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What's the scariest moment of your life?

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Lonelydaisy · 29/07/2021 00:22

Following on from a thread I read earlier..

What's the most scariest life event you've been through?

Mine would be a stroke at 25 years old.

OP posts:
WhereDoILook · 31/07/2021 23:26

Years ago I was babysitting with my slightly younger cousin. Her slimy boyfriend turned up with his equally slimy mate. She hasn't had sex with the boyfriend. She was about 15 and wasn't ready but the 17 year old boy was. He brought his much older friend along 'to keep me out of the way'
The first I knew if it was when I woke up to the friend sexually assaulting me. I never believed much that you could physically freeze in fear but i did. He carried on what he was doing, lifted my nightie up and I honestly thought the next step was me being raped. Luckily cousin was able to kick her boyfriend out and the assault was halted as he left too. I told my parents (who knew him socially) and he was physically held up against a wall by my dad. Then two weeks later I walked into the pub and they were all together laughing. When I asked what the f I was told he didn't really mean it and I needed to calm down. I was in my late twenties before I actually lost my virginity because the fear of that attack wouldn't go away. My parents failed me massively

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HopingForOurRainbowBaby · 31/07/2021 23:45

@QueeniesCroft I'm so sorry Thanks

coffeepleeease · 31/07/2021 23:46

Feeling suicidal

Watching my then 4yo DD be put to sleep and laying her on the bed ready for open heart surgery

randomchap · 31/07/2021 23:55

Realising that it was the police at the door when my wife was very late coming home from her jog. I almost didn't answer the door. Then not knowing how to explain to the children.

The fear of how her mum would react when I told her.

Sadiecow · 01/08/2021 01:07

@ParkheadParadise

Travelling in a police car to the Mortuary to identify dd. All the way there I told myself repeatedly that it wasn't her and it was all a mistake. The journey home was unbearable.
My god that's awful!

HH?

Thanks
Sadiecow · 01/08/2021 01:28

@randomchap

Realising that it was the police at the door when my wife was very late coming home from her jog. I almost didn't answer the door. Then not knowing how to explain to the children.

The fear of how her mum would react when I told her.

I assume this ended with the worst possible scenario.

I'm sorry.

BettysGotMoxie · 01/08/2021 03:14

Being dragged off the street with an arm around my throat, not being able to breathe and being simultaneously punched in the side of my head. It happened in seconds but all I saw was my babies growing up without me.

BettysGotMoxie · 01/08/2021 03:15

I didn’t know my attacker and he was never identified from the cctv.

Ineedalifeline · 01/08/2021 10:24

Wow, some incredibly strong people on this thread. Sending Flowers to all of you and wishing you better times ahead. My scary moments seem very trivial when compared to most of the ones on here...

HollowTalk · 01/08/2021 23:14

@Lactarius

Finding my teenage son dead in his bed was pretty grim but at the time I just went into "work the problem" mode. For actual scariness being stopped at gunpoint by anti-terrorism officers of the Met was pretty bad - when told to show my hands I had to work through not pulling them out so fast it looked like a threat and not so slowly that it looked like non-compliance.
I am so sorry about your poor son. What a terrible thing to happen. Flowers
Lovemusic33 · 02/08/2021 07:53

So sorry to those who have lost children, it's by far the worst thing anyone can experience.

I have been sexually assaulted several times from the age of 14 and physically assaulted by a older man who groomed me but I can't compare that to loosing a child or coming close to losing a child. Lying next to stone who had raped me was pretty awful, being too scared to move incase he harmed me, being almost too scared to breathe.

So many strong people on this thread, people who have been through so much, it makes me think how lucky I am to have not experienced that kind of fear and loss. Huge respect to you all.

ParkheadParadise · 02/08/2021 11:29

@Lovemusic33
Please don't minimize what has happened to you in the past. You're right about losing a child is the worst thing anyone can experience( sadly I know that pain) but you were only a child yourself when you suffered abuse. No child should have to deal with that.
I really hope you've managed to move on with your life and have found peace and happiness.

QueeniesCroft · 02/08/2021 15:37

@Lovemusic33

So sorry to those who have lost children, it's by far the worst thing anyone can experience.

I have been sexually assaulted several times from the age of 14 and physically assaulted by a older man who groomed me but I can't compare that to loosing a child or coming close to losing a child. Lying next to stone who had raped me was pretty awful, being too scared to move incase he harmed me, being almost too scared to breathe.

So many strong people on this thread, people who have been through so much, it makes me think how lucky I am to have not experienced that kind of fear and loss. Huge respect to you all.

There isn't a hierarchy of suffering. Pain is pain, and I would hate to feel that someone who has suffered (or continues to do so) was reluctant to express that in case their pain was seen as not important enough, or not bad enough. I'm so sorry you went through that. I hope life is easier for you now and that you have kindness around you.
Babycarrottt · 02/08/2021 17:55

This will probably sound like an over-exageration but I was on the surgical ward of the Manchester Royal Infirmary when the arena bombing happened. I was chatting to some friends via Facebook when there was this cacophony of sounds, sirens were going off and the staff were running around getting changed putting orange tabards on.
There were only four of us in the bay but the staff came in to say that people were going to be brought in and that we needed to ensure that the tv's were either off or not switched to the news.
Within the hour, people were being brought up to the ward. Two of the beds had survivors from the attack. The one in the bed next to me had shrapnel in their leg that was due to be operated on. The one in the bed opposite me had shrapnel wounds to the face. During the next day, she was desperately trying to search for the person she had gone to the concert with. She was told that they were probably just at another hospital. I later found that the person's acquaintance had died as had the brother of a friend.
I've been I'm dangerous situations before but I've never felt terror like it. The worst part was seeing the victims and their devastation. I did my bit to help by lending them phone chargers/helping them to find hotel rooms/signposting them for help but I knew it would never be enough.

longtimemarried · 02/08/2021 18:00

Watching my husband die, it will stay with me for the rest of my life.

Maggiesfarm · 02/08/2021 21:11

@longtimemarried

Watching my husband die, it will stay with me for the rest of my life.
I'm so sorry longtimemarried.

I remember the same but I didn't believe it; still don't in a way.

Flowers
DigitalGhost · 02/08/2021 21:16

@OneMamaAndHerGirl

seeing my daughter having a reflex anoxic seizure for the first time. I thought she was never going to breathe again, she turned blue, started convulsing and then went limp and floppy. I thought she was dying
It's horrific isn't it. Then to be told oh they'll grow out of it.
RaginaPhalange · 02/08/2021 21:46

Glasgow Airport attack in 2007, I was 12 and remember walking across the walkway to get to the nearest exit, seeing the terrorist a light and the jeep exploding. Spent the whole day and most of the night sat in a hotel watching police cars go by, police searching outside of the hotel.

HollowTalk · 02/08/2021 22:18

@OneMamaAndHerGirl

seeing my daughter having a reflex anoxic seizure for the first time. I thought she was never going to breathe again, she turned blue, started convulsing and then went limp and floppy. I thought she was dying
I was going to add to the thread by talking about my son going through exactly the same thing, but couldn't bring myself to remember it. It's the worst experience of my life. I thought he'd died.
FluffyBlueJumper · 02/08/2021 22:55

When DD, aged 5, stopped breathing. It was the longest two minutes of my life. DH did mouth to mouth while we waited for the ambulance.
It was encephalitis.

longtimemarried · 04/08/2021 08:21

Maggie, thank you for your comment, someone once said to me there is no happy ending to a happy marriage - how true.

Pottedpalm · 04/08/2021 08:53

So much suffering.

Imfinallyhappy1 · 04/08/2021 09:00

I’ve got a few. I was raped at 14 and was terrified, had a concealed pregnancy, I birthed him alone in my bedroom and nearly died from complications.

I was terrified of dying and my parents were furious WITH ME so I was scared of them (abusive, controlling household)

Haemorrhaging after my daughters birth, lost 2.5 l of blood

My daughter having a cardiac arrest at 2 from an infection. - this was the most terrifying

Auroramx · 04/08/2021 09:03

On the way home from the shops on my own at 10 years old and a hooded man walking in front of me kept looking back which made me suspicious so I crossed the road and saw him hiding behind a wall waiting for me to walk past. It still haunts me to think what would've happened if I didn't cross the road :(

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