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Who should sleep on the air mattress?

141 replies

trainarono · 28/07/2021 16:44

Need to solve a potential argument!

My DS and his partner are coming to stay for 4 days on Friday (Friday afternoon until Monday morning) I haven't seen him since last August as he lives 5 hours away and because of covid restrictions etc.

My two nieces are also coming to stay (11 and 9) for the weekend, our house is 3 bed and the box room is now an office, the spare room used to be DS’ room.

I knew about DS and his partner coming first but I agreed to my nieces coming as my sister will be busy this weekend.

Who should sleep on the air mattress?

OP posts:
crimsonlake · 28/07/2021 17:43

You need to get your priorities right. Your son gets a bed and you tell your sister that you want quality time with your own family. Unbelievable.

Hercisback · 28/07/2021 17:43

Tell your sister to do one.

tillytoodles1 · 28/07/2021 17:44

Mi in-laws have a separate dining room off the hallway and my kids would sleep in there on an airbed.

sanluca · 28/07/2021 17:44

Cancel the nieces. Your sister's problem she didn't plan her child free weekemd better. Or she can just take them along.

CF

AlwaysLatte · 28/07/2021 17:47

Get another one!

AlwaysLatte · 28/07/2021 17:48

Oh I see there is a bed too, sorry. Yes grown ups in proper bed and children on the air mattress.

icelollycraving · 28/07/2021 17:50

She sounds charming. I’m quite spiky so I’d say she accepts your very kind offer or makes alternative plans pdq. Does your son want to see his little cousins? If I hadn’t spent any time with my mum for a year, I’d be a bit peeved to travel for 5 hours and have my time potentially spoilt by having to babysit.

GreyhoundG1rl · 28/07/2021 17:54

If she booked the holiday in advance of asking you to babysit, op, I don't know why you're even entertaining it.

TheUnexpectedPickle · 28/07/2021 17:57

Wow, your sister sounds like an absolute delight Hmm

icedcoffees · 28/07/2021 17:58

@trainarono

I told my sister that DS would be here and I wanted to spend time with him as I haven't seen him for almost a year, and she told me that it's his fault for moving away so he will have to suck it up and that I can spend time with him when they go on Sunday afternoon.
I would be telling her to find other childcare.

Why would you look after her kids after she's been so rude?

Sparklingbrook · 28/07/2021 17:59

@mewkins

Your sister really doesn't get a say in this as it's your house and you are already doing her a massive favour. Tell her that they can't come unless they sleep on the air bed.
I agree with this. Although i'd want to tell her that the arrangement is off and they can't come at all.
cushioncovers · 28/07/2021 18:00

Cancel your nieces. Your son is visiting for the first time in a long time. This is your time to spend with your son.

cushioncovers · 28/07/2021 18:01

Also if you only have one spare room where will the air mattress go? In the lounge?

cabingirl · 28/07/2021 18:03

The kids! They will think an air mattress is fun. Like camping.

The adults need a proper bed.

GreenTeaBlackCoffeeAndRedWine · 28/07/2021 18:09

There is nothing worse than an air mattress as an adult. They hurt my back, they inevitably deflate in the middle of the night and they just aren't comfortable at all.

However, as a kid I loved them so, although I really do think you should cancel on your sister, the kids should always have the air bed.

Dontwatchfootball · 28/07/2021 18:09

The kids. They will find it easier.

Mamanyt · 28/07/2021 18:16

The kids. Make a blanket fort, and sell it as "camping." They're young enough to find that fun.

youngestisapsycho · 28/07/2021 18:20

Your sister won’t be there, so what does it matter. Just put the kids on the air bed and don’t discuss it with your sister anymore!

CakeandGo · 28/07/2021 18:22

@BatShitBitchChops

The kids! Also, if I was your son, I would be a bit miffed if the first time I had seen my mum in a year there were kids there that weren't mine. Kids change the atmosphere, whatever anyone says. What if you wanted to go for a nice meal or to the pub etc?
Completely agree.
OverByYer · 28/07/2021 18:23

Tell your sister to get lost. Your son is your priority. He won’t be impressed having to entertain his young cousins for the weekend.

Reloxa · 28/07/2021 18:24

Glad to see a unanimous 'kids'.

Once had this discussion with my DB where he had doubt in his mind as to who should go on an air bed between his 8 year old DS and 50 year old me, his menopausal, insomniac sister on the grounds that 'children are people too'. Confused

lastcall · 28/07/2021 18:25

Your sister is ridiculous; of course the kids go on the air mattresses.

BungleandGeorge · 28/07/2021 18:25

@Mamanyt

The kids. Make a blanket fort, and sell it as "camping." They're young enough to find that fun.
I’m not sure an 11 year old would be impressed with that...
Dreamstosell · 28/07/2021 18:26

The kids should definitely be the ones on the air bed. However i don’t see how that’ll work if they’re sleeping in the living room. Can the air bed go in the study or is there room for it in your bedroom? Push your bed over against the wall to fit it in? Otherwise I think you need to sleep in the living room and the kids have your room

CakeandGo · 28/07/2021 18:26

Could you imagine his side?!
“Haven’t seen my mum in almost a year. Travelling a 5 hour journey to see her and just found out she’s also agreed to babysit 2 children for the weekend too. AIBU to cancel?”
It would be a resounding “No!”