To ask if you 100% believe your partner has never cheated?

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I think cheating is very common. I was with someone I loved, would have done anything for and he left me and was declaring his love for someone else the next day. Obviously he was seeing her behind my back. My boyfriend before him was going through a divorce because his wife had cheated.

My sister met her husband when they were both with other people. My fathers first wife cheated on him.

I’ve seen a particular colleague cheat twice on his girlfriend.

It’s just very common in my opinion. I’m currently single but whosever I date next then I wouldn’t be shocked if I found out if they were a cheater.

It's the same research. The PI firm has just spun it a little.

I'm curious, which study that they cite do you think actually supports the infographic designed to make you think your partner is cheating?

They've done more than spin it, there's full revolving going on.

i am 100% sure he hasnt and wouldnt. ffs he barely leaves the house and if he does its just to the shop.

Bridgespot,

I thought your post was very insightful. I hope you work things out one way or another.

I'm 100% sure I've never cheated (I'm married 20 years) but I'm not going to say I never could.

@gwenneh

It's the same research. The PI firm has just spun it a little.

I'm curious, which study that they cite do you think actually supports the infographic designed to make you think your partner is cheating?

They've done more than spin it, there's full revolving going on.

The actual stats are the same as the Yougov stats

I'm another one with a DH who never leaves the house, but I go to work so he could be entertaining someone all day I am not sure anyone, male or female, could hand on heart guarantee they wouldn't at least scratch the itch if it was offered on a plate by someone they found attractive. DH would be horrified by me saying that though, he is very principled. I don't know if I'm pessimistic or realistic!

No I think there are many people out there including myself who wouldn’t cheat. I can guarantee that.

If you cheat, you’re a twat. It’s that simple.

All these men who never leave the house . I think I'd rather be with a cheater who has a bit of pizzazz than with some drip who sits at home all day

good post @Bridgespot

@Comedycook

All these men who never leave the house . I think I'd rather be with a cheater who has a bit of pizzazz than with some drip who sits at home all day

i almost agree. sometimes i wish he would go back into an office to work. i tend to try and give him errands at the weekend!

Statistically it’s almost certain that a proportion of the “100% sure, he’d never cheat” women posting here have been cheated on.

@OnlyTheLangOfTheTitberg

Statistically it’s almost certain that a proportion of the “100% sure, he’d never cheat” women posting here have been cheated on.

Totally!

@TomPinch it says 'committed relationship' though

I think it's naive to say 100% as no one can ever be sure. I'd say I'm 98% sure with DH, and I'm 98% sure I wouldn't. But I can recognise that seemingly happy marriages can go badly wrong, and you end up being different people and do things that you wouldn't have done when you were happy. I've never cheated in a relationship before though - it's just not in my personality.

I would have bet my life that DH would never until a couple of years ago he started an EA. Cliche mid life infatuation with a younger colleague who thought he was fucking amazing!

[quote Polmuggle]@TomPinch it says 'committed relationship' though [/quote]
In the Yougov report?

Pretty certain my husband has never and will never cheat on me. He has high moral standards. I am more likely to stray and I never would either.

I believe my DH has never cheated and never would. He couldn't live with himself if he did. He's utterly bemused by people who do and can't get his head around it.

A previous boyfriend cheated on me. it was what he always did, when I found out he was seeing two of us at once he said what did I expect him to do? If it hadn't worked out with me, and he wasn't seeing someone else, he'd have been single. He thought I'd be pleased he'd dumped the other two...

[quote jinglebal]@TomPinch would you have if the crushes reciprocated? I'm mean if Tom Hardy wanted to proposition me I would find it hard to say no 😆[/quote]
@jinglebal

I may draw a huge target on myself here...

I like to think that I kept the crushes very well hidden until they passed. But I actually think they were both interested. One of them made a pretty direct offer.

I just didn't react. My non-reaction was completely instinctive, and the moment passed.

If you had asked me a year ago, I would have said never. He is not the sort of person, I had every confidence in that.
I was really wrong.

I don't think mine could be arsed at the moment!

Cheating is common but doesn't happen in every relationship. I have never cheated, and I believe 100% my partner hasn't. I have no reason to suspect he has so would be unfair on him to have doubts anyway.

I don't think cheating is always black and white though. I think most people are capable of cheating in certain situations. I am not excusing or justifying it, but I can understand why it happens sometimes. Obviously I would be heartbroken if it happened to me.

I found out completely by accident. There's a guy where I live - close knit community. He and his family portray a very happy marriage and happy life, they support the community in various fundraising events and are highly regarded. He's been having an affair with my neighbour for the last year - at least. This weekend he's wished his wife off to london. Pictures all over social media. Very smug. It's giving me the rage!!!! I feel so sorry for his poor wife.

Tell the wife

I 100% believe my husband has never cheated. He's too kind and honest and has too much integrity.

I wish I had an ounce of that as I cheated on him.