Who should sleep on the air mattress?

[trainarono]

Need to solve a potential argument!

My DS and his partner are coming to stay for 4 days on Friday (Friday afternoon until Monday morning) I haven't seen him since last August as he lives 5 hours away and because of covid restrictions etc.

My two nieces are also coming to stay (11 and 9) for the weekend, our house is 3 bed and the box room is now an office, the spare room used to be DS’ room.

I knew about DS and his partner coming first but I agreed to my nieces coming as my sister will be busy this weekend.

Who should sleep on the air mattress?

Why would you have your DNs to stay when it will be the first time you see your DS in almost a year?? Hardly seems fair on him and his partner, having to share their precious time with you. What's the back story?

I think if it were my sister, I would tell her to fuck off.

Crossed post. Do you usually let your sister bully you like that, OP? I can't believe you're putting her needs before your own son's.

@trainarono

I told my sister that DS would be here and I wanted to spend time with him as I haven't seen him for almost a year, and she told me that it's his fault for moving away so he will have to suck it up and that I can spend time with him when they go on Sunday afternoon.

This is sounder crazier by the minute. Are they on holiday with you, or are you providing childcare as a favour for a specific event? I presumed the latter...

Your sister sounds like a charmer . Her kids get the air mattress, if she doesn't like that then she finds another babysitter.

But actually I’d squeeze the nieces on the office floor even if it’s incredibly tight for space

If that were me after your last update, they 100% would be going home after tea on Saturday, if I could do it in a way they realised it wasn't anything they had done wrong. Poor kids having a mother like that!

I really think you should prioritise seeing your own son here & have the girls another weekend

I’d be very hurt if my mum treated me this way!

@trainarono

I told my sister that DS would be here and I wanted to spend time with him as I haven't seen him for almost a year, and she told me that it's his fault for moving away so he will have to suck it up and that I can spend time with him when they go on Sunday afternoon.

Sorry but your sister sounds vile. I’d be telling her she can keep her kids at her own house and have a lovely few days with your son.

Cancel on your sister. Her sense of entitlement alone would make me duck out of this one.

My sister and her partner are going on a ‘child free holiday’ until Sunday so she wants me to have her children. She's already asked our other sister and she said no and her childrens father has said no as he's got plans as it isn't his week.

Wow your sister is being a brat!! In my family it would always be the kids to get the air bed. It doesn’t harm kids! When someone’s babysitting my kids I try and make their lives as easy as possible not as difficult as possible. I’d suggest your sister finds alternative free childcare.

@trainarono

My sister and her partner are going on a ‘child free holiday’ until Sunday so she wants me to have her children. She's already asked our other sister and she said no and her childrens father has said no as he's got plans as it isn't his week.

Guess they'll have to make room for the children after all 🤷🏻‍♀️

Tricky if you've said yes and she booked as a result, but don't make that mistake again

@trainarono

My sister and her partner are going on a ‘child free holiday’ until Sunday so she wants me to have her children. She's already asked our other sister and she said no and her childrens father has said no as he's got plans as it isn't his week.

Why on earth didn't you say "no, my son is coming to stay for the first time in a year" when she asked?

What about grandparents, can the girls not go to them?

@trainarono

I told my sister that DS would be here and I wanted to spend time with him as I haven't seen him for almost a year, and she told me that it's his fault for moving away so he will have to suck it up and that I can spend time with him when they go on Sunday afternoon.

If my sister spoke to me like this I'd be telling her to find someone else to mind her children! In any event fill them with sugar half an hour before she picks them up 😜

Do you have no backbone whatsoever? Say NO. Put your own child first, FFS.

The children would be comfortable with their parents.

I can’t really understand why you’ve agreed to have the children but yes it should be them on the air bed.

@trainarono

My sister and her partner are going on a ‘child free holiday’ until Sunday so she wants me to have her children. She's already asked our other sister and she said no and her childrens father has said no as he's got plans as it isn't his week.

So, she booked the break before finding out who could look after her children?

What are the adults going to do in the evening if the children are sleeping in the living room?

I think it's really shitty of you to have the children when your son is coming.

I'd be really pissed off if l was him and would rethink the journey.

Kids. Don't most kids love sleeping on the floor?

Your son might not be too pleased to find extra guests if he hasn't visited for a year. You should have planned things better. Either put your son off till the weekend after or told your sister no. Why allow two lots of guests when you can't comfortably accommodate them. Even forgetting the sleeping arrangements. Say you all want to go out for a meal and two kids have to tag along. It's bonkers.,

Your sister really doesn't get a say in this as it's your house and you are already doing her a massive favour. Tell her that they can't come unless they sleep on the air bed.