-Catch%20All-Live:pcode:::Shopping:::dest&mckv=s_dc%7cpcrid%7c335689074617%7cpkw%7c%7cpmt%7c&gclid=CjwKCAjwmK6IBhBqEiwAocMc8gatrWWu83gIeM9l064KHlRyGEpTcODjP2nxoSw0HOWY1z_1Q2XKtRoCv1IQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

Just a few of the things that came up when i googled.

I do agree btw it is harder to find cat boys things as I stated earlier. My DS is 20 now so not that bothered about cats on his clothes anymore but does still like cats :)

Why refer to boys clothes or girls clothes? They are clothes and can be wore by a girl or boy. No wonder the U.K. has gender discrimination problems.