What's the scariest moment of your life?

[Lonelydaisy]

Following on from a thread I read earlier..

What's the most scariest life event you've been through?

Mine would be a stroke at 25 years old.

Just struck by reading these how many relate to childbirth, which without modern obstetrics would still be as dangerous as ever, and to sexual assault, rape and physical assault by males. Really brings home the reality of women's lives.

And reinforces how fucking sick I feel hearing about 'white female privilege', 'Karens', and that females suffer because they are feminine.

@notagermannoun

Just struck by reading these how many relate to childbirth, which without modern obstetrics would still be as dangerous as ever, and to sexual assault, rape and physical assault by males. Really brings home the reality of women's lives.

And reinforces how fucking sick I feel hearing about 'white female privilege', 'Karens', and that females suffer because they are feminine.

In fucking spades. So many things here would not happen to men.

Scary as opposed to sad (ie, bereavement as that’s a different emotion to me)

• being assaulted in an alley at 14 (thankfully not badly but it was horrible and I wish I’d reported it at the time - was a boy from a local school).
• fainting badly in my 20s. I thought I’d had a stroke as couldn’t speak/move arm after passing out, but all tests were clear. Never happened again.
• losing dd (at about 3) in a theme park. Wasn’t for long but was very scary for 5 mins.

@peachgreen

Finding my husband dead on our bed. I will never, ever be able to unsee it. It was horrendous. Almost as bad was having to do CPR even though I knew it was pointless. But the fear I felt when I found him will stay with me forever.

I had an identical experience but with my mother, she died young and on her own bed obviously, but god has that messed me up for life x

Also being on a galloping horse without a helmet. I made myself fall
Off (slid off) or I’d have been thrown off.
This was in the US where they didn’t use helmets! I thought we’d just be slowly walking (or whatever horses do).
I had to bloody get back in again until we reached the stables - i absolutely hated it!!

Being with my mum in a busy, big city. She had a seizure.

I was tiny, my sister smaller.

I was crying my eyes out terrified and people just ignored us and stepped over the body of my Mum.

How could hundreds of people ignore us at lunchtime in a busy city?

How could they ignore a woman obviously in need of medical help and her two, terrified, distraught children?

I never walk past now but need to find someone else to deal with epilepsy. It's too hard for me.

Not on par with a lot here,

But when two police officers knocked on our door at 2am to say DS had been hit by a car outside his flat.

They'd taken him to XYZ hospital, when I questioned why not the hospital closest to him. It was because he'd sustained a serious head injury.

When I asked if he was alive, they said

"He's breathing and that's all we know".

My husband went to pieces, a calm came over me that I cannot describe. I drove us to the hospital and then i just lost it and the hospital door. The truly lovely nurse who held my hand and explained what was happening was wonderful. She took me to the paramedics that brought him in as they had waited to talk to us.

He walked out that evening, with a broken collar bone, a chopped tooth and swollen head.

The first police officer (who was actually on the scene getting a sandwich in the garage opposite) called the next day. He could not believe that DS walked away. He'd broken the windscreen on the car. gone straight over the top of the car. With our permission he asked to ring the driver involved, who was beside himself and tell him the fabulous news.

Doing the Heimlich manoeuvre on my 3 year old when he fully choked. Worst moment of my life. Thank God it worked.

@Drovememad

Not on par with a lot here,

But when two police officers knocked on our door at 2am to say DS had been hit by a car outside his flat.

They'd taken him to XYZ hospital, when I questioned why not the hospital closest to him. It was because he'd sustained a serious head injury.

When I asked if he was alive, they said

"He's breathing and that's all we know".

My husband went to pieces, a calm came over me that I cannot describe. I drove us to the hospital and then i just lost it and the hospital door. The truly lovely nurse who held my hand and explained what was happening was wonderful. She took me to the paramedics that brought him in as they had waited to talk to us.

He walked out that evening, with a broken collar bone, a chopped tooth and swollen head.

The first police officer (who was actually on the scene getting a sandwich in the garage opposite) called the next day. He could not believe that DS walked away. He'd broken the windscreen on the car. gone straight over the top of the car. With our permission he asked to ring the driver involved, who was beside himself and tell him the fabulous news.

Gosh your son was lucky, a similar thing happened to my sister when she was, 17,her boyfriend at the time had just passeex his test a few days before, and took his Dads car out without permission, and he hadent been insured to drive it, he drove himself and my sister 70mph down a narrow, long winding road, crashed into three other cars, and turned his Dads car over and completely wrote it off, they both walked out without a scratch on them! So lucky obviously the boyfriends Dad was absolutely furious with his son but things could have been so much worse!

When my DD stopped breathing & had a seizure. Called an ambulance and honestly felt like the longest few minutes of my life.
Found out afterwards she suffers from RAS and we basically have to get used to it until she grows out of it.

Waking up on the hospital room floor to hear the doctor tell my husband that our 7 week old had meningitis. I'll never, ever forget the terror we felt. Thankfully he recovered but I'm honestly scarred for life by it. Typing this made me cry.
for everyone

Name change for this... when my DD woke me in the early morning with a distraught, sobbing call from her holiday to say she had been slipped something in her drink, lost 4 hrs of her night and woke beaten up, broken nose, fractures to her eye sockets, in a room at the back of a club in Spain. Club dark and all locked up. On her own. She still doesn't know what happened to her in those missing hours.

Name changed for this.

I was in hospital (psychiatric) and thought I was just a little upset. Asked for someone to talk to and it was denied. Got rugby tackled to the ground by several people, and got given an injection against my will.

It is now why I can't stand anyone touching me at all, even for medical reasons. I would rather die.

My waters broke when I was 23 weeks pregnant. I was in hospital until my daughter was born at 23+5 . Still can’t tolerate the beeping sounds in McDonald’s as they remind me of the NICU.

@IonaLeg

Gosh some of these are so awful - I’m so sorry for those who have dealt with losses

Mine was ‘swimming with dolphins’ when I was 18. We were in South Africa on a totally unlicensed boat trip, a couple of miles from shore. The owner of the boat asked us if we fancied sneakily hopping into the water to swim with a pod of dolphins.

I dived in and found myself face to face with a ten foot long Great White Shark, about 20 feet away from me. I honestly thought my heart had stopped.

I would die

I’ve been in ICU several times but scariest time was between leaving A&E and going into theatre with a perforated intestine. Twice a member of staff asked if my family had been called in. I knew exactly what that meant.

My son swallowing a lithium battery, being blue lighted to the children’s hospital and taken to surgery after he dropped off and I couldn’t wake him to tell him I loved him and I was so scared I was never going to see him again. The staff were the most amazing, compassionate wonderful people I’ve ever met. He’s absolutely fine and so bloody incredibly lucky but it still haunts me how different the outcome could’ve been

Waking up in bed to find a man on top of me with a knife. He held it to my throat and said that I needed to let him fuck me (his words). I could barely speak from terror but somehow something I did made him run away. I can't remember what. He deliberately cut me with the knife but I had my hand in front of my throat so he got my thumb.

seeing my daughter having a reflex anoxic seizure for the first time. I thought she was never going to breathe again, she turned blue, started convulsing and then went limp and floppy. I thought she was dying

Travelling in a police car to the Mortuary to identify dd. All the way there I told myself repeatedly that it wasn't her and it was all a mistake. The journey home was unbearable.

Painting a wooden staircase with varnish late one summer night and getting an asthma attack so bad I though each breath would be my last.

@SchadenfreudePersonified

When I was violently assaulted (I don't want to go into details as it is upsetting) - but I literally froze with fright.

I couldn't move, I couldn't scream and I could barely breathe. Even thinking of it now has caused my chest and throat to constrict.

It was terrifying.

This is exactly the same thing that happened to me. It left me feeling so hopeless because I always thought I would be a person who would act but I was literally frozen with terror. I get so worried that if something happens to one of my kids I will just freeze again. I don't think it is the case because I am usually very good in emergency situations but the worry is always there.

So many awful and traumatic stories here.

Im so sorry Parkhead

@MuchTooTired

Mine is nothing compared to everyone else’s stories on this thread, there’s some extremely brave and strong women on here 💐

DT2 wasn’t breathing properly when she was born. I had an elcs and had a screen up as I’m terrified of blood and heard a little baby whimper and then nothing (so complete opposite of what her brother sounded like a few minutes before). I remember saying to my medical team what’s going on, please tell me she’s ok and one of them responded saying they don’t know, as soon as they do they’ll let me know. The room filled up with another medical team who came racing in. All this time I was praying so hard and reminding God that I’d prayed beforehand that if one of the three of us had to die it was to be me and to please save my baby girl, take me instead. DD was whisked away to SCBU and DH ended up diving between the three of us to give me updates.

She was absolutely fine and joined us in the recovery room later on, but those few minutes were the most terrifying of my life.

Choking whilst driving thanks to a bit of fudge that went down the wrong way was nothing in comparison really, it was scary but I managed to pull of the road safely and DH managed to dislodge it thankfully, and the kids in the back of the car were fine. I’ve not eaten fudge since though!

Its, a horrible feeling isnt it? When ds1 was born he had the cord around his neck three times he was blue and not breathing, he was born at 5.50 am on boxing day, they rushed him off to give him oxygen with dh running after them, i didnt know for about 4 or 5 minutes if he was dead or alive, it was awful i had just given birth bleeding etc but couldnt go anywhere 😢hes a big healthy hairy 14 year old now but i remember the panic like it was yesterday