To ask if you 100% believe your partner has never cheated?

[zaraaraz]

I think cheating is very common. I was with someone I loved, would have done anything for and he left me and was declaring his love for someone else the next day. Obviously he was seeing her behind my back. My boyfriend before him was going through a divorce because his wife had cheated.

My sister met her husband when they were both with other people. My fathers first wife cheated on him.

I’ve seen a particular colleague cheat twice on his girlfriend.

It’s just very common in my opinion. I’m currently single but whosever I date next then I wouldn’t be shocked if I found out if they were a cheater.

30 years together and 100% sure he never has and never will (nobody would have him now and he is too tight to pay for it 🤣). Wouldn't have married or stayed married to him if I thought otherwise.

Believe there is a personality that is likely to cheat (male and female) when the opportunity presents itself regardless of who they are with and it is rarely a surprise (except maybe to their partners who are blinded by attraction) when they do.

In my experience it is very common and often the wives have absolutely no idea. I think people in high pressured jobs are particularly vulnerable to finding release in passionate 'no-strings' workplace affairs.

I'm pretty certain my partner hasn't. We've been together 9 years! We've lived together for 7 years and when he's not at work, he's at home 😂 even when we didn't live together I didn't have any doubts than either. He has admitted to cheating in a previous relationship (she did the same, dead end relationship) but he said he was young and stupid so yes he has cheated in the past but not in our relationship!

@Affor

I know a man whose wife was 100% sure he would never cheat. So were all his family and friends. The idea was completely laughable, he just wasn't the type to, they just knew he wouldn't.

We had an affair for a year.

How did you know so intimately what his wife, family and friends knew ?

Huge difference between what people say publicly and what they think. It is not the kind of negative lowlife personality trait anyone discusses openly before it happens, especially with/about their own spouse or family member or friend who is married. They don't want to believe it, tempt fate or be unkind by saying out loud. After it happens many feign ignorance to be polite and not cause further hurt to an already dreadful situation.

I knew my brother was the type and likely to cheat. Why on earth would I have ever voiced it to my now ex-DSIL or my family either before or after it happen?

I hate it when people say ‘cheating isn’t black and white’. It really is, if you can’t trust yourself to not cheat. Don’t be in a relationship.

100% my DH hasn't. I think if we had met at 20 he may have by now (mid 30s) and I'd have been at risk of a kiss from a stranger in a nightclub too I imagine.

However we met at 30 and settled quickly and started a family. He values what we have too much to cheat. Also being wildly truthful the 'opportunity' too is also so scarce. He isn't in a role with lots of face to face activities and he also isn't getting drunk regularly out with friends which he did when he was younger.

I was 100% certain. I would have bet my life on him. He was a big fat cheat. I will never say 100% with anyone because of him

I would never say never.. but I honestly believe 100% that my oh doesn’t cheat and hasn’t cheated..
I do think there are men out there that don’t cheat.

Its common but there are men and women who have never cheated and never will. I have a very close, mixed friendship group and without any doubt the majority haven't and wouldn't.

Most cheaters I've known recently have been women. Fed up with their husbands and met new partners. Their ex's had no idea until it was too late really.
I'm sure that my dh has never strayed, but who knows? If he had and got away with it, then I would never know.
I think it's not good to trust 💯 but just know that it's not unusual for people to do it and be aware it can happen.

Also 100% certain. He's a sensitive soul and I just don't believe he has it in him. Also, we regularly use each other's phones (if one of ours is dead, to use an app the other one doesn't have, so on and so forth) so I know for a fact he's hiding nothing on his phone.

100% certain. I know for a fact if my husband wasn't happy, he would just leave.

100% certain as well
My husband adores me

Very much doubt he has or would
I trust him 100%
I genuinely think if he wasn't happy he would tell me before he did anything stupid

And I certainly would never cheat on him which I know for definite

Previous partners I have not trusted and would not like to be in a relationship like that again

100%. He would never. If you knew him, you would understand.

Most people cheat. I'd be upset, hurt and probably a bit side swiped because it's easy to relax into enjoying a relationship. But I guess it's always possibility to fall for someone new. And some people obviously are very focused on sex, which most affairs are for. Staying faithful is a choice, and when push comes to shove a lot choose not to.

I know so many men who have that I find it pretty unbelievable to think many men haven't!

@Shoxfordian

100% certain as well My husband adores me

Smug much! I can assure you there are plenty of women who have been adored and cheated on

The people who are 100% certain because their partner is X or Y do you then think the people who end up getting cheated on are bad pickers or not very intuitive, etc?

I’m certain he hasn’t cheated, that doesn’t mean it won’t happen in the future. I would never cheat, I don’t have sex with people I’m not in a stable monogamous relationship with.

A lot of people cheat, my cousin and her wife were both married when they met, I do wonder how they then trust each other if their relationship started as an affair.

@Time40

Yep, I'm 100 per cent sure. I'd be absolutely astonished to be proved wrong ... which doesn't mean that I won't be, of course. But I'd still have my jaw on the floor.

This.

I'm absolutely certain DH hasn't.

I would be shocked to find out he had - he’s a family man, doesn’t go out at night doesn’t really have hobbies etc he also is much more in love with me than I am with him iykwim -
However, I think it’s foolhardy for anyone to state that they “know 100%” their dp wouldn’t cheat. Nobody KNOWS unless they are with their partner 24/7. There is plenty of opportunity to cheat/visit prostitures/have hookups during the working day.
So I’d never say never.
In our friendship group one couple have recently gone through an awful divorce. The man cheated and he was the absolute last person I would’ve expected (tbh honest I always though he might be gay!) but no, he had a younger woman he’d been shagging on the side for years. My Friend had no suspicions and believed they were happy and still in love.

@jinglebal

The people who are 100% certain because their partner is X or Y do you then think the people who end up getting cheated on are bad pickers or not very intuitive, etc?

Im 1

100% know my partner would never cheat.
100% know i wuold never cheat.

i knew my ex was cheating on me throughout all of our relationship, lots of issues meant i stayed and just ignored it. BUT i wasnt wrong, i trust my intuition.