People who don’t do online ordering but expect you to.

[BelleClapper]

Had yet another message from a family member while I was at work asking if I could order X item from X shop. I ignored it because I was busy. I then got a follow up text this morning saying ‘don’t worry if you’re too busy, I can try to get it instore if it’s in stock’.

I asked why they don’t just set up their own account and got a reply about already having too many passwords to remember. Wtf.

They do have a smart phone and use the internet so it’s not that. Requests are a few times a month, more around family birthdays etc.

DH is also guilty of this, he messages me links to eBay items rather than set up his own eBay/PayPal account. I forced him to make his own Amazon log in last year because it was weekly requests for me to order stuff.

I might be in a particularly bad mood today but I’m finding it really fucking irritating. Yes it may only take me a couple of minutes but I resent it.

AIBU to just say no to it from now on? The recent one has tipped me over because I’ve worked 52 hours in the last 7 days and the person asking doesn’t work. Im a little bit at breaking point and this ‘small favour’ request has broken me iyswim.

Of course you should tell them to F off!

It takes longer to faff about with links than it does ti "check out as guest"

YANBU I do it for my mother just because she's very bad with technology/internet etc but adults who just don't want to remember a password? fuck that

even my grand-mother manages internet and online shopping perfectly well.

If people are struggling, I would have sympathy, but sheer laziness? Nope CF.

When you respond no, try to avoid using the word 'sorry' as you haven't actually done anything wrong by refusing to be their slave any longer.

I must admit the password comment really irritated me. I mean, your phone literally saves the password for you

This person is also a constant messenger, including voice messages (I work in a busy, noisy pub) and tends to bombard me if I don’t reply.

I suppose I just feel I’m being a bit petty to say no to spending five minutes helping them. But actually why should I.

@Tractordiggerdump

Of course you should tell them to F off!

yip 🤣

I couldn't tell you why some people do this, but I agree 100% that it's bloody selfish and annoying.

Why on earth would it be 'easier' to

1. Text/ phone you multiple times.
2. Travel into town to buy something.
3. Go to the trouble of finding what you need online, and then have to remember to ask someone to bloody order it for them or to send them the link.

instead of taking 5 mins to set up an account for themselves ??

It really does defy logic. It's lazy, selfish and entitled behavior which sends a clear message that a) They are too 'important' to be bothered with the 'details' e.g passwords etc. and b) Your time is so much less important than theirs.

If you have a few people all doing it to you, I'd be sending out a bloody group text along these lines tbh. (But worded more diplomatically than this)

I'd pop them on mute and let them bombard you. Don't read any of them.

Tell them you don't remember your password either

@arethereanyleftatall

I'd pop them on mute and let them bombard you. Don't read any of them.

I would love to do that, but I know from experience they’ll just start calling DH out of concern for me.

And if I say I’m taking a break from WhatsApp I suspect it will be phone calls next.

Suggest a password manager app like LastPass

And then stop ordering for them

My Mil used to be like this it was bloody tedious. Then lockdown happened and miraculously she was able to navigate the complex world of an online shop. I’ve barely heard from her since. Bliss.

What an absolute pain in the backside! I assume they then transfer the money to you, do that's another thing for you to keep track of? I would reply, with a link to the website and tell them how easy it is to do it themselves.

YANBU. I get the same from a family member. It’s a pain - the items are on my account, my credit card, mine to return. Sometimes I could get them directed to said family member but more often I had to take delivery and organise return.
In the end I told her my credit card was at the limit so I would need hers.
Strangely enough , no more requests.

Yes and no

I would do this for DH - I have the account with some platforms/stores; he has for others, so we share.

Also if the DC wanted something from somewhere where a parent has an account, we'd do that (especially ones which give loyalty points - collect them all up in one place rather than scatter across a few)

I would do it for my DMum, for whom I've set up online supermarket for her in a way she's happy to use. But she doesn't want lots of accounts, and prefers not to shop onlne, so it really is once in a blue moon.

I can't quite imagine the circumstances under which anyone else would ask me!

@BlackberrySky

What an absolute pain in the backside! I assume they then transfer the money to you, do that's another thing for you to keep track of? I would reply, with a link to the website and tell them how easy it is to do it themselves.

Oh that’s what’s even more infuriating: they message me the link! So they’ve gone as far as finding the item on line but not as far as ordering it. Whyyyyyy?

It used to be that they didn’t ‘do’ the internet, late adopters of technology, reluctantly got online when their child started school. Then some rubbish about being worried about online fraud (but it’s ok for me to be at risk??) and I’ve really just gone along with it for an easy life but since being back at work and working such long hours it’s really starting to grate.

Offer, just once, to show them how to do it. Then say no.

Elderly person or has other difficulty? Then yes I do (one relative is visually impaired and can get so far but often needs a bit of help, not all websites are easily accessible). Everyone else- definitely no!

Not elderly and no issues. I really don’t know the real reason why they won’t do it themselves, I’ve been told all sorts of different things.

I’m putting a stop to it.

My kids, my husband, my mum...

With DH I purposely use his the wrong PayPal account to pay for things so it goes in to arrears and he doesn’t ask me again 👍🏻

I would offer to help them set it up, but say you're not ordering anymore as you work 24/7

YANBU, don't do it anymore. They want you to do it as you will be the one who has to return it if they don't like it and you are the one who has to chase up money etc.

They are taking the piss.

Jesus Christ, yes! My godmother does this, down to the emailing me the Amazon link.
She's in her 70s but perfectly computer literate: has an iPad and will transfer me the money via online banking...but she flat out refuses to order stuff herself! For her own inscrutable reasons, she also refuses to have any online orders delivered to her address, so I then have to schlep round with her stuff.
She doesn't drive and I can envisage it getting worse as she gets older 😬