To not pick up the peas?

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We were invited out yesterday for sunday lunch with my MIL and her 94 year old mother. We went to a local pub, me and my partner, MIL, partners grandma and our 11 month old daughter.
I hadn't been to the pub before but wasn't impressed with it, the food wasn't great and the pub needed a good clean everywhere but we made the best of it wanting to be polite. We all had a carvery and I shared some of mine onto my daughters plate including peas. When we were done there was some mess left under the highchair (honestly not much at all, some very small bits of meat and peas) MIL's mum remarked that our daughter had made such a mess. I replied that it would only take a few minutes for them to sweep/hoover it up but she seemed horrified I wasn't going to get on my hands and knees on a pretty dirty carpet, in 29 degree heat and diligently pick up each scrap of food. I should add that the pub was almost empty too so no reason why the staff wouldn't have time to quickly tidy up. Having worked in hospitality I wouldn't have expected parents to bother about this small amount of food on the floor? I wiped down the highchair and the table where she had left gravy/mashed potato but left the, at the most 10 peas on the floor.. WIBU?

YABU, the staff are these to clean tables, you’ve chosen to take your baby so you should clear up anything from the floor. I always clean up the floor after my DS, usually once the staff spot you they say they’ll do it but it’s only polite to do it or offer!

Well - i am glad i have seen this post and the responses as i would have acted the same as you OP but i definitely won't in future! i always assumed (which i suppose i know what that makes me...) that the staff are paid to hoover and clear up, therefore i would leave crumbs or little bits of mess

Have you ever seen anyone get the hoover out mid-way through a lunch or dinner service in a restaurant?? Whilst people are eating? They'd have to get on their hands and knees instead I suspect.

[quote Lifeisaminestrone]@WorraLiberty rubbish in a top restaurant, it’s just not appropriate to go on my hands and knees but you prevent mess, by feeding them appropriately.

Similarly it’s not appropriate for other diners to hear them screaming or crying so you them to be making noise so you take them out often and as they cry.

It’s not ideal but you don’t go on your hands and knees in

You could argue it’s not appropriate to take a baby to such a place but sometimes have had to[/quote]
Again with the hands and knees. Do you not bend in the middle like most people? 🙄

A quick bend down to pick it up and no-one's going to notice unless you make a show of yourself about it.

Which to be fair, getting down on your hands and knees would

It would have taken less time to pick them up than it did writing a thead on here about it 🤷‍♀️

@MaMelon

I doubt most people would be arsed to pick up a few peas that dropped on the floor when they went for a meal

Then you'd be wrong - most people aren't dicks who expect others to clean up after them.

Exactly this

It's amazing how some people will try to pretend decent people with manners don't exist, just to try and excuse their own ignorance.

I always try to pick up The majority of mess my children have made whilst eating... in my
Mind it's common courtesy.. you sound a bit snobby to be honest as if the people working in the pub are beneath you.

When I worked in hospitality this was a common thing. The fact that neither you nor your DH cleaned up the mess that your child had made would leave an impression of a grimy family who lives in filth.

More than once or twice I've seen a table littered with rubbish and food, floor covered too and a used nappy somewhere among it all after the customers have gone. It's just so rude and gross.

I see the OP hasn't returned, hopefully she's been shamed into never doing this again.

Yeah that’s a scaddy thing to do. You should’ve cleaned up

You sound bloody delightful OP

I was a waitress in my younger years and we DESPISED entitled, arrogant customers like you.

there's often also a racist element involved,

Have to agree with this. Also a feeling of being superior to a waitress. Can't wear a cold shoulder top or have a live laugh love sign because, what would the neighbours think!! But can leave a table rotten because you paid for a meal. Scruff bags.

Cleaners are employed to clean, doesnt mean when I use the baby changing facilities I leave the dirty nappy and baby wipes on the table for them to clear up. Thank god from what I see most people are more respectful.

I always clean up food on the floor if a child I’m in charge of drops it. It’s basic manners.

Back in the day when I waitressed we always disliked the skanky chav families who left a mess under the table. Because who else would leave a mess?

I always cleared up after both my children including picking bits up off the floor. I worked as a waitress when I was a teenager and was amazed at the mess some people with young children left behind. Clearing and wiping tables is the job of staff any additional mess is your responsibility.

Yes you were BU. I always picked up after mine if they made a mess.

We always ask for a dustpan and brush and rarely have we had to do it. Even after insisting. We always leave a good tip to the waitstaff in these scenarios. It's not their job to pick up after my toddler

bit slovenly and lazy of you op. imo
no wonder the place was messy if everyone was so entitled

We always try our best to clean up after our small children. No need to touch with your hands we just use tissues to grab what ever has been left on the floor or table and stick in in the bin.

disliked the skanky chav families who left a mess under the table. Because who else would leave a mess?

The opposite in my experience of waitressing. Behaviour like that only comes from people who feel they are superior to the staff, they really really wouldn't just walk out of a fancy restaurant without apologising or a hefty tip. But harvester? Fuck em they should get a better job anyway!

Of course you clean under the high chair if child dropped food

and i dont spose the staff bring a dustpan and brush over between diners!

Former hospitality staff I always tidy whatever has been dropped if you’re able it’s rude not to.

If you had a dog and it was a dog friendly pub the dog would have eaten the peas.

I used to pick up food from the floor with a tissue, regardless of the state of the place itself. Quite often the staff would tell me not to worry but I liked to, it’s a good habit to get into when you have a toddler.