Neighbours’ DS has been crying for the past hour

[immusica]

We moved here in January, my neighbour is a man and a boy about 5/6, I've never seen his mum so I assume they live alone. I haven't spoken to him very much.

I have heard the boy crying/shouting a few times in the mornings, when his dad was trying to get him ready for school, but other than that they're quiet.

However, the child has been crying in the garden for about an hour, not sure why, I can hear him saying no (and something else which I can't make out) and his dad is asking him to come inside (I didn't think he's crying because he's being asked to go in though).

It's been over an hour now, so would this worry you?

@immusica

I wasn't asking if I needed to do anything.

I would ask the same question if it was a mum.

Do anything - as in worry.

I honestly really don't understand what part of this would worry you.

You know that his dad is there and that he isn't be ignored. What part of the situation is causing you to worry? Tantrums are a perfectly normal occurance even for the most placid and calm of children why would hearing a random tantrum from a small child be cause for concern?

My sixteen month old screamed for four hours solid last night.

The kind of screams that suggest someone’s committing a murder.

It was so hot and even though we’re detached all the windows on the street were open and the worry of him disturbing everyone else added to my pfb fear that there was something heinously wrong with him.

Nothing we could do stopped it. He eventually exhausted himself at midnight and by then I was a shell of a human being, contemplating whether best to apologise to the neighbours or just never ever make eye contact with them again.

My son has disabilities and probably cried constantly from birth to about 6 then had epic meltdowns from 7 to about 9 or 10. What you are describing would not worry me.

Wouldn’t worry me at all. Why are you asking?

@immusica

We moved here in January, my neighbour is a man and a boy about 5/6, I've never seen his mum so I assume they live alone. I haven't spoken to him very much.

I have heard the boy crying/shouting a few times in the mornings, when his dad was trying to get him ready for school, but other than that they're quiet.

However, the child has been crying in the garden for about an hour, not sure why, I can hear him saying no (and something else which I can't make out) and his dad is asking him to come inside (I didn't think he's crying because he's being asked to go in though).

It's been over an hour now, so would this worry you?

Does it worry you ?

My neighbours son is about 7ish and.he can moan and grouch for ages about something or other and often says NO I've not once been worried about anything. What do you think you should do ?

An hour is nothing!

Seriously? My neighbours youngest DD is feral. She drives me crazy. Whenever she is in the garden she shrieks and cries and demands things, it never ends. She is a simar age. I know know they are good parents she is just a very discontented child.

If it was a lone mother would you be similarly worried.

One of mine use to love opening the front door and standing outside and crying. He sometimes would add in a few "you're not fair, you're upsetting me", and I would have asked him something simple like put on his shoes, eat your food etc.

Another time he cried so much, that the ndn called in and asked was I OK, was ds OK, he was concerned, that was all because we were walking to school and we had to turn around because the wind was blowing in his face.

Sometimes kids cry for no good reason, sometimes they have these ridiculous tantrums and it can be hard to determine if they're OK as an onlooker, because kids are feckin superstars at making a big fuss over nothing.

No. Why should it?

In my day they would be lifted in the house.with much yelling and screaming of put me down !

My dc do this all the time like when their out playing and I ask them come in for dinner or wash their hands etc. It sounds like their been murdered and nothing stops them so it is genuinely best to leave them or they get worse so il just go inside and let them ride it out. They find it a lot harder as routine is out the window as much as I try because of the school opening and shutting them they have to isolate themselves for various reasons.
Kids are finding it hard I think

My DS sobbed for an hour last week because we wouldn’t let him go back to the park to pick blackberries after he had a bath and put his pyjamas on
Some kids just had a bad day and need to cry it out

As long as the parent is calm(ish),I wouldn’t worry too much

My eleven year old has severe autism and learning disabilities, he screamed like he was being murdered last week, i was washing his hair 🙄.

I was concerned because he ran outside crying, it wasn't that he was being told to go in. I also don't hear them unless the DS is crying/shouting. They weren't even in the garden last week when it was very hot. I do have children, a DD about the same age and she did used to have a lot of tantrums but now she doesn't cry unless there's a reason.

No. My 8 year old niece cries for attention when things don't go her way. Everyone ignores it till she realises her strategy isn't working.

Why don’t you just say what it is that is worrying you?

@immusica

I was concerned because he ran outside crying, it wasn't that he was being told to go in. I also don't hear them unless the DS is crying/shouting. They weren't even in the garden last week when it was very hot. I do have children, a DD about the same age and she did used to have a lot of tantrums but now she doesn't cry unless there's a reason.

I'm very surprised to see you have a child to be honest as your post reads as though you have little to no experience of small children.

4 year olds can still cry for seemingly no reason at all, they are after all still quite little. To be honest his son sounds like almost every 4 year old I've ever taught.

Sounds like he’s probably over tired. Maybe had a bit too much sun. Mine used to behave like that quite regularly when it all got a bit too much!

DGD dove under the hall runner and screamed for well over 1/2 hour because she was asked to pick something up that she had thrown down. It was impressive.

to all the frazzled parents on here.

My child sobbed hysterically for half an hour yesterday because I told him that dinosaurs didn’t used to live in houses.

I wouldn’t worry…

My son had a meltdown / hissy fit because I turned the bathroom light on before him. Kids can be right arseholes.

@immusica

I was concerned because he ran outside crying, it wasn't that he was being told to go in. I also don't hear them unless the DS is crying/shouting. They weren't even in the garden last week when it was very hot. I do have children, a DD about the same age and she did used to have a lot of tantrums but now she doesn't cry unless there's a reason.

I can understate how normal that is for small, erratic children. I had a half hour screaming fit from my 4 year old today. Why - I said he can’t have chocolate toast but can have peanut. I just left him screaming (with his peanut toast) in living room and moved myself to the garden with a coffee. He eventually stopped, ate it and came outside and was chatting his normal rubbish. Totally normal (very annoying) behaviour.