To think my sister’s children should share a bedroom?

[agorina]

Going on a week away in the UK with dsis’ family.

There are 4 ‘kids’, two of mine, and my sister’s two.

There are three bedrooms for between the four.

We used to do this holiday every year, but have not for the last two years.

My kids (!) are aged 23 (m) and 26 (m). Dsis kids are 15(m) and 17 (f).

Every other year, my youngest son, and his male cousin have shared a room. Now that my ds is 23 and has moved out etc, he’s said he’s not keen on sharing. My eldest ds gets his own room, as does my niece. My niece has already assumed that she is getting her own room.

AIBU to think that my sister’s kids should share a room seeing as they are closer in age?

I take it at least one of your sons has said he’s not going unless he gets his own room?

Tent in the garden (if not an apartment) for the two Ds in their twenties or two tents if they don't like sharing?

Niece; own room
Nephew; own room
Your two sons; share
Your sons are near in age and adults/brothers, why would you expect your niece/nephew to share?

Wtf

A teenage girl should not be expected to share with her brother or adult male cousin. The boy and men have shared before, let them work it out between themselves who shares. Your two DSs could share, or the eldest with his cousin for a change.

if I were the 17yr old girl who faced sharing a room, I’d be staying home thanks all the same.

This. But I also think it's a (tedious) reverse.

You seriously expect a 17 year old female to share a room with her 15 year old brother. You are being extremely unreasonable if so.

Your 2 adult sons should share a room and not with their young male cousin.

Your sisters kids should get a room each!

The girl needs her own room.

With those ages and your sister having a son and daughter, I think your 2 sons should share a room.

The age gap between your youngest and her son is wide so unless they both wanted to share, not ideal. And I think a 17 year old girl would ideally have some privacy and not have to share with her 15 year old brother if there's a choice.

This. But I also think it's a (tedious) reverse

Oh, FFS, you’re probably right-I hadn’t thought of that.

If it’s a reverse, OP…. nobody cares.

@Boood

I take it at least one of your sons has said he’s not going unless he gets his own room?

I don't blame him either to be honest.

Seems as though mum and sister arrange this family holiday.

I have to say at 23/26 faced with a week sharing a room on a holiday with my mum and aunt, I'd rather not go. They're a bit old for this.

Reverse?

Why don't you just get a place with more rooms? Probably too late now but surely you would have considered this before?

Neice definitely gets own room. Then whoever of the boys are most comfortable either closest in age or more likely the 2 brothers share.

It’s not about who “should” or that two siblings of opposite sex shouldn’t be made to for the week. It about a massively entitled attitude of both you and your eldest DS. Unless he is financially contributing to “earn” his separate bedroom?

CF, of the most entitled degree, from your side.

Actually you should share a room with your sister, then all the “kids” can have their own rooms.

I don’t think it’s a reverse, some people are this entitled.

Reverse, right?

Also can 23 year old not just say to his brother, "I don't want to share with our cousin he is a kid, so we should probably share" I would share with my sister in our 40s nice novelty as we no longer live together.

If your 26 year old has assumed he gets his own room because he always has I suspect that is the easiest thing to change.

Also you have booked the same holiday you often book, any change to the normal arrangement should have been discussed before booking. Now it really should be resolved within your family's allocated space.

Reversy percy?!

@Iloveacurry

Actually you should share a room with your sister, then all the “kids” can have their own rooms.

Actually, if this is genuine: do this.

Your boys can share, and your sister's two can have a room each as they are different sexes.

So are you coming back to your thread @agorina?

If not, we can assume you’ve realised you’re being ridiculous and don’t want to show your face.

Or, you’re waiting to make a dramatic reappearance to announce this is a reverse. 🙄

Is this a wind-up? Of course the two male adult brothers should share. Any other room sharing combination would be bonkers

Your sons should share.