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Tradespeople using the loo

464 replies

JeanneDoe · 14/07/2021 09:53

Want to canvas opinions here.
We had a man over to service our burglar alarm.
It’s an annual service provided by the alarm company.
I’m WFH and my home office is above the downstairs loo.
Heard the alarm guy walking around checking out the alarm points around the house. Then heard him in the bathroom. Didn’t think there was a motion sensor in there.
He was in there for quite a while and then I heard a toilet flush.
Turns out a rather pungent bowel movement was had.
I am a bit pissed off. I know I’m unreasonable (and a bit precious) that I hate people that don’t live in my house taking a dump in my house.
But AIBU that he should have at least asked me if he could use our bathroom?

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CharlieSocial · 14/07/2021 09:55

Ugh grim

Happy36 · 14/07/2021 09:56

Realistically, where else can a burglar alarm service person go to the toilet? Your home is their workplace.

FortunesFave · 14/07/2021 09:56

He should have asked but on here you'll be called a terrible snob for worrying about it.

I personally can wait to go to the loo but some can't so he may just have not had time to ask. Think that.

Bluntness100 · 14/07/2021 09:57

This topic has been done to death.

ScreamGulpLaughandGasp · 14/07/2021 09:58

I wouldn't like it but holding in a poo all day can make you feel really ill so I'd be sympathetic. It's just a poo, we all do it
I'd be in there with the detol and marigolds the moment they left though

FourTeaFallOut · 14/07/2021 09:59

Oh no, he used your loo? ShockFlowers

Sirius99 · 14/07/2021 09:59

Sorry, but what else should they do, poo in your garden, yes maybe they should of asked, it’s a natural bodily function, you can’t always do it at home.
If they left, drove around for a while to find a public toilet, came back and charged you for their time would you have preferred that ?

tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz · 14/07/2021 10:00

To be fair many subjects on MN have.

I've not read a tradesmen using your loo for a poo thread before!

Agree that he doesn't have many options and it's unfortunate it was a ponger.

Every trades person we've had has asked though.

careerchangeperhaps · 14/07/2021 10:00

He should have asked. Tradespeople on short calls should use public loos / supermarket etc. between jobs where possible IMO, but I understand that sometimes nature calls and I'd rather he asked to use my loo than shat himself. But it's polite to ask.

GreenTeaBlackCoffeeAndRedWine · 14/07/2021 10:00

Not an issue for me. It's only poo. Yes he should of asked but I'm hardly going to say no.

Whaleandsnail6 · 14/07/2021 10:00

I suppose its polite to ask and I would if I was in someone else's house.
But then he'd be screwed if you had said no, so I can see why he may have wanted to sneak in, he may have been desperate. This wouldn't bother me really.

80sMum · 14/07/2021 10:00

I guess it would have been polite of him to ask, but surely you wouldn't have said no?

NerrSnerr · 14/07/2021 10:00

It's a toilet! It's purpose is for it to be used for people to use the toilet. Would you rather he felt uncomfortable- or went out to find a public toilet meaning the job will take longer?

toastantea · 14/07/2021 10:01

I wouldn't be able to get worked up a dour someone using a toilet for it's purpose. I see threads on this all the time and it seems to offend so many people. Toileting is one of the very most basic human needs, who cares if he took a shit in your toilet? It's not a life changing or even remotely permanent situation. I would move on.

Fiddliestofsticks · 14/07/2021 10:02

So he used a toilet for it's intended purpose? And he even flushed it?!? Call the police OP, what a bastard.

Oh.. and get a grip. Jesus christ.

Kanaloa · 14/07/2021 10:02

I mean what if he had asked? Would you have said certainly not? So it would just have been the same situation.

Unfortunate if you hate people that don’t live in your house taking a dump, but it’s not like he did it in the corner of your home office while you were in a zoom meeting.

NerrSnerr · 14/07/2021 10:02

I wonder how many people on here don't realise that their own poo stinks- they're just used to the smell so don't realise it!

Cloudninenine · 14/07/2021 10:02

This comes up all the time on mumsnet. I guess he should have asked first but I’m generally not precious about people using a toilet for its intended purpose.

Sirius99 · 14/07/2021 10:03

But, perhaps they didn’t ask for the fear of the person saying no and what to do then,

Port1aCastis · 14/07/2021 10:04

Where else was he supposed to go?? Would you rather he crapped his pants so as not to tarnish your toilet?

TheLovelinessOfDemons · 14/07/2021 10:06

I'd like to be asked.

FourTeaFallOut · 14/07/2021 10:07

Do you have to ask to go to the loo when you are at the site that you have been contracted to work, op?

Because every trades person has asked to use my loo and it feels bloody awful. I mean of course, it's a bloody loo for the people who are in the house.

Of course, if you would rather he made use of a public loo at the expense of paying him his going work rate, you should have been up front about that to begin with.

ExConstance · 14/07/2021 10:07

Ideally he should have asked but I wouldn't have minded a bit, loos are for poos.

starrynight87 · 14/07/2021 10:08

Would have been polite to ask, but not the end of the world.

SprayedWithDettol · 14/07/2021 10:09

Whilst the smell of another person’s poo is not pleasant, I have enough empathy for my fellow humans to not have an issue with them using my loo.

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