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What's the scariest moment of your life?

429 replies

Lonelydaisy · 29/07/2021 00:22

Following on from a thread I read earlier..

What's the most scariest life event you've been through?

Mine would be a stroke at 25 years old.

OP posts:
Jenasaurus · 30/07/2021 01:31

[quote Tiredanawfullot]@Jenasaurus

I’m so sorry you and your son went through that. I can honestly say it was the worst experience of my life. I felt so out of control. It’s not supposed to happen and I still don’t quite understand how it did and how it could go so far.[/quote]
Yes, it must have felt like you were living in a nightmare, almost sureal, I woke every morning before she admitted she had made it all up, with a sinking feeling and wanting to run away with my DS to keep him safe.

I did find a forum of others that had been wrongly accused, there are quite a few people going through this and its scary how one lie could ruin someones life.

Nat6999 · 30/07/2021 04:51

Having a massive pph during an emcs, having to wait for the staff to mop the floor before they could wheel me to HDU, then during the following night being told my major organs were failing & screaming at the staff to ring my mum & husband, they told me no matter how much I screamed they weren't going to ring them. I think they must have sedated me because the next thing I remember was my mum washing me & helping me change out of the theatre gown the next morning. That left me with PTSD, I thought I was going to die alone.

Nonmaquillee · 30/07/2021 08:24

@Nat6999

Having a massive pph during an emcs, having to wait for the staff to mop the floor before they could wheel me to HDU, then during the following night being told my major organs were failing & screaming at the staff to ring my mum & husband, they told me no matter how much I screamed they weren't going to ring them. I think they must have sedated me because the next thing I remember was my mum washing me & helping me change out of the theatre gown the next morning. That left me with PTSD, I thought I was going to die alone.
I’m so sorry this happened to you. I have had two PPHs and can fully relate to the fear and helplessness.
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MuchTooTired · 30/07/2021 09:36

Mine is nothing compared to everyone else’s stories on this thread, there’s some extremely brave and strong women on here 💐

DT2 wasn’t breathing properly when she was born. I had an elcs and had a screen up as I’m terrified of blood and heard a little baby whimper and then nothing (so complete opposite of what her brother sounded like a few minutes before). I remember saying to my medical team what’s going on, please tell me she’s ok and one of them responded saying they don’t know, as soon as they do they’ll let me know. The room filled up with another medical team who came racing in. All this time I was praying so hard and reminding God that I’d prayed beforehand that if one of the three of us had to die it was to be me and to please save my baby girl, take me instead. DD was whisked away to SCBU and DH ended up diving between the three of us to give me updates.

She was absolutely fine and joined us in the recovery room later on, but those few minutes were the most terrifying of my life.

Choking whilst driving thanks to a bit of fudge that went down the wrong way was nothing in comparison really, it was scary but I managed to pull of the road safely and DH managed to dislodge it thankfully, and the kids in the back of the car were fine. I’ve not eaten fudge since though!

Conchitastrawberry · 30/07/2021 10:07

Nothing compared to most here but putting armbands on my ankles when I was about 9 at the local swimming pool. It felt like forever before someone pulled me out. The pool was packed and no one had noticed. It was over 40 years ago and I’m still terrified of water.

Starlight86 · 30/07/2021 11:03

Mine is nothing compared to most. Some of the most heartbreaking things i have read and my heart goes out to you all.

Mt 2 year old having a febrile convulsion, i literally thought she was dying and behaved less calmer than i would have hoped.

Itsbeen84yearss · 30/07/2021 11:10

When I was 7 and a friend’s dad attempted to assault me

TurquoiseDragon · 30/07/2021 11:31

I think my scariest mo.e t was when I was choking on a pea. I couldn't get my breath, and I could feel the pea stick there.

My ex ended up timing a hard slap to my back at the point I was coughing it upwards and it shot across the room with some force. His first attempt failed, and I was really scared. 2nd attempt worked.

Ispywithmycynicaleye · 30/07/2021 12:22

My biggest: Waking at 7.30 to the most beautiful, saddest voicemail from DD which she left at 4.30am that morning. Then realising it was a goodbye message.
Phoning 999 to do a welfare check and being told there was an update on their system despite me only having been on the phone for 2 minutes.
The ICU dr telling me she took an incredible amount of various medication and probably wont make it.

Bad birth experience. Emergency c-section that went wrong, we both nearly died.

1st ever gallstone attack, massive one, while I was home alone with DD 8 weeks old at the time who luckily was asleep after a feed. I lay on the floor in too much pain to breathe properly and managed to text DP 'need you', I thought I was going to pass out. Luckily he raced home from his hobbie, took one look at me, and phoned 999.

Was in foster care as a teenager and had a friday night job a couple towns away (10 minute car ride). Foster carer refused to pick me up (she was an alcoholic and on her way to very drunk by that time), said I had to make my own way back so after getting a bus to one town, instead of waiting an hour at a bus stop beside a busy pub I used to run the 3 miles down a pitched black country road scraping one foot off the side of the curb so I could tell where I was, and dive into the bushes when I saw a car coming for fear I would be snatched if someone saw a young girl on her own in the middle of nowhere.

Still in foster care, instead of going home, went out with friends after my Friday job. Got drunk so someone put me in a taxi at 11. Instead of getting home at 11.15 at the latest, I apparently ran in at 12.30ish crying hysterically and in a mess. In the morning I discovered my wages missing and items I had in my school bag were destroyed. I have no memory of what happened after getting in the taxi.

FogHornInTheAttic · 30/07/2021 12:27

Childbirth

Chipsahoy · 30/07/2021 12:42

How heartbreaking these are. I’ve been through stuff at the hands of other people but I think if it were something happening to my husband or children that would be worse.

Scariest moments were with my abuser or perhaps other rapists when I was a teenager. But I think the very scariest was one evening when I came home, after being sexually abused all day, and was in midst of miscarriage.. the door to my home was locked and I thought my parents were inside and wouldn’t let me in. I was terrified they’d abandoned me to my abuser. That was far scarier than anything he ever did even though he did a lot.

x2boys · 30/07/2021 13:04

@Tiredanawfullot

Being accused of a crime having not committed it, being dragged through the court system (having never been in trouble in my life with the police) and then having to wait for a jury to find me not guilty. My barrister asked the police officer what evidence there was I had done what they said I had done and she said ‘None’. I wanted to cry. It makes me panicky thinking about it now. How can you trust it won’t ever happen again when it never should have happened in the first place?
I can beleive it, this happened to my dh, he was accused of assault, i was there so i know it didnt happen, the CPS had zero evidence other than statement, s but they took it to trial, thankfully on the first day of trial, the CPS accepted my dh was telling the truth and resolved it at the last minute
GreenTeaBlackCoffeeAndRedWine · 30/07/2021 13:30

Gosh some of these are awful and I haven't even read them all yet.

Perhaps the scariest thing I've ever been through (and still go through) is severe depression. It's so bad at times I'm scared of myself.

Also when I was a kid, our garage caught fire and my dad ran in to get a can of petrol out of it, that was a very frightening moment.

GalaxyGirl24 · 30/07/2021 14:05

I can't even imagine the pain and fear some of you have experienced.

Mine is when very fit and sporty DH got really sick with gastro intestinal issues (life long condition but managed now) and lost a stone in a week despite being whippet thin anyway. His hands were blue and he couldn't even keep water down, passing blood in toilet and the doctors didn't take it seriously and sent him home. So frightening. Had to help him back to health myself

DorisFlies · 30/07/2021 14:15

Fire on the London underground- I never knew I could run so fast in heels

OrlandointheWilderness · 30/07/2021 14:28

So much pain on this thread. So many brave people.

Comedycook · 30/07/2021 14:36

My dd was a baby and unwell with a high temp... nothing particularly unusual or worrying. I put her down for a nap and she slept for hours. I thought I should wake her as it had been so long. I picked her out of the cot and she sort of opened her eyes and closed them again. I kept trying to wake her, then she sort of went floppy and I couldn't get her to open her eyes. For a good few seconds I genuinely thought she was dying. An ambulance came and as soon as we got to the hospital it was like she'd never been ill, happy and bouncing around. Thank god. The doctors and nurses must have thought I was crazy though

dyzzidi · 30/07/2021 15:35

Mine was being in icu with COVID and watching people around me dying of the same virus I had. Hallucinations, panic and sheer terror for 10 days. I’m very lucky to survive.

Zelvinka · 30/07/2021 15:54

I've had quite a few epileptic seizures where I've had to be taken by an ambulance to ED but apart from the scary 'auras' before the seizures it was more scary for people around me.

I also suffer from psychosis & sometimes have weird hallucinations despite taking meds some people would be scared but I know they're hallucinations & not reality.

The first scariest time I had was age 10 I was feet away from a lightning strike, I've been terrified of storms ever since.

Second, I got locked in a property with a would be rapist.. luckily I escaped from him.
I will never go into a man's house for any reason alone again unless he is my actual partner. It has destroyed my trust in men.

TopBitchoftheWitches · 30/07/2021 16:01

Yet when I was assaulted by ex bf the cps didn't do a thing. It was his word against mine despite having an audible witness and bruises.

cricketmum84 · 30/07/2021 16:04

My DH called me at work to tell me our eldest DD had been hit by a car outside school and they were in an ambulance on their way to hospital.

When people say your legs go from underneath you they really aren't being dramatic.

Thankfully she wasn't seriously injured. Just a couple of broken bones and some bruises and grazes but I swear the fear that went through me when he said those works is indescribable.

Redlorryellow · 30/07/2021 16:34

I have a few of these…

Getting blackout drunk while on a night out in London with a group of people I wasn’t that close to, being abandoned by them and then waking up in some guys flat in another part of London and having to figure out how to sneak out when he was in the next room. Id lost my purse, phone and keys and to be honest god only knows what happened to me the time I was out… I didn’t report it as was way too ashamed. This was when I was about 22. I don’t drink anymore, and pretty much slowed my drinking down permanently as a result of that night.

Swerving on a country lane to avoid a head in collision with a 4x4 (I was driving in a Ford KA). My sister was in the passenger seat. We hit a wooden fence and everyone was somehow fine, but the car was a write off. I still get anxiety when driving and hardly ever do, previously loved it.

My first ever severe panic attack- I was gasping for breath on the floor and my body felt numb. I thought I was dying.

Being on top of a snowy mountain in Poland trying to take a photo with dd and realising that there was a sheer icy drop feet away, and we weren’t wearing snow/ski boots. Stupidest thing I ever did