Cheeky fucker texting my dh

[Mojitoqueen]

Dd has a friend at school. I arranged a play date for her and her friend. Turned out I was working so dh picked up the girls and took them out. We’ve never met the girl or her parents before.
Dh said the mum asked him in for tea but he declined. They chatted at the door. Her husband works abroad.
Dh works away from home down south, we are up north. He’s home at weekends.
After the play date she texted dh the usual thank yous.
She’s texted dh today and asked if whilst he’s down south if he could meet her brother and get a box of her things in his car to bring to our home so she can pick up.
Dh replied and said he was four hours away from her brother so won’t be able to do it.
She has since texted him again with approx distances from train stations etc.
I’ve told dh I don’t want a relationship with her, I’ve never met her and it was just to let the kids play. I don’t want her texting my dh for favours and have snapped at dh wanting to be the nice guy and help out, he thinks it’s funny but I’m not happy she’s texting my dh.

Aibu to tell him to stop replying to her?
I now feel uncomfortable arranging anything again.

@OhDearMuriel

She's a complete piss-taker already and you hardly know her. She won't take no for an answer!? People like this are usually trouble. It's a complete no no her texting your DH - she's clearly got no boundaries. I'd have absolutely no hesitation in fucking her off.

I'm with this. And this:

Typical nasty mumsnet responses. Every fucking time. And 'you sound unhinged' is just a fucking vile thing to say.

Deeply unpleasant thread. I never think twice about the numerous women who text DH, both colleagues and friends. Of course in most people's world that's fine. But I agree there's something 'off' about this. She's messaging a near stranger out of the blue demanding favours: that's strange in itself, especially when the favour isn't even necessary and it would be easy to simply have a courier deliver the parcel.

He's said no and she's still pestering: a person she barely knows. Muriel's right: she has no boundaries and people like this do invariably end up being more trouble than they're worth. If he is revelling in the attention to wind her up, I'd also suggest he needs to grow up.

As to what you do about it I don't know, but agree that interfering with your partner's phone isn't it. But I'd not be even slightly happy if my DH handled this kind of situation in this way. YANBU.

YANBU What a cheeky chancer she is! Do you have her number? I know you said he picked up the girls, but you arranged it. So to arrange it you would have her number, right?

If so, I seriously you shut this down right now by sending her a text of your own. Something like
"Seriously? We don't even know you, and you are pressuring for things even going as far to google train stations for my husband to meet your demand? You are coming across as a cheeky chancer. Here is the details of a courier company (insert website for courier company), please contact them and leave us alone."
Alter message as you wish but I would suggest that be the basis of it. His laughing and engaging is making it worse, and if you can shut this shit down yourself since he won't, please do it.

@EmergencyHydrangea

I remain in awe.

@MilesOfSand

Lots of ‘cool girls’ on this thread for us all to admire.

😂

[quote MilesOfSand]@GreyhoundG1rl

I’m just crushed.[/quote]
Really bloody silly, bless you 😂

@MilesOfSand

Lots of ‘cool girls’ on this thread for us all to admire.

You ‘admire’ cool girls? Why, if you’re using the term pejoratively?

Why can't she arrange a courier to collect and deliver

[quote FlaminEckVera]@Mojitoqueen Of COURSE YANBU. And anyone saying you ARE, would be reacting exactly the same as you if the same thing happened to them, so ignore them putting you down and dismissing your worries, and calling you 'jealous' - they would ALL be pissed off by what's going on.

She is a CF, but it also sounds like she fancies your DH a bit. The fact he thinks it's funny shows him to be a bit of an arsehole to be honest. He is enjoying your discomfort and the fact you are upset about this. I think you should start getting over-friendly with a local single man, and see if he thinks THAT'S funny.[/quote]
ahem.. no, talk for yourself.

May I ask how long you've been married for? How's the relationship going? Because you sound like so much fun

@Notmoresugar

Block her on his phone.

Really?

is revelling in the attention to wind her up, I'd also suggest he needs to grow up.

You have no idea that he’s ‘revelling in the attention’.

It sounds like he finds the silly bint’s antics funny and is laughing. At her.

Yanbu op. You really aren’t.

having to deal with wifey's tantrums would push anyone to wind her up frankly...

I think you need to grow up and stop being so possessive. He has been asked to do a favour, he is saying no and why

No drama apart from you

OP, not sure why everyone is telling you to stay out of it - your DH clearly involved you.

I would get more involved tbh albeit tell DH in advance what you were doing. ‘Hi [school mum], DH said you were looking to get some stuff. I have heard good things about X courier - you could try them?’

@PersonaNonGarter

OP, not sure why everyone is telling you to stay out of it - your DH clearly involved you.

I would get more involved tbh albeit tell DH in advance what you were doing. ‘Hi [school mum], DH said you were looking to get some stuff. I have heard good things about X courier - you could try them?’

She'd sound like his Mum.

Seriously though, yes she’s cheeky. It’s not great that your husband is teasing you with it, if he is. It would be great to be bulletproof and have full tryouts if your partner. But in the real world, your feelings are human.

*full trust!

Er ok, thanks @GreyhoundG1rl !

@ThroughThickAndThin01

Yanbu op. You really aren’t.

I’m honestly amazed at the number (admittedly low) of women on this thread, who’d seemingly be threatened by such a socially clueless, weirdo CF.

This woman is a sad case. No more, no less.

Have a modicum of faith in your own self, that your DH’s head wouldn’t be turned by such a sub-standard specimen.

She might as well carry a huge banner saying I am a CF. Get involved with me at your peril.

How old is your daughter? I’m presuming quite young given “playdate”. So what I think is unreasonable is that you let your young daughter go to get friends house having never met the mother and having no intention of.

I want to know what's in the boxes.

@MilesOfSand

Er ok, thanks *@GreyhoundG1rl* !

Sorry, Miles

There was less drama about the box at the end of Se7en

If the box is manageable enough for your DH to carry it (in her opinion) then surely it wouldn’t cost that much to send it with one of the many parcel delivery firms operating?
She’s trying it on… and your DH is playing along🙄
If you help out this time, I bet there will be other favours needing doing.
Real 💯 CF