I went through a really difficult time around a year or so ago. I was in and out of hospital and it was quite scary and upsetting, outwardly though I was well so unless you'd been told you wouldn't have known to look at me.
My husband shares children with his ex partner. We never told the children about this situation as there was never any need to and it didn't affect them in any way.
Recently I started doing a fundraising thing for a charity regarding this particular issue and shared this on my social media just stating it was personal to me as I'd been through X and Y, I didn't go into much detail but it was the first time I'd said anything outside of my family and close friends.
Someone showed this to my husband's ex partner (I suspect I know who).
The first thing she said, rather than I hope X is okay, was to go on and on about how he should have told her, how bad it was she had to find out like that, she deserves to know things like this in case it had affected the children.
I'm so angry. Am I not allowed any privacy from this woman? This is my personal medical situation. If it had affected the children I'd have understood but this was over a year ago now (I'm much better now!) and they weren't any the wiser!
I don't know why it's bothered me so much but I feel really annoyed and upset about it.
I don't know if this makes any difference but it wasn't MH related.
YABU - he should have told her.
YANBU - it is/was nothing to do with her.