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trainarono · 2021-07-28T15:44:43+00:00

Need to solve a potential argument! My DS and his partner are coming to stay for 4 days on Friday (Friday afternoon until Monday morning) I haven't seen him since last August as he lives 5 hours away and because of covid restrictions etc. My two nieces are also coming to stay (11 and 9) for the weekend, our house is 3 bed and the box room is now an office, the spare room used to be DS’ room. I knew about DS and his partner coming first but I agreed to my nieces coming as my sister will be busy this weekend. Who should sleep on the air mattress?

Blossomtoes · 28/07/2021 18:26

@mewkins

Your sister really doesn't get a say in this as it's your house and you are already doing her a massive favour. Tell her that they can't come unless they sleep on the air bed.

This.

WhereYouLeftIt · 28/07/2021 18:27

@trainarono

My sister and her partner are going on a ‘child free holiday’ until Sunday so she wants me to have her children. She's already asked our other sister and she said no and her childrens father has said no as he's got plans as it isn't his week.

You are doing your ungrateful entitled sister a favour, and I would tell her that if you get any more lip off her about this then she can find someone else to take care of her children, preferably herself.

And next time she asks - say no, like everybody else. Maybe even tell her why (because you're an ungrateful entitled PITA, sis).

Have a lovely time with your son!

Jangle33 · 28/07/2021 18:28

I hope you’ve said no to your sister. But I do presume the kids go to bed first so if the air bed is in the living room they can’t really sleep on it.

lastcall · 28/07/2021 18:29

@trainarono

My sister and her partner are going on a ‘child free holiday’ until Sunday so she wants me to have her children. She's already asked our other sister and she said no and her childrens father has said no as he's got plans as it isn't his week.

The entitled one shouldn't have booked a child free holiday if she didn't have childcare.

Do you always let her walk all over you? Are her children being raised to do the same, ie, expect beds over adults?

Notaroadrunner · 28/07/2021 18:31

@trainarono

My sister and her partner are going on a ‘child free holiday’ until Sunday so she wants me to have her children. She's already asked our other sister and she said no and her childrens father has said no as he's got plans as it isn't his week.

I really hope this thread is a wind up. If my sister expected me to mind her kids when my son was coming home after a year, I'd politely tell her to fuck off. If it is real, which I suspect not, then of course the young kids sleep on an air mattress. Though that in itself will cause problems if you all want to stay up later and they have to sleep in the living room. Maybe tell your Ds as I'm sure he and his gf would prefer to stay the hell away until such a time as you can actually give them some of your time.

PicaK · 28/07/2021 18:35

I think what you are doing to your son is awful. Just horrible
Go back to your sister, retract your offer.
Right now!

CherieBabySpliffUp · 28/07/2021 18:41

I agree with the kids in principle BUT if the only place that the air beds will fit is the living room then I can't see it working.

Mummyoflittledragon · 28/07/2021 18:42

Is your sister always this entitled?

MadeForThis · 28/07/2021 18:45

Your sister is rude and entitled.

Air bed or nothing.

If I was your ds I would be pissed off that a long awaited weekend would be dominated by 2 kids lying in the living room.

You should have said no.

1FootInTheRave · 28/07/2021 18:48

I also would be pissed off if I was the ds.

Your sister is a cheeky twat.

Palava57 · 28/07/2021 18:49

Children on air bed but in the small bed room - hoping you can fit it in! 😊

MyFartWillGoOn · 28/07/2021 18:50

@PicaK

I think what you are doing to your son is awful. Just horrible Go back to your sister, retract your offer. Right now!

Ermmmm this is a bit of an over reaction! OP hasn't done anything to her son. She was checking she wasn't being UR to say to her sis that the nieces go on the air bed.

Agree with every other poster OP. YANBU to put them on the air bed

whittingtonmum · 28/07/2021 18:56

I also would pull out. Say the situation is getting too difficult with these types of demands being made regarding level of care required for your nieces. Say you just want to enjoy the company of DS without any agro. Then stick to this decision.

Disfordarkchocolate · 28/07/2021 19:00

The children but I would have said no to them staying because I'd want to focus on my DS and his partner.

Who books a child free holiday without planning childcare first?

Disfordarkchocolate · 28/07/2021 19:01

PS Your sister is not nice. I'd be cancelling.

Patapouf · 28/07/2021 19:01

Your sister is unbelievable. Tell her to find alternative childcare!

LawnFever · 28/07/2021 19:01

@trainarono

My sister and her partner are going on a ‘child free holiday’ until Sunday so she wants me to have her children. She's already asked our other sister and she said no and her childrens father has said no as he's got plans as it isn't his week.

Tough luck, you have the kids it’s up to you where they sleep. If not she’ll have to sort alternative child care.

Why doesn’t the air bed go in the office/box room? Why does it need to go in the living room?

Vanilla1Cookies · 28/07/2021 19:05

Your sister sounds like an ass.

Tell her it’s her fault her kids are on a air mattress as she wants to go away for the weekend without them.

Your DS gets the bed and I wouldn’t be having my nieces either

LawnFever · 28/07/2021 19:06

@cushioncovers

Also if you only have one spare room where will the air mattress go? In the lounge?

The OP says there’s three bedrooms, I don’t understand why the air bed is going in the living room and not the office?

MrsKeats · 28/07/2021 19:11

Can't understand why you are having the kids.
Your sister is awful and she has no right to say what your son should be doing.
Retract the offer now.

EverNapping · 28/07/2021 19:11

@CakeandGo

Could you imagine his side?! “Haven’t seen my mum in almost a year. Travelling a 5 hour journey to see her and just found out she’s also agreed to babysit 2 children for the weekend too. AIBU to cancel?” It would be a resounding “No!”

Oh, so, so much this.

girlmom21 · 28/07/2021 19:14

The kids get the air bed.
Tell your sister she can borrow it and take it on her weekend away so that she can take her kids with her, the ungrateful cow!

mygenericusername · 28/07/2021 19:15

Your sisters a cheeky bitch.

Kids go wherever you chose to put them. End of conversation.

Do you always let her bully you?

user1493494961 · 28/07/2021 19:18

Be prepared to not see your son for another year (or longer). He's going to find out where your priorities lie.

Blueskythinking123 · 28/07/2021 19:23

If my DS was coming for the weekend I would not be having my nieces. I would want to be able to go out for drinks and a meal with him and his partner.

The most well behaved DC still demand time and attention.