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'Where Are They Now' if AIBU threads?

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MolyHolyGuacamole · 12/07/2021 14:06

Do you even find yourself suddenly remembering a particular scenario, and wondering where the people involved are today, if the behaviour is still carrying on, did she ever LTB, etc?

Even if the thread had a resolution to the scenario, if things ever repeated again?

The one that came into my mind vividly today was about a woman who'd gone to collect her child (believe it was a DD) and came home to find that her husband had left the key in the door on the other side meaning they couldn't get in, and despite being able to see 'D'H in the window and signalling to him, he refused to come and open the door as he was on a work call? From memory they were left waiting for about an hour and DD had to wee in the garden.

I remember feeling so outraged for her, and find myself wondering now if it was just a one off or if the bastard has continued doing shitty things to them.

Any other ones that have left an impression?

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Bbq1 · 13/07/2021 11:33

@RedToothbrush My apologies, I got mixed up and made a mistake there🤦

Veronika13 · 13/07/2021 11:36

Yes, I often think of OpheliaRose, her husband left her and their twins for a work colleague. OP was a devoted SAHM and completely blind sighted, she was with the partner since uni so her was her first love.

I still remember when she posted she saw her husband change his profile fb photo of him and his new partner, and how it broke her.

This OP's sadness just really got to me. I do wonder how she is and hope she is much happier now.

DrSbaitso · 13/07/2021 11:37

I recently bumped a zombie from 2017 because I was reminded of it by something that happened in real life and I was curious about what had happened. I got some scolding for doing it, as expected, but OP did come back and gave the outcome.

Veronika13 · 13/07/2021 11:38

The other two that stayed with me- a lady who found out during her wedding that her new husband cheated on her. She was messaging us from her hotel alone.

And another one where OP's husband left and their young daughter grew close to the OW and told her mother she prefers to live with her dad and the OW. The pain must have been awful - of not only losing your husband but also your child.

Cocopopsss · 13/07/2021 11:41

What was so great about EatShitDerek? All her posts are deleted now…

SVRT19674 · 13/07/2021 11:48

The first thread I read was this woman who seemed to have a controlling husband and she was writing her posts crying her eyes out hysterical on the bedroom floor with him sort of lurking somewhere in the house, and I remember thinking wow. Her spelling is perfect, no typos (mn does not allow editing) and her separation of the info into paragraphs is perfect. I still remember she sounded believable except for her perfect writing. When I am angry or nervous I get typos I can´t believe I made. I have tried to find that thread by I think it got taken down. It was a very interesting novel actually.

x2boys · 13/07/2021 11:50

@Cocopopsss

What was so great about EatShitDerek? All her posts are deleted now…
I think because she was very different to most mumsnetters, she was quite young, admitted she enjoyed alcohol, smoking etc lived on benefits (for a time) some mumsnetters took her to heart There was a name change once though and it was very interesting to see the diffent responses to her
Annonymiss123 · 13/07/2021 11:58

The other two that stayed with me- a lady who found out during her wedding that her new husband cheated on her. She was messaging us from her hotel alone

That's awful Sad - and one that I hope was a troll!!

Alipali29 · 13/07/2021 11:58

I remember the one where the op found out her husband was taking money from their savings to buy class A drugs and she said she was going to divorce him. She'd been having a rough time with him for ages as they had been doing counselling before she found out about the drugs. Anyway, a few months later some posters were having a go at her as they felt she hadn't left him (maybe from reading other posts of hers), she then became defenceless and said she had left him but still calls him dh on mumsnet 🤔
I always wonder if she actually really did leave him!

PinkTonic · 13/07/2021 12:02

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SunnyPinkField · 13/07/2021 12:05

I remember one from a few years ago, a woman's bf/DH had taken her young baby from her & she had to go & visit them at the MIL house every day, or something similar... The MIL came across as utterly evil. The poster was really struggling with her MH (unsurprisingly) & trying so hard to get her child back.

Vague details but it was just one of those threads that touched me, I felt for her so much. I had it on watch for ages but don't remember there being an update.

armanted · 13/07/2021 12:20

ThornAmongstRoses What a brilliant update! Thankyou.

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Jengnr · 13/07/2021 12:32

@Ilikeknitting

Not RTFT but I remember a lot of these so far.

I loved one lady who wrote so eloquently about her husband. He was a nerd when they met and hadn’t realised he’d blossomed into a full on Viking style hunk. He had a prosthetic leg and she’d hide his leg when he napped. I laughed so much at her writings.

Sadly I don’t remember her name and I think it was a few years before I actually got around to joking MN.

She was great. Her thread was called ‘Apparently I’m dead’ or something similar.
MyFartWillGoOn · 13/07/2021 12:33

@ThornAmongstRoses

Another one is where the op's sil had convinced fil to sell his house, give the money to the sil to buy a bigger house and build a garden studio for him to live in..

This one was me Smile

FIL pulled out of his house sale about a week before contracts were due to be signed as he finally realised what a big, big, stupid mistake he was making. This obviously meant he didn’t end up coming to live with us which we were grateful for.

So he’s now living in a near empty house after selling all his furniture. My DH is still no longer speaking to his sibling. SIL’s pregnancy never materialised.

Not a very exciting update but that’s what ultimately happened Smile

Fantastic update! I also often wondered if your poor FIL ended up far from anywhere in a cabin!

So great he had second thoughts and saw the light

armanted · 13/07/2021 12:41

I'm another one who misses ShatnersWig, a very sharp poster.

FayeFayeFayeFayeFaye · 13/07/2021 12:43

There was a thread in Relationships years ago where a lady was in a horrifically abusive relationship - he wouldn't let her eat proper food and she had to steal leftovers from the bin when he was asleep or at work.

She updated about a year later to say she'd married him, then dropped off the face of the earth

I remember the OP too. I couldn’t believe it when she came back to say she had married him. I wonder what happened. Didn’t she have a baby too?

I also remember the OP who’s cans of KA drink were being stolen out the fridge at work by a pregnant lady for her morning sickness. But she stole the OP’s drink everyday and never brought her own, and it was apparently the only thing that helped!

Some of the replies were nuts, telling the OP she should buy a 4 pack and share with the woman stealing her drink! Rather than telling to her buy her own bloody drink!

RandomMess · 13/07/2021 12:44

@ThornAmongstRoses

That is such a great update, so glad FIL woke up and realised he was being stupid.

whynotwhatknot · 13/07/2021 12:49

Why do people keep saying softzilla was a troll was never deleted never proved wrong

also the gardener story the poster has just come on to say it was true

Yes some things sound ridiculous but dating the gardener/builder?

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MolyHolyGuacamole · 13/07/2021 12:51

However, the one I remember is a lot more trivial. The OP's nephew was to be a page boy, and the OP's sister or SIL was threatening to let him dye his hair green before the wedding, not after. OP wasn't happy at the idea, because photos, but never came back to update.

This is what I mean! Petty ones that for some reason just stick in your mind

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MolyHolyGuacamole · 13/07/2021 13:09

@itcouldhave

Threads like this demonstrate exactly why people troll MN with ridiculous made up shit. There are numerous threads listed on here which were blatantly trolls or posters desperately embellishing to keep attention, yet everyone laps it up then begs for more then wonders why MN is full of fake CFs, parking and bullshit neighbour/PIL threads.

However, I suppose it’s marginally less awful than the misery tourism on here.

‘Ooh, I’d love to know what happened to that woman whose DH was abusing her!’

‘OP, is there any update? Has he punched you in the face again? Please tell us!’

I agree that (apart from the DV ones), anything over dramatic has me Hmm but it's the one like the ironing board and penis beaker that have me chuckling from time to time.

I suppose those could have been trolls too, but they don't take up too much bandwidth and they make me laugh.

In fact, the other day I thought of doing a 'where's my remote' post Grin

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mafted · 13/07/2021 13:24

I always wonder what the deal was with Artandco. There was always loads of her posts which didn't quite add up and eventually she was outed as a troll on a thread which I annoying missed.
It was all pretty low key though.
Mostly just smug replies on threads about how the DC were always perfectly behaved, as babies they just played happily on a white rug and had the odd breastfeed while she worked full time from home, they had a one bed flat in central London was always immaculate with all white decor. I think she once had a thread about moving to a scandi lodge which was off grid for a summer.

However she also frequently posted some really good advice on car seats and a few other topics.
I don't know why but she really sticks out I guess I wonder how much of her life was true, I remember random details like she posted about paying £15 a pair for her kids pants and had a bell tent and full kit for it with sheepskins and wool mattresses.

x2boys · 13/07/2021 13:29

@mafted

I always wonder what the deal was with Artandco. There was always loads of her posts which didn't quite add up and eventually she was outed as a troll on a thread which I annoying missed. It was all pretty low key though. Mostly just smug replies on threads about how the DC were always perfectly behaved, as babies they just played happily on a white rug and had the odd breastfeed while she worked full time from home, they had a one bed flat in central London was always immaculate with all white decor. I think she once had a thread about moving to a scandi lodge which was off grid for a summer. However she also frequently posted some really good advice on car seats and a few other topics. I don't know why but she really sticks out I guess I wonder how much of her life was true, I remember random details like she posted about paying £15 a pair for her kids pants and had a bell tent and full kit for it with sheepskins and wool mattresses.
Yes I remember the thread she was outed on quite entertaining.
catinboots21 · 13/07/2021 13:31

David and Caroline. Well that was fucking weird wasn't it?