To think my sister’s children should share a bedroom?

[agorina]

Going on a week away in the UK with dsis’ family.

There are 4 ‘kids’, two of mine, and my sister’s two.

There are three bedrooms for between the four.

We used to do this holiday every year, but have not for the last two years.

My kids (!) are aged 23 (m) and 26 (m). Dsis kids are 15(m) and 17 (f).

Every other year, my youngest son, and his male cousin have shared a room. Now that my ds is 23 and has moved out etc, he’s said he’s not keen on sharing. My eldest ds gets his own room, as does my niece. My niece has already assumed that she is getting her own room.

AIBU to think that my sister’s kids should share a room seeing as they are closer in age?

No. None of them should share. They're too old. Find a bigger house.

You’ve got 3 boys and 1 girl, all of an age to need/prefer a room to themselves.

The girl gets a room to herself.

Then either the brothers share, or you draw a ballot. Why should your 26 year old get his own room, after all? Unless he’s paying his way?

Boys draw straws. Girl gets her own room.

I still can't get passed the fact that your adult children want to go on a
family holiday with you. I agree with PP that they should either share or pay for own separate accommodation.

I don't see why your two can't share. That's the most sensible option to me. Yes, they're adults, but they're brothers.

Boys fight it out for single room with Rock Paper Scissors

My sister and I are in our 30s and we've been on trips to see relatives where we have to share a room and it's really a non issue.

Your sons obviously should share.

You havent mentioned if there are any dh's and if they are going.
If your sister was single for example, her dd could share with her.

Otherwise i agree with others. The girl gets her own room. The boys fight it out between themselves.

Next time get somewhere with extra bedroom.

If you didn’t expect the girl and boy to share in the past then why would you think they should now just because your son is older? It’s not their fault he moved out.

Oh and why on earth can"t two brothers aged 23 & 26 share?! DH has shared hotel rooms with his brother/cousins/friends as an adult in his 20s and 30s on stag dos, a wine weekend, a blokes Oktoberfest trip etc. Its not a big deal.

Your two sons should share. That's glaringly obvious. They'll be staying up late drinking and suchlike.

Did the "kids" get any input into what sort of accomodation was being booked? Seems a bit strange to book what you have done, given the ages of all involved. Is money tight?

Surely a reverse

Your sons should share and if they don’t like that they can book their own accommodation given they are adults. I’m surprised you even have to ask!

I really don’t think you, with two boys, have the upper hand in this argument in any way, shape or form, OP.

Nice try, coming on here, Mumsnet, to try to win support.

As the only girl, she is right to assume she doesn't have to share with any of the others.

This has to be a reverse right?

So you want two rooms for your kids whilst sis gets one? How is that fair? Unless you’re planning to pay extra?

I’d have been uncomfortable as being someone asked to share if I was any one of those ‘kids’. However if it is a squeeze I think a 26 yr old, and possibly even a 23 yr old, could contribute a bit towards a place with enough bedrooms?

The girl should not have to share.

The boys and men can sort the rest between themselves or not go if they’re the adult two

Are we talking sharing a bed or simply. Room? I understand people not wanting to share a bed at that age but a room? If they want to go, they share or pay for their own.

Are you and your sister both single or are DHs going? You two could share!

I’d have booked different accommodation that suites more people really or left some of the older kids at home if people didn’t want to share.

@Nayday

Surely a reverse

Agreed.

But on the off-chance… if I were the 17yr old girl who faced sharing a room, I’d be staying home thanks all the same.

Agree in this case two males share, to ensure the female has her own room

Could you share with your sibling, OP to free a room for these independent DC or are you already? Odd you think the siblings of different sex should share instead of your two DC of the same sex??

@Chattercino

I still can't get passed the fact that your adult children want to go on a family holiday with you. I agree with PP that they should either share or pay for own separate accommodation.

2 lads in mid 20's, you think they'd be on hol together not with their mum 😄