How long did it take for you to be on 'farting' terms with your DPs

[fuckyeahpercywigwam]

This is not really an AIBU, but inspired by the hilarious 'he shat in the garden' thread.

My friend's daughter has been married for seven years...child-free..but her and her DH have never farted in each other's hearing. Nope. They discreetly remove themselves to the loo.

I cannot believe this.

I agree. No one farts in front of their employer, or in a meeting, in a restaurant etc, because it's disrespectful to everyone. Why would you mot afford your DP the same level of respect?
And no, it’s not the same as sneezing etc.

I also wouldn't walk naked in front of my employer. I wouldn't brush my teeth, take off top when hot, swear, eat romadur, cut my toenails etc.

Others outside of your home vs dp at home are not comparable.

We got pregnant on our lovely romantic honeymoon… and it all went downhill from there.
I suffered badly with gas both during pregnancy and pp. I tried to hold it in once and ended up in labour triage in agony, never again.

We now have 2 under 2 and no personal boundaries or privacy. DH has seen EVERYTHING

I'm a vegetarian: If I farted in the presence of my partner, he might die.

@SunshineCake

I'm pretty sure most people who fart in front of their partners don't think it is funny or entertaining but realise it is a normal bodily function and sometimes there is no warning.

100%. It's not something that makes us laugh. It's just one of those things. I always say "sorry", "excuse me" or "pardon me" if I break wind in front of DH or DD and they do the same.

The other person isn't grossed out or disgusted by it though. It happens.

@Neron

Disrespectful for doing a natural bodily function

Yes, disrespectful. You wouldn’t belch loudly if you were out to dinner in a restaurant. We don’t urinate or defecate in public. Some bodily functions should be carried out in private, alone.

Oh give over

10 years and still not

I think I’d actually find a partner who was grossed out by farting/judged me for farting more of a turn off than I find farting to be. I’d think it’s a bit precious and uptight if they weren’t comfortable with farting and would wonder how they’d deal with everyday thing such as nappy changes or dog poo or kids being ill. And I’d find them quite immature if they expected me to be a sexy polite woman with no bodily functions all the time.

Together 15 years.. have never done it once!! He rarely does it either.. we’ve never had a discussion about it just don’t do it!! I’m a bit bathroom shy in general so have good control over all my bowel functions due to years of avoiding peeing in public bathrooms.. holding in farts etc.. have never pooped in work ever, despite having worked full time for over 20 years.. I can hold it all till necessary.. !! It’s my hidden talent 😂

It's a fart, who cares? My husband did it literally a minute ago. I can't imagine anyone taking themselves out of the room to do it. Once he's seen you shit yourself in labour, a fart becomes insignificant.

Actually that's a lie, I farted in my fourth labour and was absolutely mortified!

@Woolywolf

I think I’d actually find a partner who was grossed out by farting/judged me for farting more of a turn off than I find farting to be. I’d think it’s a bit precious and uptight if they weren’t comfortable with farting and would wonder how they’d deal with everyday thing such as nappy changes or dog poo or kids being ill. And I’d find them quite immature if they expected me to be a sexy polite woman with no bodily functions all the time.

Yes, I see what you mean. I don't like to fart in front of partners (or anyone, really), but a partner who got pissed off if I did it would really put me off too.

I don’t think “perfectly natural bodily function” is an excuse. Otherwise people would be doing them everywhere. Comparing them to coughs and sneezing is fine but it’s also polite to cover your mouth then in acknowledgment that’s no one wants your breath/spit/mucus over them. Partner or not.
No one wants the air and particles out of your arse either.

The boys at school often do loud burns and farts as acts of aggression at each other ( directly doing it in people’s faces) as well as on other occasions finding it hilarious.

After my breakup I contemplated a future of farting freely in my own home. Turns out it scares the cats. So I remain clenched.

Married ten years, we fart in front of each other, gone to the loo in front of each other, not a big deal for us.

We fart with freedom here. I started farting openly when I was pregnant as I really couldn't help and it just carried on from there, dp always farted openly.

I know MN is quite prude about farts though.

I think most people can control it for the majority of the time. Which is why you rarely hear people letting rip in meetings, on transport etc. I have taught teenagers for many years and they don’t fart in class ad a matter of course. If someone does by accident there will be a loud protest from the others. Why? Because it’s unpleasant and downright disrespectful to fart in the presence of others.
In general people can hold a fart until they teach the toilet or at least leave the room.
For those who can’t because of genuine disorders, you have my sympathy.

On our very first date... He often says after that he knew I was the one! Dated for 5 years and married now for 15 years.

Been with DP 13 years and would never ever fart in front of each other. It's gross.

Together over 30 years, don't actively fart in front of each other. Yuck,cant think of anything worse.

I am stunned that so many people find a normal bodily function 'disrespectful'. Where do we draw the line? Burping? Is that terrible too?

We've been married for 15 years, I have a chronic illness and he's been both my husband and my carer at times. He loves me entirely, without caveat.

(That being said, I can't shake a vague feeling of embarrassment every time we have a watermelon sugar moment! But that's just my own prudishness 😂)

We starting farting in front of each other around 3 months in I’d say. We also pee with the door open. No 2 is done privately though.

It’s not an excuse to call it a perfectly natural bodily function- it is! That’s a fact
Trying not to do it in front of people makes sense.
But thinking it’s important to be “dignified” or proper or something, in every situation, at all times is not only ludicrous but I bet it’s total horseshit (probably smells like that when you eventually fart 🤣),
I can’t stand theatrical belching or farting but it’s absolutely stupid to think that it’s deliberate if someone farts in a pub when they’ve had gassy beer or something, let alone live with them.
The notion that people can fart on command, for the purposes of childish humour, is such a “straw man” it’s sad.
Farting, like poo or wee or sweat or crying or blushing or numerous other things ARE natural.
What isn’t natural is trying to train it out of us to be such a respectful spouse.
Victorian m, are we?

Never, and we've known each other for over 15 years. I wouldnt fart or burp in front of my boss, in a lift or during a dinner party either. It's not difficult to go to the toilet. If children can manage it, grown adults can. I don't understand why anyone above the age of 5 would find it funny.

Another IBS sufferer here.
My husband also has some bowel issues.
Thank goodness we treat farting as a natural part of our lives.
Been together 31 years.