You're son won't be "abandoned" as he'll never know them, which from the sounds of things is the best option.
Any time heterosexual sex occurs there's a possibility of pregnancy.
You say you were on birth control but he also could have (and frankly should have - that's on both of you really) worn a condom
Right now you need to prioritise your sons needs and that means claiming cm.
Tbh I don't understand why you've waited this long.
Get onto cms first thing tomorrow
Your sons gran is NOT your friend she is not an ally she is representing her sons best interests
Another who's disgusted at the apologists and excusers on this thread. Wtf!!
I despair of younger people NOT USING CONDOMS
I reached age of consent at the height of the aids crisis.
Unless actively ttc I always insist on condoms being used and if the man won't then he isn't allowed near me! Ever!
AIDS has not gone away, nor has hepatitis or hpv these are all life threatening/affecting conditions. Treatment doesn't work for everyone and if you get one of these conditions it's for the rest of your life.
Other sti's can also be extremely unpleasant to deal with and can impact fertility.
Why are younger generations not using condoms now?! I really don't get it at all!
Put in your claim for child maintenance, have it deducted directly from his salary by the CMS. Although it will cost you a small amount, it will show him that you are in control, not him.
Unfortunately attachment of earnings is very hard to get. You can't simply request it there has to be a long proven track record of the nrp not paying ANY maintenance at all - it's shit and needs to be changed
I don’t think it’s fair if you ask for maintenance from him if he is not seeing the child and told you that would be the case from day 1.
Children are not pay per view!
They also don't simply cease to exist and therefore cease needing fed, housed etc just because their deadbeat father effectively sticks their fingers in their ears and go "la la la not happening"
@NewlyGranny yea I'm sceptical of what the gran is claiming too
But you wouldn’t conceive a child via a sperm donation and then expect the sperm donor to provide maintenance.
No it's not!
Legally or morally!
If cm was properly enforced and was actually a decent amount rather than the pittance that currently exists I'm betting condom use would increase significantly!
but please raise your hand if you know any man who will choose to double up on contraception when they know there is already supposed to be.
Every man I've slept with!
than I will certainly be telling my son when he is older that he needs to protect himself from these types of scenarios.
Parents should be raising their sons to be RESPONSIBLE for their own fertility ANYWAY
Remember this is MN the man is ALWAYS in the wrong.
Nonsense!
It's sad to see that women are still women's worst enemies.
Devastating and infuriating!