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Original poster

To dress baby DS in ‘girls’ clothes

148 replies

modu · 04/08/2021 10:37

My son is 7 months old, I split up with his dad last month and DS has been seen him regularly. At the weekend, he went to his dads and I packed clothes, and one of the clothes was a baby grow and it had flowers on it and it was from the ‘girls’ section, I still bought it. His dad has been difficult since we split up, and he asked me why I bought a flower babygrow for him and that he'll be embarrassed when he's older and he'd hate his mum if she dressed him like that when he was a baby.

Aibu?

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SmallPrawnEnergy · 04/08/2021 11:58

@x2boys

Why deliberately buy clothes from the girls section,? I can understand if clothes are passed d on to you, you would use them but to deliberately buy them seems a bit to try hard imo
Because she liked it? The kid is 7 months and can’t tell it’s arse from its elbow. You’d shit yourself if you found out some women wear men’s clothes 😱😱😱
Rosebel · 04/08/2021 12:03

My son wore quite a few girls clothes, that's the downside of having two older sisters.
He's 14 months now and doesn't so much now but still has two white sleepsuits with pink hearts on. Hope I haven't scared him for life.
Seriously if your ex has a problem let him buy clothes for his son. I'd have laughed if my husband had said anything negative.

Original poster
modu · 04/08/2021 12:05

No, I didn't pack it for him to annoy my ex, I didn't even think he'd see it as an issue.

I bought from the girls section as most of the boys clothes I've seen have dinosaurs etc on them or are blue.

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SamVimes6 · 04/08/2021 12:07
Biscuit
Original poster
modu · 04/08/2021 12:08

@SamVimes6

Biscuit
What?
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GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 04/08/2021 12:09

It’s just a baby gro. The main thing is that it’s comfortable for the baby. Why are flowers for girls anyway?

There are so many reasons why this is a non issue.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 04/08/2021 12:09

although i struggle to see what’s wrong with dinosaurs or the colour blue either.

Sirzy · 04/08/2021 12:14

Do dinosaurs for a boy are an issue buy flowers for a girl are ok? Hmm

BrilliantBetty · 04/08/2021 12:17

YANBU to have bought it or dressed DS in it. But perhaps could have considered someone else might not be happy with it so packed / put on something else for that day to save any disagreement.
I'm sure it's a lovely outfit btw, and i'd not mind a bit, my DD was mostly in boys clothing under a year old as we thought she was going to be a boy! Had bought neutrals and boys stuff and didn't want to waste it as they were lovely things. She looked beautiful.

Mousetown · 04/08/2021 12:27

@x2boys

Why deliberately buy clothes from the girls section,? I can understand if clothes are passed d on to you, you would use them but to deliberately buy them seems a bit to try hard imo
Well, why the fuck not? I have a daughter. I sometimes buy her stuff from the boys section if I like the pattern.
PumpkinKlNG · 04/08/2021 12:30

I wouldn’t do it personally but then my son did have a pram (was his sisters) and ex said it would turn him gay apparently 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

PumpkinKlNG · 04/08/2021 12:31

Pink pram* 😬

Original poster
modu · 04/08/2021 12:35

I don't have an issue with dinosaurs or blue clothes, but that's all there is in the boys section.

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ElephantOfRisk · 04/08/2021 12:35

I don't even have a baby, but there are millions of sleepsuits out there that aren't blue, with dinosaurs or flowers. Just looks like trying to make a point - badly.

AgathaAllAlong · 04/08/2021 12:37

Why does the ex not have clothes there? If you buy the clothes, you get to choose. My DP often moans about the clothes I buy for DS (not on gender basis, he just doesn't like them apparently!) My response is always the same. Not to worry dear, the day you get yourself down to a shop and buy a t shirt is the day DS will wear the clothes you like.

Sirzy · 04/08/2021 12:37

@modu

I don't have an issue with dinosaurs or blue clothes, but that's all there is in the boys section.
Things must have changed for the worse since DS was a baby 12 years ago as he had a whole rainbow of different colours and patterns all from high street shops.
IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves · 04/08/2021 12:38

It doesn't matter one tiny bit. He's being silly.

gnushoes · 04/08/2021 12:39

Christ, why shouldn't a boy have flowers on his outfit? It won't make his knob fall off.
All this shite is why people are questioning their gender rather than wearing and doing what h hell they like

tenredthings · 04/08/2021 12:39

My ds when he was 4 asked: mummy why do the girls get all the nice colours.

gnushoes · 04/08/2021 12:41

Should we ask why this charmer is an ex btw?

WomanStanleyWoman · 04/08/2021 12:43

@x2boys

Why deliberately buy clothes from the girls section,? I can understand if clothes are passed d on to you, you would use them but to deliberately buy them seems a bit to try hard imo
Trying hard to do what?
ElephantOfRisk · 04/08/2021 12:45

@tenredthings

My ds when he was 4 asked: mummy why do the girls get all the nice colours.
Plenty of non "girly" clothing in all sorts of colours. My Dss had plenty of yellow, orange, purple, red and yes, pink tshirts as well as blue, navy and grey and white. DS2 liked kittens though and i tended to find that "boy" tshirts had dogs and "girl" ones had cats. Always thought that was weird.
AssassinatedBeauty · 04/08/2021 12:46

Of course YANBU. Your ex has sexist, rigid and frankly ridiculous ideas about what is "appropriate" for babies to wear.

I bought sleepsuits and vests for both my boys from whichever section they happened to be in, according to my taste, which was for bright colours and comfy fabrics. Sometimes they were from the "girls" range and featured flowers, pink, scalloped hems and so on. Both my children have survived unharmed and utterly unembarrassed.

Echobelly · 04/08/2021 12:50

I just found a photo of DS at nursery in a Minnie Mouse onesie if his sister's that he chose to wear at nursery. He wore all her pjs and some daytime stuff - as far as possible we bought dd 'neutral' stuff, but inherited a lot of girlie stuff

Branleuse · 04/08/2021 12:55

@Bitofachinwag

If your question had been about your daughter wearing a "boy" babygro replies would have been "yes of course that's fine, it's only clothes, etc". A girl wearing boys ' clothing is a cool tomboy= higher status. A boy wearing girls ' clothing, not ok = demeaning, lowers his status.
exactly. Noone is weirded out by girls in clothes from the boys section, but god forbid a boy wears something from the girls section. Even if theyre a tiny baby
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