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Who should sleep on the air mattress?

141 replies

trainarono · 28/07/2021 16:44

Need to solve a potential argument!

My DS and his partner are coming to stay for 4 days on Friday (Friday afternoon until Monday morning) I haven't seen him since last August as he lives 5 hours away and because of covid restrictions etc.

My two nieces are also coming to stay (11 and 9) for the weekend, our house is 3 bed and the box room is now an office, the spare room used to be DS’ room.

I knew about DS and his partner coming first but I agreed to my nieces coming as my sister will be busy this weekend.

Who should sleep on the air mattress?

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RampantIvy · 28/07/2021 17:04

but I agreed to my nieces coming as my sister will be busy this weekend.

Why did you agree to having them over when your house was already full?

SD1978 · 28/07/2021 17:05

As the mattress is in the living room- if that can't be changed I'd be putting your son and partner on it- purely so that everyone doesn't have to go to bed at 9 at the latest, and silently, so the girls can sleep. Is there no way it can fit in the box room?

Wjevtvha · 28/07/2021 17:05

In theory the kids but what will you do when they need to go to bed earlier than the rest of you?

PixiKitKat · 28/07/2021 17:06

I wouldn't be happy having to use an airbed so kids could have the comfier bed, but then id also be miffed to find kids there too.
Does your DS know your nieces will be there? He may suggest changing weekends to one they won't be so it's more relaxed.

shouldistop · 28/07/2021 17:07

Of course the kids should be on the air mattress!
Your sister is bonkers and if she doesn't like it maybe she should get someone else to babysit.

BlueLobelia · 28/07/2021 17:08

Kids. they will consider it an adventure.

You are doing youtr sister a favour so she does not get to decide how you organise your sleeping arrangements unless there is actual danger or abuse involved.

teenagetantrums · 28/07/2021 17:09

Well you can't have the kids in the living room unless you want them up late .l would just take the air bed myself...DS in your room ..kids in spare room ..you in living room

MakeCrisps · 28/07/2021 17:10

The children. That's not a difficult decision at all afaic.

thecatsthecats · 28/07/2021 17:11

I would be miffed for sure if my reunion with my parents was spoiled by the presence of kid cousins, whether they're pinching my bed or not!

I'd either be refusing them or selling them a weekend of "camping" in the garden.

AnyOldLion · 28/07/2021 17:11

Kids on air bed in office.

MakeCrisps · 28/07/2021 17:12

You sister will have to look after her own children if your sleeping arrangements aren't suitable. I also agree with PP that unless DS will be excited to see his cousins, you should have said no to nieces coming that weekend.

Aquamarine1029 · 28/07/2021 17:13

Why on earth did you agree to your nieces coming? You haven't seen your son in ages and you want 2 children around? I would be very annoyed if I were your son and his partner.

Planty13 · 28/07/2021 17:13

The kids, 100%.

icedcoffees · 28/07/2021 17:20

You should sleep on the air mattress - put the kids in your room and DS in his old room.

You chose to have your nieces over and make the place overcrowded.

Marmite27 · 28/07/2021 17:22

The children as they probably will be up earlier

Sapnupuas · 28/07/2021 17:22

@trainarono

It'll be in the living room. My sister has said that my nieces should be getting the bed as they're children so I was checking I wasn't BU!
Your sister should shut the fuck up considering you're doing her a favour.
SleepingStandingUp · 28/07/2021 17:24

Surely the issue is they'll need to go to bed earlier than you'll all be out the living room?

SaltySheepdog · 28/07/2021 17:24

The kids get the roughest option, the adults get the bed

olympicsrock · 28/07/2021 17:24

Kids on air bed

GreyhoundG1rl · 28/07/2021 17:24

@trainarono

It'll be in the living room. My sister has said that my nieces should be getting the bed as they're children so I was checking I wasn't BU!
Could it not go in the box room?
Heyha · 28/07/2021 17:25

Well, if your sister doesn't like the idea of her kids sleeping on an air bed for a very short period of time, I guess she'll be picking them up at bedtime after you've helped her out for the day? Cheeky mare.

SleepingStandingUp · 28/07/2021 17:25

@icedcoffees

You should sleep on the air mattress - put the kids in your room and DS in his old room.

You chose to have your nieces over and make the place overcrowded.

I actually think this might be the vest solution, abd if DS and his partner offer to take it let them. The kids need to go to bed at a sensible time and will be up early, so you will be too
RubyGoat · 28/07/2021 17:26

The kids. An air mattress equals fun, even at that age. As an adult it's a bit of a pain, it deflates too easily, & the risk of back pain etc is far greater.

FunMcCool · 28/07/2021 17:26

I’d say the two girls should sleep on the air mattress- why is this a problem?

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trainarono · 28/07/2021 17:26

I told my sister that DS would be here and I wanted to spend time with him as I haven't seen him for almost a year, and she told me that it's his fault for moving away so he will have to suck it up and that I can spend time with him when they go on Sunday afternoon.

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