Who should sleep on the air mattress?

[trainarono]

Need to solve a potential argument!

My DS and his partner are coming to stay for 4 days on Friday (Friday afternoon until Monday morning) I haven't seen him since last August as he lives 5 hours away and because of covid restrictions etc.

My two nieces are also coming to stay (11 and 9) for the weekend, our house is 3 bed and the box room is now an office, the spare room used to be DS’ room.

I knew about DS and his partner coming first but I agreed to my nieces coming as my sister will be busy this weekend.

Who should sleep on the air mattress?

Your sister is gobsmackingly rude!

As has been said, the kids will enjoy the airbed.

Well quite easily, if she doesn't want her kids sleeping on an airbed then she can find someone else to have them.

Its absolutely stupid to suggest that visiting children should get a bed and bedroom over visiting adults. It's DSs bloody bedroom!

Your sister is being a twat.

She should be bloody grateful you're having her dc last minute not bloody making demands. Silly nitwit, put her straight.

OP this is a ridiculous scenario!

I’m in my late 20’s and love kids but if I made plans to visit my parents for a long weekend, especially after not seeing them for a long time and I arrived to find my much younger cousins were also staying I’d be pretty irritated and put out if they were then given the bed over me and my husband I’d probably leave!

I think you risk really upsetting your son and his partner and all to make your sister (who sounds awfully rude and entitled btw) happy

‘You know my son is visiting. Quality time with him is important to me, more important to me than your girls. Find alternative childcare.’

@Whatamesssss

I think if it were my sister, I would tell her to fuck off.

This

If I was your child and hadn't seen you in a year I'd feel a little bit frustrated that you'd also agreed to babysit at the same time. You'll be preoccupied.

The children get the air mattress and your sister doesn’t get any more favours!

@trainarono

It'll be in the living room. My sister has said that my nieces should be getting the bed as they're children so I was checking I wasn't BU!

I think everyone has said the same thing.

Your Dsis doesn't get to dictate to you. Of course the children go in an air matress instead of grown adults

If she feels they need a bed, then she finds somewhere else as this is all you have to offer . The rest of your posts of her replies are frankly entitled and would make me said "oh well, I'll have Dnieces over another time as we have no free beds that night"

Tbh they'll be in the way anyway. Unless your DS and his DP want to see the girls. But any shenanigans I'd remind the girls it's my house and don't be rude. Guess the Dnieces will be staying up late though as you and DS chat. It won't hurt them , it's summer holidays. I'm sure it'll be fun. Leave them on their phones/ tablets and headphones that Evening if they don't want to join in nattering.

My sister and her partner are going on a ‘child free holiday’ until Sunday so she wants me to have her children. She's already asked our other sister and she said no and her childrens father has said no as he's got plans as it isn't his week
Did she book this holiday and then expect everyone else to facilitate it?

I'd be pissed off if I went to visit my parents for the first time in ages and our time together was changed to fit around my parents doing childcare.

You really ought to prioritise seeing DS and leave your sister to sort her childcare out.

@trainarono

It'll be in the living room. My sister has said that my nieces should be getting the bed as they're children so I was checking I wasn't BU!

and you said "well if you're paying for a bed, they can have one, oh wait you're not paying? then its the airbed"

@trainarono

My sister and her partner are going on a ‘child free holiday’ until Sunday so she wants me to have her children. She's already asked our other sister and she said no and her childrens father has said no as he's got plans as it isn't his week.

she told me that it's his fault for moving away so he will have to suck it up and that I can spend time with him when they go on Sunday afternoon.

your sister is an arse, and if she wants a child free holiday, then she'll have to suck it up

@Anoisagusaris

The 11 and 9 year old of course.

This. Of course.

@Aquamarine1029

Do you have no backbone whatsoever? Say NO. Put your own child first, FFS.

This.

Unbelievable.

If your son doesn't bother visiting for a very very long time, I certainly wouldn't blame him and have zero sympathy.

You are rude.
He is visiting and your sister's children SHOULD NOT be staying.

Your sister is rude.

But you are very very rude.

I would be mortified if you were my mother and I was bringing a partner home after a year and you had my cousins sleeping in the living room.

Have you absolutely no cop on.or respect for your son?

Rethink this and tell your sister to take a running jump.

Surely your sis should have worked out her childcare before booking the holiday? You’re quite within your rights to say no to her, and I would!

Her first port of call should also be her ex rather than you, although I’ve read that he’s said no.

If you’re good enough to have the girls to stay when it’s not convenient i think their only option is the air bed. If that’s not good enough, then they don’t come.

If it’s possible I’d try to see if the air bed could go in the box room so they aren’t alone downstairs (in case they’re scared) but if not it’ll have to be downstairs.

Tell your sister to fuck off. She's being a selfish cow

You should say actually this doesn't suit you as they don't have a bed, and it doesn't suit me as actually I don't want an airbed in the living room.

I really cannot believe you would have children sleeping in the sitting room and your son home for the first time inna year.

With his partner.
I just can't imagine so rude.