'Where Are They Now' if AIBU threads?

[MolyHolyGuacamole]

Do you even find yourself suddenly remembering a particular scenario, and wondering where the people involved are today, if the behaviour is still carrying on, did she ever LTB, etc?

Even if the thread had a resolution to the scenario, if things ever repeated again?

The one that came into my mind vividly today was about a woman who'd gone to collect her child (believe it was a DD) and came home to find that her husband had left the key in the door on the other side meaning they couldn't get in, and despite being able to see 'D'H in the window and signalling to him, he refused to come and open the door as he was on a work call? From memory they were left waiting for about an hour and DD had to wee in the garden.

I remember feeling so outraged for her, and find myself wondering now if it was just a one off or if the bastard has continued doing shitty things to them.

Any other ones that have left an impression?

@RavenT

Happy to confirm trickytreelou is still around on MN, new name, and has the relatively quiet life now she always wanted.

DS is 8 and recently showed me how to access WiFi on holiday.

Two rescue cats passed at the grand ages of 18 and 19. Single, kept house, same job, never see or hear from Chunt.

Now owned by a young rescue tabby who calls all the shots.

Thank you to those who thought of us.

RIP cats (I remember their names but won’t say 😀). Lovely to know you’re both well and happy.

@Vanishun

In answer to one question upthread, Maryz was one of the brilliant long-term posters who was banned because of her posts on the feminist boards.

I remember Maryz but not much about her. What sort of things was she saying?

@Drovememad

I remember one (wasn't a member then so didn't comment). It was a mother whose child had passed away very recently from a genetic illness, her second child was dying. This all happened within two/three weeks, yet she was posting regular updates on MN. She was as relaxed as anything, in the face of total devastation.

She got called out on it, it was shocking unbelievable.

That was Fixing. MNHQ were disgustingly slow to take those threads down when she was clearly a troll.

@Trudij123

I often wonder about the lady who had inherited ( i think) some woodland, but the neighbours to it had fenced it and claimed it as theirs…

This was Twittlebee (I think) and unfortunately she lost her premature son around the time this all happened so rightly her focus turned to that

I know the wonderful woolly hugs group knitted him a lovely memory blanket which she cherishes and I believe has now had another baby.

[quote Bbq1]@RedToothbrush[/quote]
Huh? Why have you tagged me?

@DrSbaitso "I remember Maryz but not much about her. What sort of things was she saying?"

IIRC, just expressing her PROTECTED belief that biological sex is real 🤷🏼‍♀️🤨

[quote dianebrewster]@DrSbaitso "I remember Maryz but not much about her. What sort of things was she saying?"

IIRC, just expressing her PROTECTED belief that biological sex is real 🤷🏼‍♀️🤨[/quote]
Yeah - if you don't go on the boards much you won't know, but a whole bunch of activists on other sites like to report key usernames over and over and over. Eventually getting them deleted enough times and banned.

Even really long-term good faith posters like Maryz.

[quote dianebrewster]@DrSbaitso "I remember Maryz but not much about her. What sort of things was she saying?"

IIRC, just expressing her PROTECTED belief that biological sex is real 🤷🏼‍♀️🤨[/quote]
Well many people on here say the same (everyone knows it). Why would that have got her banned? I've said the same lots of times.

The mysterious bathroom with the noise like a night clicking on and off from the other side of the wall just after the light in the bathroom itself went on -- was that ever solved?

Yes, this one. I'm glad I'm not the only one.

If it's the same post, the person uploaded an audio visual clip of the it. (Which was the mechanism of the bathroom light resetting itself after being switched on/off IMO)

@PropertyFlipper

Oh and that poster in NY - something like WannabeSuperMum or something...she was a funny one.

What was the scoop with EatShitDerek? Why are posters saying they wouldn't have been friends with her in real life? Was she particularly uncouth/rough?

If this refers to me I didn’t say I wouldn’t have been friends with her IRL. I meant I was unlikely to have met her or become friends as we didn’t have any common interests/ kids of similar ages etc. I have friends from different backgrounds but there is usually a common reason why you meet and then click with people. We were very different in terms of lifestyle and background so it was incredibly unlikely that I would have ever had the benefit of her inner thoughts if it wasn’t for MN. It’s one of the reasons I like it on here, you hear from a huge variety of people that you would probably never meet IRL Sorry to disappoint but no Mc snobbery there

Actually it was MN’ers who flagged up Riven’s posts to the press. Actually I was talking about that on another thread only the other day.

She posted a thread in desperation, and within minutes mn’ers were sharing it on social media, tagging editors of the tabloids etc. Within 24 she had the press on her doorstep and interviews on GMTV etc. But it wasn’t the press who started that it was MN’ers.

In fact I would imagine there are probably still some threads which are flagged to the press by MN’ers, but now the press get all the blame because they do lift threads.

I wonder how wardrobes and her dh are doing. She posted a thread last year when he was in ICU with COVID, and wasn’t expected to survive but IIRC her last post said he had pulled through but had a long way ahead of them all. I wonder how they are.

WRT Oliver’s army etc, to an extent I blame other posters for the fact that these troll threads run and run. Some posters are so desperate to be seen to be supportive, “signing in for duty,” and the like, that they refuse to see that it’s clearly fake. After all, who posts on MN while in an ambulance on their way to a hospital? Or tells their child that mumsnet is routing for him…

If people just left these threads alone a lot of those kinds of sinister trolls would never get off the ground.

I remember when I was new to MN, before Christmas 2011 I think, a lady posted about how she only has £30 to 'do' Christmas for her 3 DC. She was offered the usual advice (sell stuff on eBay, take in ironing, etc) and a few posters offered to send her stuff like board games their DC had grown out of. Her backstory (leaving an abusive relationship, trouble with benefits) resonated with me and I offered to send her some stuff of DD's that she hadn't used (a few books/colouring sets/DVDs). She DM'd me her address and I packed the stuff up but being quite close to Christmas was busy and couldn't get to the post office immediately. She started sending me messages asking when to expect the parcel and what exactly was in it - at this point I began to get a little bit . When I hadn't posted it after 4 or 5 days she got quite nasty, lots of capslock and telling me I was a liar and I'd let her down like everyone else had, I'd ruined Christmas, all incredibly dramatic. In the end I took the stuff to a charity shop and avoided MN for a while and NC'd when I came back.

I had no idea about the concept of begging threads at the time and was so green as to be cabbage looking. Taught me a lesson about getting too invested in a thread though!

It’s one of the reasons I like it on here, you hear from a huge variety of people that you would probably never meet IRL

Totally agree @Hoppinggreen - it's not snobbery. We tend to meet & engage with a relatively limited number of people IRL - this is why I love messageboards! I learn about so many more ideas & views.

And this is not because my life is limited - my job is highly specialised & takes most of my time, so messageboards are a godsend to keep me in touch with a wide range of ideas, experiences, and views.

It’s interesting that the way trolls have been dealt with have changed over the years.

not necessarily the sinister trolls, but the ones which were potentially amusing, which people kind of knew were trolls but the threads were left to stand.

E.g. there was one who claimed her child’s hamster had been accidentally cooked in a chicken casserole, or so she thought, because the hamster had disappeared at about the same time she was cooking.

Or the one who claimed she was waterskiing while her premature twins (it’s always twins) were in NICU.

Even the most sinister trolls tended to be outed on the threads, mostly because those threads often ran and ran whereas now they tend to be deleted more quickly.

But Oliver’s army and a couple of others were definitely called out on the boards, either on the thread itself or in one instance a separate thread was started saying that posters needed to be careful not to get too over invested in threads, without naming names, but there was a particularly emotive thread ongoing on most active at the time so everyone knew who she was talking about.

Thankyou @MyFartWillGoOn - how terribly sad. I hope she’s doing ok.

There was another one I sometimes wonder about where someone had people looking through her windows but she lived down a long drive well off the road so they had no business being there? That creeped me out a bit, I’d be happy to find out that was a troll one…

@TheVampiresWife
That's awful, but sadly not unexpected when it's a scammer.
When they used to do the Christmas appeal I sent something to a poster who then gave me a load of grief for not sending anything for her kid.

Not RTFT but I remember a lot of these so far.

I loved one lady who wrote so eloquently about her husband. He was a nerd when they met and hadn’t realised he’d blossomed into a full on Viking style hunk. He had a prosthetic leg and she’d hide his leg when he napped. I laughed so much at her writings.

Sadly I don’t remember her name and I think it was a few years before I actually got around to joking MN.

@RavenT

Happy to confirm trickytreelou is still around on MN, new name, and has the relatively quiet life now she always wanted.

DS is 8 and recently showed me how to access WiFi on holiday.

Two rescue cats passed at the grand ages of 18 and 19. Single, kept house, same job, never see or hear from Chunt.

Now owned by a young rescue tabby who calls all the shots.

Thank you to those who thought of us.

Hi Lou! Lovely to read your update

@Ilikeknitting

Not RTFT but I remember a lot of these so far.

I loved one lady who wrote so eloquently about her husband. He was a nerd when they met and hadn’t realised he’d blossomed into a full on Viking style hunk. He had a prosthetic leg and she’d hide his leg when he napped. I laughed so much at her writings.

Sadly I don’t remember her name and I think it was a few years before I actually got around to joking MN.

OMG!!! I remember this now, I tried to work out if it was my ex with a prosthetic leg for a bit. Had completely forgotten about her

The poster I always think about is the one with LobsterBoy. She posts every once in a while with an update but I think she changes her name. She posted one recently and I was sad for her that the situation hasn't changed much.

No idea on poster or if indeed a troll, but there was a lady whose friend worked in her town but lived elsewhere. She let her stay at her house Mon to Fri but the friend was taking increasing liberties, calling it her room. The poster needed to get the room ready for her soon to be born child and the friend wasn't taking the hint she couldn't stay. It went on for ages but with no resolution!

Another one is where the op's sil had convinced fil to sell his house, give the money to the sil to buy a bigger house and build a garden studio for him to live in..

This one was me

FIL pulled out of his house sale about a week before contracts were due to be signed as he finally realised what a big, big, stupid mistake he was making. This obviously meant he didn’t end up coming to live with us which we were grateful for.

So he’s now living in a near empty house after selling all his furniture. My DH is still no longer speaking to his sibling. SIL’s pregnancy never materialised.

Not a very exciting update but that’s what ultimately happened