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To be absolutely raging at this selfish garden CF'ery?!?!

256 replies

GardenCFery · 19/07/2021 21:48

So I live in a street where all the gardens face onto each other. Not a problem usually, most people very considerate.

Tonight one set of neighbours have set up an extension cable to move their TV out of the house onto the decking and are blasting (and i mean blasting!) an action movie out for everyone to hear. Think lots of machine gun fire and everything deafening everyone. No one can have their windows open and beyond that, can't enjoy their own garden because of the noise!!!

I'm staggered by this level of entitlement and given they recently had their garden redone, suspect this is not going to be the last time. AIBU to yell at them to take it indoors once it hits 10:30pm??

OP posts:
AnnieSnap · 21/07/2021 17:57

My neighbour was driving us nuts with his new very loud power tool for hours every day when the sun was out. It’s so loud that he was wearing ear protectors! Not only couldn’t we enjoy the garden, but we had to close doors and windows. We let it go for quite some time, thinking it was a DIY job and would soon be completed. Eventually, we realised it was a new hobby 🤯 I waited until there was a lull, then called over the fence in a quiet, sad tone “(name) that is very loud you know. It’s awful over here. We have to go in and close the doors and windows”. He replied “oh, is it?” In a subdued tone. Since then, he has only done it for short periods (30 minutes or so) when it was cloudy. I think if I yelled at him, it may well have made him defensive instead of considerate. Sadly, I know this approach wouldn’t work with all neighbours. We have had the ‘other kind’ in the past and it’s miserable. I suspect the kind that would put a TV outside and play an action field loudly are the inconsiderate kind, but you never know. People can be surprisingly obtuse about what others can hear. Case in point, our neighbour with his ear defenders, who clearly didn’t mean to disturb us

Brennanlady1888 · 21/07/2021 17:57

Get on touch with the enviromental officer get his out of hours number
They may suggest that you ask tv neighbour to stop can your other neighbours help you as this is not considerate behaviour

keeptheaspidistra · 21/07/2021 17:59

Prior to the shouty shooty action movie were they watching motorsport whilst providing their own shouty sweary commentary? If so, i think we have the same selfish obnoxious neighbours

Jeannie88 · 21/07/2021 17:59

Seems like this summer is going to be another out of the window neighbouring garden etiquette. Most of us will have some nights we are a bit louder and a bit of considerate background music, others will just blast and not care.

AnnieSnap · 21/07/2021 18:01

With the ‘other type’, we once played church organ music (no we’re not that way inclined) at full volume with the speaker up against and facing the offending neighbours wall. Within minutes their noise went quiet. I guess they got the message!

knittingaddict · 21/07/2021 18:03

@Shehasadiamondinthesky

I hate people.
Me too.
wellstopdoingitthen · 21/07/2021 18:09

[quote FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop]@lactofree brilliant!

When my old neighbours were playing a loud movie on theirs once I sent my kids out with their recorders to have a noise competition 🤣[/quote]
I love this one! 😁

Yespresh · 21/07/2021 18:10

Get your music on

Mamanyt · 21/07/2021 18:11

IF this is a one-off, and IF it stops at a reasonable hour, I would heave a great sigh, and get on with things. However, if this becomes a pattern, I'd act on it. Are there noise regulations where you live? Some places have them (EVERYWHERE has them in the USA, although they vary from place to place.

IF all else fails, you might consider writing a petition. Try to have all of the other neighbors sign in, then present a copy to the homeowners and a copy to the counsel, so that they know that everyone is being bothered.

Toadstool52 · 21/07/2021 18:13

Contact the council with videos. They are being CF's

AnneElliott · 21/07/2021 18:14

I feel your pain op. My neighbours did this with the football and a whole host of mates. But at least they don't watch films!

Although one of their sons and his girlfriend had the most noisy sex session in their bedroom which is directly over the garden and with the windows open. To start with I thought the woman was in Labour and was wondering why my neighbours (the parents also sitting in their garden) weren't doing anything about it. I was honestly about to call out and ask if she needed an ambulance until the noises he made and all became clear.

oakleaffy · 21/07/2021 18:22

Catapult. Slingshot.
Small pebble.

sue20 · 21/07/2021 18:30

Oh no please don’t say this is a ‘thing’ where I live neighbours always looking to make noise in the garden this might start up round where I am. I’ll go to council if so.

pam290358 · 21/07/2021 18:34

Get yourself a petrol lawnmower. We have one and the noise is terrific. Start it up and go in !! Seriously, if this carries on it needs to be reported to the council. We put up with a lot of noisy shit from our previous neighbours until it got so unbearable we had to do something. The council were brilliant warned them about noise pollution and monitored things for a while. It stopped. You don’t say if you’re renting or you own your home, so the usual warnings apply about it escalating into a dispute and affecting any future sales.

sue20 · 21/07/2021 18:35

@AnnieSnap

With the ‘other type’, we once played church organ music (no we’re not that way inclined) at full volume with the speaker up against and facing the offending neighbours wall. Within minutes their noise went quiet. I guess they got the message!
Haha bagpipe music at about 6.00am for a few mornings??
RaptorInaPorkPieHat · 21/07/2021 18:38

Universal TV Remote.

TV Be Gone

Toomuchtrouble4me · 21/07/2021 18:40

@Hugoslavia

We have one neighbour sat laughing so loudly, whilst sloshed, under our window. And another having a massive fireworks display which comes in blasts every five to ten minutes. Normally I have no problem with fireworks, or people having a few drinks etc. However, on the hottest day of the year, when everyone has their windows open and kids are struggling to get to sleep, it's a bit much!
Laughing should definitely NOT be allowed.
AJ47 · 21/07/2021 18:40

A older gentleman I once knew had neighbors like that. He had a massive set of speakers, wall mounted, facing into the wall. When the neighbours started, he'd give them five minutes, then fired up videos of concorde Olympus engines at full thrust.

During the 'clap for carers' season, there was a running competition on our street between three houses as to who could be the loudest....went from claps and then shouting ,to pan lids, then fireworks....finally ended when one rolled out two tubas and a French horn.
But CF all the way.

ivykaty44 · 21/07/2021 18:42

If they do it again report to licenceing as they are showing a film in the street, it’s classed as broadcasting.

Take a video and send to report

www.gov.uk/showing-films-in-public

www.gov.uk/guidance/entertainment-licensing-changes-under-the-live-music-act

Report to local council

Angrywife · 21/07/2021 18:56

@dizzyrabbit

Just let them be. The film will be over soon. The amount of threads on how that go ‘aibu my neighbour is doing x, y and z in their garden’ is unreal. We all need to be a little bit more tolerant of each other imho.
When is it time for the noisy entitled bustards to be tolerant? Why is it always the quiet neighbours that have to be tolerant???
rainbowbear10 · 21/07/2021 19:11

Seems to be a lot of selfish people around that think its just them sitting out their back garden ...my neighbour used to have two radios blaring (both on different channels .) only stopped recently when my daughter put some of her music on at full blast and he must have realised how loud his was never had a problem since and he has kept his at a resonable level .

fussyhousewife · 21/07/2021 19:30

I had such a neighbour plenty of parties outside even during lockdown. Erected marquet and with 3 teens music was top of the parade so no sleep many a night. I spoke to her and she was visibly shocked that she disturbed us and for a while things returned to normal . Then all again so fed up with talking to her about it and not wishing to fall out I sold the property and moved far away. I did say goodbye to her and so we left on speaking terms. What I am saying is moving is the best solution here. Sorry to say it but it worked for me.

DoubleTweenQueen · 21/07/2021 19:33

Isn’t this what headphones were invented for, a few years ago? So you can still hear every detail, as loud as you like, without inconveniencing those around you who don’t all need/want to hear it?

Selfish b*s

RiverTamFan · 21/07/2021 19:34

DD1 has disabilities, loves music and has an obsessive nature. A tablet with a music app connected to a Bluetooth speaker and listening to the same 15 seconds of one song on repeat for a couple of hours would probably do the trick!

DoubleTweenQueen · 21/07/2021 19:36

I don’t care what anyone does on their own property (as long as it’s reasonably legal), unless it effects my home negatively.

And I’ve had years of hell with a dog breeder, so don’t get me started! :)