To think friend googling the cost was uncool?

[Arseholery]

I'm going to view a new car soon and was mentioned it last week to a group of friends within a conversation about someone else new car.

Saw that same group of friends last night and one of the group, Alice, mentioned the appt and said she'd had a look up and did a kind of a plumber's teeth suck about the cost.

And I said something shruggy about it is what it is.

AIBU to think she was being unreasonable?

@AdobeWanKenobi

Afternoon @GreyhoundG1rl**
I see you're well.

Alice, mentioned the appt and said
Eh? What appt? Why did you use her real name? I think I'm missing something

I think this is a complex humble brag ending in the OP 'reluctantly' telling us she's buying a Bugatti.

To look up cost - not unreasonable

To mention with judgment - unreasonable

Forget about it

I don't think it's rude. I often Google people's cars to see how much they cost 😂😂

Yep, Bloody rude, OP.

Quite normal to Google the price and have an discussion at home with your partner out of interest.

NOT appropriate to comment on your choice of spend to your face without being asked.

@Marmitemarinaded

To look up cost - not unreasonable

To mention with judgment - unreasonable

Forget about it

Crossed posts.

Exactly this.

@GreyhoundG1rl

Stop bragging and then you won't have to worry about this stuff 😂

How on earth was she bragging

I definitely do this when friends buy houses. Cars not so much because they’re usually on finance if someone has bought something flashy.
However, I definitely wouldn’t tell them I’d done it

I also Google the cost of stuff. Mostly because I'm poor and it fascinates me how much other people can afford to spend . But I wouldn't admit to it and be rude about it.

It's one thing to Google it and look the price up but another to confess to it just to be weird about it.
Does she think you can't afford it or something?

OneMama, Greyhound has already expertly been dealt with. No one can, frankly should even bother, to add any more.

@Combustablecustard

The googling wasnt rude in itself. The judgement that came after was the rude bit.

100% this. The problem isn't the information, it's the judgemental attitude!

@drpet49

* Meh, 90% of people will do the same about properties and so on, people are nosey. Big deal.*

^I agree. Don’t see what the issue is here.

The judgemental behaviour is the issue.

They'd have to know the exact model and spec to know exactly what price you were paying, there's quite a big jump between entry level and top of the range.

that alice sounds annoying
really annoying
people who tell you after the event, oh you should have gone to so and so!
aargh

@pleasedonttextmyman

Meh, 90% of people will do the same about properties and so on, people are nosey. Big deal.

See, I’m horrified you think it’s so normal most people do it. The only place in the world I’ve ever come across this idea that ‘everyone’ Googles other people’s purchases was in a village in the Midlands (of England— not originally from the UK, have lived all over the world) where the main topics of conversation were

Other people’s houses
Other people’s new kitchens
Other people’s cars
Other people’s holidays
Other people’s extensions
Other people’s salaries

It was also the only place I’ve ever lived where I actually knew someone who used to check visiting children’s school bags to see their reading book band. (She also thought ‘everyone’ did it.)

It was baffling. Those people were genuinely more exercised about how much I earned/the cost of our house than I was.

@Arseholery

It definitely wasn't bragging, it was just mentioned that I was looking at a car soon, in response to someone else's new car.

They'd see it anyway when I turn up with it to meet them soon.

Ah, so someone else has a new car and instead of just being interested in what they have you turn the conversation to how you are getting a better one.

It's rude to do this.

At the risk of being pounced upon like a mouse in a cattery, was she being judgmental, or is there any chance that she might have liked the car you mentioned, and wondered if she could afford it...and could not. Hence the comment about the cost.

While on the face of it, it sounds a bit nosey (although not rude), it might have been misunderstood.

It was also the only place I’ve ever lived where I actually knew someone who used to check visiting children’s school bags to see their reading book band. (She also thought ‘everyone’ did it.)

I also know of someone that did this and also had the children back for tea and 'played schools' with them to see where they were at compared to their own DC. Also a village in the Midlands.

@ChickenpoxQ

Alice, mentioned the appt and said Eh? What appt? Why did you use her real name? I think I'm missing something

First line of my OP states "I'm going to view a new car soon"

Alice is a pseudonym.

MN convention to designate 1st person mentioned as an A name, second person a B name...

@MrsRobinsonsHandprints

"Ah, so someone else has a new car and instead of just being interested in what they have you turn the conversation to how you are getting a better one.

It's rude to do this."

Point me to exactly where I said mine was better

How would someone know what your car costs from google?

Do you mean new like brand new?

Even then added upgrades, the spec and extra make them wildly different prices - an entry level basic model could be say £8,999 and a top spec model with added extras like sat nav, heated leather seats, entertainment system, custom paint colour, tinted windows etc... could be £20,000 for the same 'type' of car.

Do you mean a new to you but not brand new car?

Then valuation price means nothing, my car is valued at twice what I actually paid for it because the person wanted a quick sale but wasnt getting any interest so had it listed for 3 weeks and was getting frustraited and dropping the price weekly.

She’s nosy and rude.

Wouldn’t bother me at all.