To think my sister’s children should share a bedroom?

[agorina]

Going on a week away in the UK with dsis’ family.

There are 4 ‘kids’, two of mine, and my sister’s two.

There are three bedrooms for between the four.

We used to do this holiday every year, but have not for the last two years.

My kids (!) are aged 23 (m) and 26 (m). Dsis kids are 15(m) and 17 (f).

Every other year, my youngest son, and his male cousin have shared a room. Now that my ds is 23 and has moved out etc, he’s said he’s not keen on sharing. My eldest ds gets his own room, as does my niece. My niece has already assumed that she is getting her own room.

AIBU to think that my sister’s kids should share a room seeing as they are closer in age?

"AIBU to think that my sister’s kids should share a room seeing as they are closer in age?"

Given that it's a 17 year old girl and a 15 year old boy - yes, YABVU. Either the males share, or you rent a place with more bedrooms.

Absolutely not!

The teen girl obviously gets her own. I’d say the two adult brothers should share, it would probably be less awkward for them than any other combination.

Your sons should share.

Or arrange their own accommodation?

Also… interesting first post OP.

Your children need to share OP.

@agorina

Going on a week away in the UK with dsis’ family.

There are 4 ‘kids’, two of mine, and my sister’s two.

There are three bedrooms for between the four.

We used to do this holiday every year, but have not for the last two years.

My kids (!) are aged 23 (m) and 26 (m). Dsis kids are 15(m) and 17 (f).

Every other year, my youngest son, and his male cousin have shared a room. Now that my ds is 23 and has moved out etc, he’s said he’s not keen on sharing. My eldest ds gets his own room, as does my niece. My niece has already assumed that she is getting her own room.

AIBU to think that my sister’s kids should share a room seeing as they are closer in age?

The 17-year-old girl needs her own room.

Probably makes more sense for your two kids to share, rather than your youngest to share with his cousin.

Or, as has been suggested already, perhaps you share with your own sister? Then all your kids get their own room, and the two adults (who are presumably the ones footing the cost) are equally inconvenienced.

My dd and Ds haven't shared since they were 14 and 12. There isn't a hope in hell I'd ask them to share now in their late teens. Your grown up sons should be the ones sharing.

Girl gets her own room. Boys can draw straws.

Your sons should share. No same sex teenagers should share if it can be helped.

The girl should get her own room. The boys can share in some combination. They’re too old for mixed sex sharing imo.

@Allycott did you mean to post here? I suggest you report your post and ask Mumsnet to move/delete it so you can start your own thread for better responses.

Your two share.

Or you and sister share.

It would be best for your two to share tbh. Age is less of an issue the older you become.

You should have booked more appropriate accommodation.

I often share a twin room with my 18 year old son on cheap short breaks in the UK when we stay at Premier Inns, etc. but only because he’s absolutely fine with it and we’re both able to have privacy with the en-suite.
On family holidays (husband has limited mobility so doesn’t usually come on short breaks), we always book somewhere big enough that he has his own room. We didn’t expect his older sister to share a holiday room with him once she was in secondary school, even though there’s an 8 year age gap.

'Eh let one of your sons the grown men sleep on the sofa (are they paying towards the holiday?)

@KatherineJaneway

You should have booked more appropriate accommodation.

Good point!

You don’t have enough bedrooms… did this not occur to you when you booked?

23 + 26 year old share, 15 and 17 year old get their own rooms.

Next year book a bigger place.

Your boys should share.

@KatherineJaneway

You should have booked more appropriate accommodation.

Snap.

Girl gets her own room. Boys flip a coin or draw lots to decide. No way would I expect a 17 yo girl to share a room with any male unless emergency or unplanned etc.

I think 23 and 26 yr olds should share seeing as they are brothers and same sex

Obviously the two oldest should share since they are the closest males in age.