To think friend googling the cost was uncool?

[Arseholery]

I'm going to view a new car soon and was mentioned it last week to a group of friends within a conversation about someone else new car.

Saw that same group of friends last night and one of the group, Alice, mentioned the appt and said she'd had a look up and did a kind of a plumber's teeth suck about the cost.

And I said something shruggy about it is what it is.

AIBU to think she was being unreasonable?

@Gilly12345

Is she jealous?

Is she stingy with money?

How much money you spend on a car is your business.

Nope, I don't think so.

We all have very similar lifestyles.

The type of car I'm looking at isn't too different from any of our group of 6's cars.

@SmallPrawnEnergy

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Dafuq?

Can anyone summarise what on the jiggery bonnet was said to get deleted?

I do stuff like that online all the time, I just don't admit to it! 😂

@FittedSheet I was going to ask if it’s Leicestershire too!!!!

I have just looked up a house on Rightmove that’s gone up for sale up the street.
It’s overpriced and I don’t care much for the decor.
I’ll be knocking on their door first thing to let them know.

If I cared enough to look up the price, I wouldn't comment or make that obnoxious teeth-sucking sound to someone about it.

...Unless they were the type to brag insufferably or be a big spender one day and then moan about having no money the next... But in that case, we wouldn't be friends, anyway. Maybe colleagues or other people forced to make occasional chit-chat.

Who cares how much other people spend on stuff - what satisfaction does it actually bring?

Has she actually done anything wrong? She just commented on the price and it annoyed you. Can friends not say stuff like this to one another?! A friend of mine might do the same about clothes I bought and I’d say I know right but I’ve wanted it for ages and have been saving. She’s just commenting- I think the bigger issues is that you’re so offended you had to come to mumsnet.

She just commented on the price and it annoyed you. Can friends not say stuff like this to one another?! A friend of mine might do the same about clothes I bought and I’d say I know right but I’ve wanted it for ages and have been saving. She’s just commenting- I think the bigger issues is that you’re so offended you had to come to mumsnet.

First time at Mumsnet?

Anyway, it is a bit weird to comment on a friend’s possible choice of car in front of others when no one asked nor was the subject on cars, telling the person they looked up the cost and rude to then say how expensive they think it is. What’s the purpose of that or even bringing it up? What did Alice want OP to say? What did Alice expect others to say to her comment?

I think if you buy a new car or house or other large purchase, most people will have a nosey at the cost. Most people wouldn't tell you though

@Pedalpushers

I would never comment on it to the friend because I think it's rude, but...

I am very nosey to a flaw and probably know the rough salaries and house prices of all of my friends. I wouldn't mind if they did the same in their own time.

You need to focus on your own life 🤔

Soooo, what car are you getting OP? 🤔

Explain @Pedalpushers, genuinely — why do you want to know? What difference does it make if their house cost £500,000 or £800,000? What satisfaction does it give you to know if your friends earn £50 k or £100,000?

I think she just doesn’t know anything about cars, googled the one you mentioned to try and be in the know and really only took the price away from the specs - and stated it to show you she knew something.

It sounds to me like your friend was trying to help you. She Googled it and thought you were being ripped off, so she expressed that the price was ti high. Nice of her to show an interest like that.

Otherwise I don't see what all the fuss is about. Have I misunderstood what has happened? Ask your friend if I 'm right.

I'm not sure why you care? 🤣 One of my friends said he was getting a new car the other day and the first thing I did... Whilst in the conversation was to Google and then said, "Wow, they aren't cheap are they?" 😂 He laughed and said he'd always wanted one. I said hope you live long enough to get your monies worth. Then we both laughed. I suppose it depends on the relationship you have with friends, my friends all know I'm a nosey bitch and will ask for details that are lacking 😂 😂 😂.

I can't believe I'm in the minority here but I think it's weird. I can't imagine ever caring enough to Google what a friend has paid for anything. And then bring it up on a judge way is even weirder. Whatever my friends buy I assume they can afford it and its their business in any case. And it isn't bragging is it? I'm buying a house at the moment and have told friends that as its a life event. Wouldn't expect them to Google the cost or judge. I think get a better friend.

@Kteeb1

I can't believe I'm in the minority here but I think it's weird. I can't imagine ever caring enough to Google what a friend has paid for anything. And then bring it up on a judge way is even weirder. Whatever my friends buy I assume they can afford it and its their business in any case. And it isn't bragging is it? I'm buying a house at the moment and have told friends that as its a life event. Wouldn't expect them to Google the cost or judge. I think get a better friend.

(I bet they have a sneaky Google...)

Do you think you might spend too much time on your online device?

Her reaction was rude the curiosity is kind of normal.

The looking it up - well fortunately we don't yet have the thought police even if it sometimes seems it. I suspect it's something an awful lot of people do. And as OP has explained it came up naturally in a conversation about cars. If she'd not said anything in that convo and just turned up her new car, some of them would have said why didn't you mention it. (And yes women do talk about cars, though mostly either when one's just died or they're getting a new one.)

But for Alice to bring it up again with no context and go the whole teeth sucking/cat's bum mouth thing says she's got a bee in her bonnet about something. She should have kept it to herself.

But for Alice to bring it up again with no context and go the whole teeth sucking/cat's bum mouth thing says she's got a bee in her bonnet about something. She should have kept it to herself

Tbh that's the face I pull when I think somethings a bit shit....

She may not have looked it up though. I have a general round figure idea on most cars. Mostly as much husband is into cars and looks up cars constantly and discusses it. 😂

Like my parents and their neighbours were gossiping about new neighbours (who are career criminals 😆) and their 100 grand car and I was like, that's not 100k it's more like 70. I looked it up and was right.

So they may just have an idea. Wouldn't let it get to you.

She may not have looked it up though. I have a general round figure idea on most cars.

On the OP it says that Alice told her she'd looked it up, before the teeth were sucked.

@Brigittebidet

I'm disappointed this wasn't about someone googling the cost of a cutlery canteen...

I came here expecting that too!...😆